Tells you that his father had another woman in the same town and his mother, who was married to his father, didn't concern herself with it and that he's decided that he wants that type of marriage as well because he doesn't think men can be monogamous.
I was reading this month's More magazine and there was an article about how to have your best hair at 30, 40 and 50. I quickly skipped to the 40 page and read up on what I'm supposed to look out for and what I can do.
I couldn't find the current article online but this basically what they said:
Great. I have going bald to look forward to. The more I read about this aging shit...the more I want to opt out. Seriously.
This shit is for the birds. LOL! I canNOT stop laughing at this shit! Eyes bad and baldness in my future. One of my surrogate mothers told me that my face looks ashy. And I was moisturized. LOL! WITH BRONZER! LOLOLOLOL! Now...in my defense...she wasn't wearing her glasses and she's way older than me but hell. What the hell is next? I'm not taking this ish lying down.
If you know of some secret stuff to fight all of this inevitable ish coming down the pipeline...Imma need yall to speak up hell. Don't be keeping the secret of the bees to yourself. That shit is not sisterly. If you have a fountain of youth out back...ship me a bottle. Please and thank you.
Have you started noticing some of these things happening? What are you doing? Do you FOCUS on aging well? Are you eating right? Working out? Drinking water?
Dear Prudence, Our daughter "Amanda" lives in another state and has been married to "Jacob" for several years. Theirs is an open relationship, and I have always known that. My husband, however has kept his head in the sand regarding this. My daughter has a boyfriend, "Tom,” whom Jacob knows about and has a great friendship with. They are all planning to come to our home this Christmas, but my husband insists that Tom (who has visited us previously) is not welcome. Do I tell our daughter, son-in-law, and daughter's boyfriend to make other holiday plans? My opinion is that they are all consenting adults, there are no children involved, and always behave appropriately in public.
I have never read the I hate my husband post. It was interesting. I have a personal question/comment/request for you.
You've spoken on your parents' relationship before, but do you know if your mother ever hated your father? You seem to be the child that every woman in this situation wants to have. You have a great marriage and home life. You're surrounded by good people and you're living your dreams. Every mother that's sacrificing themselves in a horrible marriage is hoping that they end up with a version of you because of it. How did you get to where you are? Are all of your siblings the same way? Maybe you can post about it in response to the I hate my husband post.
In my experience my mother divorced my father before i was born. I never grew up with him. My older sister has memories of living with him, and is more bonded to him. Growing up we didn't spend much time with him because we lived on separate coasts. When we did spend time together I kept my distance. I didn't know or trust him as he was a stranger to me. He never took the time or perhaps he didn't have the knowledge of how to bond with me either. I later found out that he didn't miss a single child support payment in twenty four years. No matter what he was going through he made sure that was taken care of, so maybe that was his way of being there.
In college he taught me how to tie a double windsor knot. That lesson was like gold to me, I put a tie on my dog. I have the picture somewhere. I later realized how much I'd missed out on by not having him around. I knew that he wasn't the best father or husband and wished he'd been better in those areas, but he still had something to offer and I'd missed out. That's something that I never wanted for my own kids.
I still have to deal with the demons of my parents' past. Not having my father around magnified my mother's issues as well as magnifying his absence. I can't say it would have been better with them being married, but I think I may have benefited had he been around. I can relate to the women's fear of their husbands disappearing on the kids because that's what I've seen happen and what I've experienced. It's the question of is something better than nothing? At what point is the something more damaging than the nothing?
Well I am speaking from my own experience as a child of divorce. You're someone with a more public voice who is emblematic of what mothers hope their sacrifices will produce. Maybe that's something you can speak about.
I'm kinda weird about pajamas. I love, love, LOVE them! But I ONLY buy my favorite kind, Munki Munki, at Nordstrom when I have a gift card. I just feel weird paying $70 for pajamas on my own. LOL!
But if I have a Nordstrom gift card? Baaaaaaaaby...I'm getting a new pair of Munki Munki pjs!
I was in Marshall's recently being all casually random and saw a Munki Munki tag. I stopped in my tracks and darted over in a frantic fashion flipping through the racks. A woman noticed me moving so fast and came over.
Her: What did you find?
Me: (looking up squinting) Um...give me a minute.
Her: I saw how quick you got over here so I knew it was something good.
Once I'd made my choices...I told her the pajamas were usually like $70 at Nordstrom and they were super soft and awesome. She picked up a pair and felt them up. Then...she agreed that they felt good.
I left her there happy and excited with my find. GO ME! Munki Munki pajamas for $24.99.
Lemme hit my tap dance slide again right quick. HAPPY DANCE!
Of course I get the ones with the sock monkeys on them. Hey...what can I say...I like actual monkeys on pajamas. LOL! I know it's weird but hey...you know I'm weird.
What do you guys think of this story? I'm discussing it now and I'm confused. I mean...number one...I want to know why the girl's mom or dad didn't go with them? I mean...she's 13. My parents wouldn't have let me travel anywhere with other folks like that without them like that. But I guess it's different for all folks.
Do you think it was racial profiling or suspicious looking circumstances taken too far by the police?
Yesterday Caroline Berg Eriksen posted the picture of herself 4 days after the birth of her baby. Folks were going IN on her. I read in the Yahoo! article that one of Caroline's critics said, "This is not a selfie. This is an act of war."
I've felt sorry for the backlash Maria Kang received but I felt some kinda way when I read that on her FB wall last night. It's like...she's doing the same thing to this woman that she claims everyone else it doing to her. Why in the world would she think that's okay to do? Like...she seems to feel like this woman needs to be taken down a notch for posting that picture and isn't that the same thing she's been saying women have been doing to her?????????
I bought a bunch of Alstroemeria Sunday before last to put in a vase. I didn't want to spend a lot on flowers because I knew we'd be leaving even though I wanted flowers that day. I paid $3.99 for a bunch at Trader Joe's.
When we got home last night I was blown away at how they'd opened up and how such a cheapo pack of flowers looked so beautiful.
I changed the water today and here is how they look tonight...8 days later:
How is that even possible? I think this is going to be a standing flower for our home. Cheap, lovely and super long lasting. GO ALSTOEMERIA!
Our road trip to the Smokey Mountains was a success! Robby and his father got to golf and his mommy and I did a bit of crafting and a wee wee tiny bit of shopping. Most of all, however, was relaxing and spending good quality time with people you love. That is IMPORTANT. That is necessary for all of us to do in order to reconnect and stay connected with the very heart of who you are.
It's no secret that my mommy-in-law is one of my favorite people on earth. She is so sweet and funny and awesome. Just WAIT until you see what she and I have cooked up for Christmas decorating. It's going to be sweeeeeet!
So...that up there is our haul back from their farm. String beans, pears, pickles, preserve, pecans, etc. We even got an entire bowl of satsumas. SOOOOOOOO DELICIOUS! If you've never had fresh canned veggies and fruits, you're missing out BIG.TIME. My mommy-in-law shelled those pecans for us herself and I plan on freezing them in quart size bags today because baaaaaaaaaby...pecans ain't cheap these days. She said to let yall know that they will probably be pricey this coming year because pecan trees throughout didn't produce much. I can't WAIT to make some sweet potato pecan candy!
I'm not going to say that I'm already looking forward to our next road trip. Because I'm not. It's hard on the body. LOL! I don't want to do more than one per year and if it has to be for Thanksgiving...so be it. It was nice. VERY nice. And The Robinator was in seventh heaven and honestly...if he's happy...that makes it all great. Jaru REALLY loved the mountain air, if you can believe that! Our pampered pooch LOVED it outside!
How was your holiday? If you road tripped...when did you head back? How long did it take you? We got caught up in traffic in Tennessee so our 8.5 hour trip took us 10 hours and all three of us are SO.TIRED!
I kirked out at hour 8 and wanted to jump out the window and roll around on the ground like a 3 year old in full on tantrum mode. Yall...I was DROVE! I'm talking Oprah DROVE.
So was Jaru. I looked back at one time and almost died laughing at my poor puppy cuz he looked like he'd just given up on life.
That's funny because he was SO SAD looking when he saw our suitcase since he's used to us leaving him so when he saw me pick up one of his beds to take out too...BAAAAAAAAAAAAAABY! DUDE STARTED TWIRLING LIKE A CIRCUS DOG! TuTu and all!
But lawd jeevus...he soon realized that a road trip is not all it's cracked up to be. How folks do this on a regular I vow to never, ever know. I have a friend who does a road trip every month or so. I now think she must be a serial killer looking out for new places to hide bodies cuz yeah...no.
So we got here and when I saw the view...seriously...it was SO worth it!
I plan on sitting out on this deck as soon as someone gets rid of that snow because I'm kuntry and when a kuntry girls sees a rocking chair...rocking must be done.
My food traveled super well. We dang near needed a blowtorch to unwrap my turkey. I'd wrapped it three times in foil and then three times in Saran Wrap. I was so nervous but when we took it out...it was nice and cold to the touch. Instead of reheating the entire bird...we sliced a platter of meat and reheated that with fresh sprigs of rosemary and damp paper towels covering it. Everything was delicious and my tablescape was simple and lovely. The centerpiece traveled well too and it was super quick to lay out.
Hold on...let me side eye my mother-in-law right quick. She's talking about going forage for pine cones in the woods with the bears and the other wood stuff that lives on side of a mountain with a winding dirt road surrounded by trees. I need to remind her that we can get a bag for like $1.50 from Michael's with a 40% off coupon.
Side eye sequence complete.
How's Jaru you ask? Dude took to the cabin like water to a duck. (Why did I first type like butter to a duck cuz seriously...that was just odd. LOL!)
Dude is all good.
THAT FACE! I love my puppy.
Well...the menfolk are about to get ready to go golfing. We're going to run to town and forage for pine cones IN A STORE and fire starters IN A STORE cuz ain't nobody going out there foraging in the woods. LOL! My mommy-in-law brings me JOY! She's simply the cutest EVER!
The weather jacked our plans and we're not leaving until 3:00am Thursday morning. The Robinator made the best decision possible to keep us safe.
Totally threw all of my cooking plans out the door. Since we're not getting there until after noonish...I decided to cook my turkey and everything here and travel with it all done.
I totally LOOK like I'm going with the flow but inside my brain I'm on serious panic mode.
On a ridiculous note...I have an unnatural fear of traveling when it is cold outside. I watch too many Hallmark movies where folks get stuck in snow storms when their car breaks down. They be shivering...
Just crazy huh?
Did you get where you're going yet? Any cooking questions? Anyone making that brie?