I have someone in my life whom I love dearly and would do anything in the world for. He know this. He is also the person most responsible for some of my most passionate diatribes because he’s a very good person to argue with (cept when we start cussing…lol) since he and I usually don’t see eye to eye on anything other than the basic values of life and with much of the technology world. He, as I, loves reading about new things which will shape our future.
Our latest conversation stemmed from the difference in opinion of what is tacky or just as it relates to…hmmm…I guess, the basics of being polite.
His point is that, thank you notes, invitations, evites, etc. are not the things that are going to get you into heaven so they don’t matter in that it doesn’t affect your day to day life. My position differs in that, whereas I agree with him that you will be judged mostly regarding your DEEDS in life when it’s time you meet your maker, I also agree that there are facets of polite society in which a good part of the world has abandoned and I, therefore, feel have made a negative impact on all our lives.
In MY OPINION, teaching your child to send a thank-you note from the early stages of his life, TRAINS he/she per se on how to show respect for your fellow man which, will go hand in hand with doing good deeds. Now I’m not saying that St. Peter is going to judge one on the lack of thank you notes that you’ve sent in your life, but I AM saying that there is a direct correlation to having a healthy sense of respect for one’s fellow man if you were taught to be mannerable.
Now the part of this that I find the MOST funny is that his mother is, like me, from the old school as it relates to what should and should not be acceptable in everyday dealings with people. But I will agree that just because it’s old school doesn’t make it the only way to be.
I have a box of some of my favorite thank you notes. My favorite, favorite is from my nephew from age 2. I could close my eyes and image my sister holding his hand guiding him with the letters required to “sign” his name. This is the same young man who, at age 3, says yes sir, no ma’am without being prompted. His mother is teaching him how to respect people. She is teaching him what the world is lacking…GOOD MANNERS.
Manners are the “rules” by which we should live everyday. Holding the door for someone. Saying thank you. Inquiring about someone’s day. Helping someone carry something heavy. SIMPLE STUFF! MANNERS that you were, hopefully, taught at your mothers knee!
Everything we do in life has it’s own set of “rules” surrounding it. Politics at work. RULES. Politics in church. RULES. Politics in school. RULES. Everything. There are even “rules” surrounding your home life at your address. I know some people think it’s kissing butt to do certain things at the office. But while that person is “keeping it real,” his less talented counterpart is being promoted with a FAT raise. Is it right? No. But it’s the way of the world. Manners matter. Behaving in society with respect and dignity in a structured manner MATTERS. And I know more people that believe this than don’t.
The world today is a sad, sad place. It is what happens when we chose to turn our backs on the basics of self-respect and respect for others. IN MY OPINION.
I'm curious as to what you think.