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Love at first sight
Do you believe in love at first sight? Scientist’s study of our brain activity says that it’s quite possible.
Some people claim that it happened to them and it was like you raise your head, meet those eyes and tell yourself “That’s the one!” Psychologists say that love at first sight depends on our psychological state at the moment. In some case we won’t even notice those charming eyes and in another they can make a lasting impression on us. Also they say that it takes about 30 seconds to fall in love or precisely speaking to estimate whether the person is worth to fall in love with.
Diva in Demand Question of the Day: Can we expound this concept from first sight to first interaction?
I know that the amount of people that believe in love at first sight/interaction is small and usually chastised by those who consider themselves more knowledgeable….based on what I don’t know. The “logical” argument is that you don’t know a person well enough at first sight/interaction to fall in love with them. That leads us to the obscure question of “what is required to fall in love?” Obviously it’s different for each person. So by acknowledging that, how can we not agree that love at first sight/interaction is possible?
Why did I include interaction? To be more reasonable in my own mind. Based on MY personal set of requirements for falling in love, looks alone won’t do it. Don’t play…we all know some very attractive people that have opened their mouths and made you just fall the hell out. So I include interaction in my definition. Interaction could include the first telephone conversation or date or chance meeting. As long as whatever occurs is substantial enough for you to develop your first impression. So….that being said, is it possible for me to fall in love at first interaction? HELL YES! If the interaction includes a conversation where I’m able to discern (I really do love this MBA vocabulary of mine) that the person has a good head on their shoulders, enjoys life, has a spiritual core, and not sexually shy or repressed then it’s possible to get me hooked. Now somebody reading this right now is saying “Diva, how can you tell all that?” Y’all need to be more observant in talking to people….I’m telling you.
1) Having a good head on their shoulders is easy to tell based on what kind of game they run on you. If it’s up to par and of quality then it’s a good one. If he gives you the same lines that the pimps give the new chickenheads off the bus then you’re in trouble.
2) Ask questions and LISTEN to the answers. Bunch of selfish brawds out in the world that talk all the time. Ask him what he likes to do for fun and listen. That will tell you how willing he is to have fun and enjoy life instead of being stifled by social and personality constraints.
3) If you’re into the church then go ahead and ask him if he is. Matter of fact, ask him what church he goes to. It’s a basis question that can tell you a lot of things. Keep in mind that this is my list, so if religion ain’t your thing then don’t ask.
4) FLIRT WITH THAT MAN. See how he reacts. If it turns out that it’s not love at first sight/interaction after all then there’s still the possibility of giving him some cookie. And you can tell how open he is depending on if he flirts back and if he’s good at it. People that ain’t getting any cookie don’t know how to talk about the cookie.
Now that that’s out of the way, back to what I was saying.
People should really put more stock into the possibility of love at first sight/interaction. That is some powerful stuff. Think about it. That person got you so hooked from the FIRST meeting…..imagine what it to come and how good it could possibly be. I’m not saying that it’s destined to last or any bullshit like that. But what I am saying is that it can damn sure be good if you let it.
TRUE STORY: My grandmother moved to the “city” when she was 15. She started high school and was known as the “new kid”. My grandfather was 17. He saw her in the hallway one day (and even though he had a girlfriend) turned to his best friend and said “See that new girl with the red hair? I’mma make her my girl.” They married two years later and were married for 50 years before he passed away. Love at first sight/interaction.
PSA: Thanks Creole Princess for letting me rant on your site. For more rantings and ravings of the oh so fabulous Diva in Demand (ME) make sure to check out my blog. (Don't wanna click the word, visit me at http://divaindemand.blogsome.com). I talk about real shyt and giggles!