ROMANTICATED!

Shelly: what's your sign?

Shelly: libra>?

me: No...virgo

Shelly: robby?

me: scorpio

  why?

  i do NOT know what it means

  lol

 

Shelly: somebody sent me something

  When Virgo and Scorpio join together in a love match, these Signs that are two apart in the Zodiac are brought together. Their placement gives the relationship an intense karmic bond. The Virgo-Scorpio couple is loyal and deep, with very strong ties. Usually, this couple will stay away from crowds; they aren't too inclined to go to parties or dances, but alone they can form a very fulfilling union.

Virgo and Scorpio enjoy working together toward acquisition: Virgo wants order and Scorpio wants power. Both of these Signs are about resources, including inheritances and property. This couple is very service-oriented and known to be dependable. They like to lend a hand to a friend or to the community. Additionally, Virgo can be withdrawn -- while Scorpio is more opaque and outgoing. Because of disparity, both Signs can learn from one another if they can agree to meet halfway.

Virgo is ruled by Mercury and Scorpio is ruled by Mars and Pluto. This combination is very heated, thanks to Pluto's influence. The two Signs unite to form the basic foundation of human relationships -- Mercury's communication and Mars's passion. Mercury and Mars go well together; Mercury is about the conscious mind, and Mars is about the passion of romance. Scorpio is rambunctious and intense, and Virgo is attracted to this energy. In turn, Scorpio needs the loyalty and practicality inherent in Virgo.

The Robinator and I are often asked how we met and we rather sheepishly answer, "On the internet."  LOL!  How CHEEZY is that?  Or...how romantic?

When I met Robby I had an ad online at Love@AOL (currently Match.com).  He responded to me the weekend of Memorial Day of 2001 when I was in New York visiting a friend.  His email was funny and our instant messages were DELIGHTFUL.  I found him to be smart and very quick on his toes.  My kinda guy.  A MAJOR plus was that he was from the South.  That's what I was looking for.  A Southern boy born and bred.  Why?  Cuz we Southerner's understand the old fashioned heirarchy in male/female relationships and that's what I wanted.  Straight up.

Not saying there aren't any good Northern men because I'm sure there are...I just didn't feel comfortable with securing my future with any of the ones that I'd met.

Before I met Robby I made a list of everything I was looking for in a man.  It was looooooooooooooooooooong.  Seriously.  I had nothing but time on my hands and my list was impressive to say the least. The only thing my list negated to mention was the race.  Why?  I assumed God knew I was talking about a black guy.  I mean come on...he HAD to know right?  Right?

At the bottom of my ad were the words, "NO WHITE GUYS.  NOT PREJUDICED, ONLY PREFERENCE!" hence, the only responses I received from white guys was hate mail.  LOL!  So when I received the funny, FABULOUS email from Robby introducing himself I just KNEW he wasn't white...he HAD to be Creole.  I mean...he was darker than my father so he HAD TO BE right?  RIGHT?

My best friends and I had a LENGTHY discussion over his ethnicity.  I sent both of them his pic and we went on AIM chat and discussed that because of the last sentence of my ad coupled with his dark complexion in his pic...he HAD TO BE CREOLE!

Well...when I met him...he was a white guy.  Straight up and down.  And...I was shocked to say the least.  I mean come on...I'm from Louisiana.  We just don't DO THAT ya know?  Being the non-savvy person I am...when I finally came face-to-face with him, I blurted out..."WHY DIDN'T YOU TELL ME YOU WERE WHITE?"  To which he responded..."I thought you knew."  in that simple, matter-of-fact way  that I have come to know as truly Robby.  LOL!

Our first date...out in public... was very odd to me.  I felt like everyone was looking at us when...in actualilty...no one was paying us the slightest bit of interest.  But I couldn't shake it.  I went through all of the emotions of feeling I was betraying my race, of KNOWING my father would be disappointed in me, of idiotic "feelings" I had brought with me throughout my life as a Louisianian raised by a racist father who hated whites as well as dark-skinned blacks (now how jacked up is THAT?  LOL!).

Robby...well he took it in stride.  As he always does with everything.  When asked to this day why he responded with my little disclaimer at the bottom he replies..."I didn't read that far!"  HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!

It was  a good while before I kissed him for the first time.  I didn't know what to expect with all the stoopit stereotypes whirring in my brain.  But when it did happen...it felt like nothing I'd ever felt before.  Not because he was white...but because I'd never kissed my true soulmate before and I was unprepared for the intense shock that resonated throughout my body...but most of all...throughout my SOUL and MY BRAIN.  I knew then that he was the one.  I knew then that I'd never felt anything like that in my life and I didn't WANT to feel anything but that ever again.

Two things I have learned from the love of my Robinator.

1.  TRUE LOVE EXISTS.

2.  GOD HAS A FUNNY SENSE OF HUMOR.  LOL!  GO GOD!

I don't like it when people think that I married my husband because I'd given up on black men as the media would like us to believe all of them are lower than low.  I want everyone to know the TRUE reason my husband is my husband.  Because he is my soulmate.  My true love.  The only reason I am.

The love I have is enviable.  Hell I know this.  I know I'm lucky and Robby knows he's lucky.  Not many people recognize their soulmates when they happen upon them and it's only by the grace, beauty and blessings of God that we did.

I know you guys get tired of my saying how much I love my husband but I truly, truly do love him with all my heart and soul.  I would do ANYTHING for him and if anyone were to harm one hair on his body...there would be hell to pay.  He is the most wonderful part of me because a part of me he is.  My heart beats when his does and I reckon it's the same way with him.  We just ARE.

Not many people look at us as the "interracial couple."  They see us as Monnie and Robby.  Two people who have love and respect that is unmeasured as it is boundless.  How fricking FABULOUS is that?

We started dating in June of 2001 and became exclusive in September of that same year.  We dated long distance for a year and then lived together for a year and some change.  We were engaged for a year and we've been married since a year and a month after our engagement.  Long story short...we are not strangers to each other.  I know him and he knows me.

As I continue this journey of life...I can be sure of one thing.  That I am with who God ordained me to be with.  I am with the man who makes me whole.  Who repaired me and made it possible for me to get up everyday and try again.  Some people think it's odd...I know.  But those people make me sad for them.  For if they were in OUR home and witnessed OUR love and respect...they'd understand.  And...if they had true love in their lives...they'd recognize and not question it.

Love is love.  Either you're blessed enough to have it or you're a work in progess.  BE FABULOUS my darling friends.  Be FABULOUS!

Comments

[Leogoddess]

I love your blog even though i forget about it sometimes when i find it i'm always happy i did. I love your story and i have others friends who are happily married thanks to online dating I actually recently 3 months ago met a man online who I am totally smitten with (more than that i just dont' wanna spill). He is checking things off my list every day. I feel that if he is everything he represents he could definitely be the one for me. It makes me hopeful to hear stories likes yours, thanks.

[tee]

what did your ad say? How long did u know Robby before u knew he was "the one"? Do you think that everyone that meets their soulmates has a he-is-the-one-epiphany or do people just find someone who they like, enjoy spending time with and have shared values and make a rational decision to marry?
How long do you think is an acceptable amount of time to wait before kissing/becoming initmate with a man? I have a lot of questions about relationships and no one to ask them to

[shai]

I know I am late. I had to post because I have been corresponding with someone on the Net. Not through a dating service but my blog.

I have tried this one online dating service out of curiosity and research (I am Inspector Gadget at times,LOL) to see how it was. I talked to one guy by email and phone for awhile but never met.

How long did it take before you felt comfortable with Robby. I may have missed something but how long was before you met in person?

LOL. I like this guy to an extent. He is different and foreign. I know that my time and have fun with caution.

It feels funny meeting on the Net. What made you join the dating site and did you feel awkward going?

LOL. Yeah, I ask alot of questions. A sista needs to know if you know what I mean.

[Ali]

Somehow I missed this post way back when, and found it today - it hit home! So glad I found your blog in '06 - I'm sure '07 will be even greater for you, Robby and your love. Oh and for me too! :-)

Thanks for all your blog blessings this year Monica!

[Roycee]

Great post and I love the blog...I know I'm back into the old stuff but I loved your writing so much that I decided to go back...glad I did. This kind of unconditional love is very inspiring.

BTW...you looked beautiful on your wedding day...very happy!!! Thanks for sharing

[Dawn Brooks]

Side note: Reminds me of a Boondocks character.

[T]

Beautiful story. I always found it funny, growing up in Louisiana and having plenty of the folk the color of the inside of your hand in the family was that some of them really hate white people and are really against interracial dating when, hey, all they have to do is look in a mirror and see that it took place a lot in their own history... :)

[Tan]

What a beautiful story!

[Keelah]

WOW!

[Yakini]

Beautiful!!!!!!!!!!!

[Monica C.]

Great post! You are truly blessed! To have a happy marriage is SUCH a blessing!

[manethang]

Well, it's about time! Do you know how long I've been waiting for this story? Why u make me wait like that, Girl? I knew the punch line just from reading your blog (soul mates for sure), but I needed the details. I was ALL into it and missed my cue on a conf call at work fooling with you. (why they botherin me when I'm reading 'bout true love?...DAWG!) All I needed was some popcorn. I can't WAIT for your book to come out. Love, love love u and the Robinator. Gotta go......I'm a little misty!

[Roslyn]

I really am starting to think we were separated at birth Monica! I met my dh online nine years ago, and of course, I'm a Virgo too. I was born two days (and several years) before you! That's a great story.

[Honest]

I found my way here via Diva in Demand and you have a fabulous blog and a wonderful love story. Thanks for a great read.

[Diva (in Demand)]

I liked your post. Mushiness and all - it was a good one.

[Claudie 10]

Beautiful :o). I feel within my heart, that you and Robby are a match made in heaven. I am happy for the both of you.

[Gladys]

Your story means a lot to me. Simply beautiful! Thank you for sharing! Love has no bounds!