I'm a grown up now. Have been for a while but there are just some grown up things I'm really not all that good about.
Robby is downstairs going over our health benefits and such for next year. He keeps coming upstairs to ask me very specific questions regarding. I answer as best as I can but it's hard for me to estimate how much we need in our flexible spending account. I don't know. I say choose a nice round number. Not too thin...not too beefy. Just right. But out of all the numbers you can pick...what's considered too thin or too beefy?
I'm not too good with the mail either. We get so much. I usually stack it up on the table till the stack is too tall and topples...then I move it to a basket and then I move the basket to the office/sitting room...then eventually it gets too tall in there and not until I'm FORCED to do I file it away.
I'm not good at car stuff. I get in my truck and drive it...make sure it has gas. I don't know about the oil, tires, etc. Hell...I think it drives better when it's clean and you KNOW that's batty thinking.
I still have a lot of growing up to do. A lot! I'm so glad I have Robby. LOL!
What about you? Are you all grown up?
P.S. I was at Sam's today and this dude tried to roll up on me and creeped me out. This always happens to me at Sam's. Does anyone know if Sam's is like the new hookup place or something?
While I was off feeling sorry for myself today, my smart, sweet, beautiful friend Roslyn Hardy Holcomb got the news that would devastate any mother.
During her 20 week ultrasound, they did not hear the heartbeat of her baby. She told us quite simply by saying..."Our baby is gone."
I wasn't there for her when she first shared this tragedy because I was having a bad day.
Roz baby...I'm here for you if you need me. I am soooooooooooo hurt for you, your husband and Luke. Please don't hesitate to call if you need me. Please.
So...you know I needed to call her today because she can always make me laugh.
While she and I were talking this happened:
Grandmother: Blah, blah, blah (I don't remember what she was saying.)
Cousin: (In the background.) Mamee...do you know where my ____ is?
Grandmother: What? No. I haven't seen it. (back to me) Well how's Robby?
Me: Robby's fine, I'll tell him you asked about him. How are you feeling?
Cousin: (In the background talking to himself) Now I wonder where it could be?
Grandmother: IF YOU PUT STUFF WHERE IT GO...IT'D BE WHERE IT'S AT HELL! WALKING AND TALKING ROUND ME LIKE I GOT YO STUFF!
Grandmother: Well he kept talking shit.
Me: Imma call you back Grandmother. I love you.
GOD I LOVE MY GRANDMOTHER!
I don't feel good and I'm in a crappy mood. Not even music has even been able to shake it for me.
I've got the blues.
I had a good time for Thanksgiving but I really wish I was able to have the kind of Thanksgiving others had. With parents and grandparents and children all catching up. With a long adult table filled with food and a table for the children. With noise and football and arguing over whose cake was the best. With game playing and babies sharing a crib taking a nap. With family guests getting in where they fit it.
With my mother, father, brothers, sister, nephew and niece.
It can never happen.
I've got the blues.
I heard something this morning that depressed me. I hear stuff that depresses me every morning. This world just makes me heavy.
The closer I get to the end of my cycle the closer I get to the possibility that I'm not pregnant. Again.
Even thinking of being pregnant makes me sad. Why? My baby will never know my mother who would have been the most doting grandmother ever. We would have been hard pressed to not have her move in to make sure I was taking care of her grandchild just right.
I'm not doing what I should be doing. I know this. The trials and tribulations of starting a family have been so hard that my entire life has been in a limbo for a while now. I have dreams that I haven't moved on as well as opportunities because I didn't want to miss a beat as far as my treatments have been concerned.
I'm tired of guitar lessons but I still go.
I'm tired of doing stuff but I still do.
I'm tired of all the obvious hate in the world that's just under a thin veil of politeness.
I'm tired of the everyday routine. The habitual nuances that make my day.
I'm tired of feeling like this is it. Like nothing else is ever going to happen to me new and exciting.
I'm tired of my husband having to keep an eye on my because he's worried about me and doesn't like it when I'm sad.
I'm tired of being a burden because that's how I sometimes feel.
I'm tired of pretending I'm not dying. Cuz I am.
I know. It's the holiday crap. I know that December 13th is coming, the anniversary of my parent's death and there is nothing I can do about it. I know that it should be easier but I fear it never will be. It's why I go all out. It's why I do more than I should for the holidays. It helps me not think so damn much.
Sorry to dump on yall. Today just ain't my day.
Today just ain't my day.
What do you listen to when you're in a crappy mood?
Yall know sports isn't really my thing but when I read this...my blood started to boil.
The similarities in these two drug heads is just PHENOMINAL!
Rush Limbaugh 2003: http://www.cnn.com/2003/SHOWBIZ/10/02/limbaugh/
*SIGH* They could be the SAME DANG PERSON. Wow. Just...wow.
An internet friend of mine has been trying to have a baby since 2000 using every method known to man. She's now 41 years old and has conceived during a natural cycle. Man...that's too FABULOUS for words. I'm sooooooooooooooooooooo happy for her especially as she is an inspiration for me. She has her own little Christmas miracle and I have been grinning from ear to ear ever since I found out. GO GEMMABEAN!__________________________________________________________________
Talked to the doc today. Biopsy is Monday but ONLY after a blood pregnancy test to determine if I'm preggo or not from a natural cycle as the biopsy could possibly "disrupt" a pregnancy.
So...yall pray for my own Christmas miracle so I DON'T have to have the biopsy on Monday because I have a very...good...reason.
Please God. PLEASE.
Do you lie? Heck...I do. It's MUCH easier than telling the truth sometimes. And to be honest...I just don't want to explain myself all the time when I KNOW people are gonna ask me too many questions.
Person: Where you been?
Me: Had a doc appointment.
Person: For what? Everything alright?
Me: Just my annual checkup. Everything is A-okay.
Do I feel guilty about lying? No. Had I REALLY told that person what I went to the doctor for I'd STILL be answering questions and getting chain prayer emails from them.
Person: I've been calling you all day? Where have you been?
Me: I been gone all day and left my cellphone at home. (I just didn't feel like talking to you!)
Person: Oh okay. I was wondering.
Necessary lies. NECESSARY.
The kind of lying I DON'T get however is when the person has lied to THEMSELVES so dang much...that they actually begin to believe whatever it is they are lying about. I actually have a family member like this. Just lies for no good reason about EVERY THING...and will be so vehemently defending the lie that even though you have known them since they were yay high...hell...maybe they WERE a fighter pilot and you just forgot about it. LOL!
Or the person who lies to make their life circumstances seem so much better than it actually is. Now these are the people that TRULY kill me.
My friends fiance told me a story once about a guy he went to high school with that found him on the internet. They started emailing each other back and forth and the person painted a VERY successful life. FABULOUS right? Well, low and behold, my friends fiance had to travel for business to the area the person lived and what was found to be the truth was VERY different from what he'd shared.
In another instance I can remember this chick who had weaved one HECK of a tale wherein she was the owner of this seven bedroom house in Soho (but lived in an apartment just because) and she was going to have not one but TWO weddings, one in Fiji in February 2007 and the other wherever her fiance (the Special Agent CIA Operative Super Secret Spy) was from and all about her inherited money and her duplicate vials of Le Mer. Uh...yeah. We still laugh about this chick on the regular basis cuz it was so dang amusing! LOL!
It makes me wonder what has to be going on in your world where you have to create a whole new one? And then...it makes me feel sorry for you.
Some lies are just unnecessary and insulting. Like the weapons of mass destruction supposedly in Iraq. Nobody could ever give us proof...they just lied to us and expected we little lambs to flock behind them.
Queeny says she's going to start doing like I do and just take pictures of every dang thing. LOL. That way folks will KNOW she's not lying. We've also discussed the people who go on and on about how beautiful they are online. Okay...cool. That's simple enough. Post a pic. Stop using cartoon characters as your avatar. And then it's done and we never need to hear you say it again because we have all been awed by your beauty.
I have a friend that is now cool. Let him tell it he's ALWAYS been cool. Now we have been friends for a long time. And I was a nerd. When is the last time nerds and cool people hung together? Uh...that would be NEVER! LOL! He makes me chuckle.
Robby NEVER lies. Not even itty bitty white lies. But then again...he doesn't talk to too many people outside of the mandatory work people. He doesn't understand that some lying could prove to be a necessary evil.
What do you think? Is all lying bad? What has been an instance where you've been lied to and knew it? Do you lie? When you find out someone has lied or is lying...do you call em on it? Or do you let it slide?
Michael Richards was on the "Jesse Jackson Show" apologizing...AGAIN. Two losers swapping sorry stories over the air waves. Geez.
Number one...WHO EVEN LISTENS TO JESSE'S SHOW? HOW MANY PEOPLE EVEN KNEW HE HAD A DANG SHOW?????
Jesse Jackson is and HAS BEEN a loser of the WORST KIND for forever and well...Richards...say bruh...we ALL know you're only apologizing so profusely because Seinfeld is making you do it cuz Season 7 DVD just dropped in time for the Christmas frenzy. You don't wanna miss out on your share of the royalties you're used to do ya? Then ya better get some black people behind you WITH THE SWIFTNESS! Allz ya gotta do is find the ones who will take a "donation" and you'll be exonerated right? Lemme guess...Sharpton's next on your list. ROFLMBAO!
It's allllllllll about the money...I'm sorry...the "donation." You think we don't know that? YUP....WE DO.
Not that there's anything wrong with that. Right? RIGHT!
And he's looking soooooooooooooooooo apologetic and devastated. PEOPLE.....HE'S AN ACTORRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR! ACT. TOR. ACTOR. HE ACTS.
Better yet...maybe you should have a big barbeque with chicken and watermelon and learn how to do the bus stop. Black people will kick it with you again and this will alllllllllllllllllllll just blow over. That's the gist of what "they"are telling you right? You know who "they" are right? Sure you do. The people you're paying out the nose to right now to stereotype black people in a nice and tidy word document or powerpoint presentation to help get you through this.
"They" have this situation all wrote up in a damage control report. "They" have listed everything you need to do and everyone you should be seen with within 72 hours of the crisis. Wanna know how I know? Me and crisis management are old friends. I know how the game works. The problem here is that whoever is advising you is stoopit. Just sit down and shut up.
FLIM, FLARM, FILTH, FLIMIDY, FLARMIFARIFICAL.
Here's what I think...
It's cool to feel how you want to feel about anybody you want to feel that way about. Seriously. I have some prejudices my damn self. Me and stoopit people...we don't mix. So I feel they are beneath me. I talk about them all the time. I even go so far as to categorize their existence. Do whatchu do. Feel how you feel. It's cool and it's honest. That way you keep people out of your space you don't want in it. AND THEY KNOW NOT TO TRY AND FRIENDLY-BOB WITH YOU! It's what I do and I know first hand it works.
FLIM, FLARM, FILTH, FLIMIDY, FLARMIFARIFICAL.
**NOTE FROM AUTHOR: None of the so called "black leaders" speak for me. Never have...never WILL. AND IN MY OPINION...since Martin and Malcolm...there hasn't even BEEN a black leader who is a public figure of note. Most of them in my world have been low key people who are actually DOING...not being SEEN. IN MY OPINION.
Gimme a fuggin break.
(CreoleInDC stalking off to bed FURIOUS! I HATE STOOPIT PEOPLE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!AAAAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!)
What did yall think of tonight's episode? I'm gonna get sick to my stomach if ya boy kidnaps one of Lynette's sons. '
I don't like Gabby with anyone but Carlos.
Bree's situation is getting out of hand...it's comical...in a BAD way.
Mike...he's been arrested what...20,000 times since the beginning of the show?
And lawd...am I EVER tired of stringy haired Susan. *sigh* She jumps from man to man just too quick for my liking. Aw well...I'm not writing the show. *sigh*
Oh...and what happened to that Brother/Sister show? "Boston Legal" is soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo over.
(Anybody know why my Mardi Gras mask would be with my Christmas decorations? No? Anybody? Heck...me neither.)
Things I did today:
1. Vacuumed the goldfish that Cole decided he didn't want out of my truck (yes I know he's been gone a month now...but hey...let's not drag out old ish!)
2. Re-mulched my flower beds with black mulch. (Our FABULOUS landscapers blew away all of the leaves AND the dang mulch *sigh* Why the daffodils and the tulips are starting to sprout already????? DOUBLE *sigh* It's because of the unusally warm weather...anyone know what to do about this?)
3. Scrubbed down my concrete steps with bleach and liquid soap using a corn broom.
4. Noted that a lot of my neighbors were putting up holiday decorations because of how nice it was outside so I figured hey...whadahelz...lemme start too. So when the Robinator returned from his 10 mile run (he's training for the Mardi Gras Marathon and yes Monnie still runs from nuttin but danger! LOL!) he helped me put up the garland around the entryway along with a string of lights. For an added UMPH...I added a fake poinsetta flower to each corner of the garland.
(Note the two pair of eyes in the lower left window...ROFL!)
5. Pulled out all of the Christmas decorations (TOO MANY FOR ONE WOMAN TO HAVE!!!!!) and started planning out my decorating. WHEEE! Ya girl likes to have a bit of Christmas in every room. Yes...I have OFFICIALLY been bitten by the Christmas spirit! I've even put my lights in every window. I need to get another one of those outdoor Christmas trees for the other side to balance it out huh?
6. Read an email that made me sad way deep down. Someone who isn't over her failed marriage shared with me how very much she still hurts. Her email made me close my eyes so I could ward off her pain as there was just SOOOOOOOO much of it in her words. I haven't responded to her...don't know how. My heart hurts for her. *sigh*
7. Started freezing leftover Thanksgiving food.
Whew~! Me TIYAD!
I think I've decided I'd rather not have a new laptop for Christmas. Of course I WANT a new laptop! A new MAC one...but there is just so much other stuff I want that I couldn't get if I got a new latop...probably. Like one of those small DVD camcorders and some movie editing software. Just think of the fun I could have with those things?????
I hope Robby reads this. If he does...I hope he remembers we have a subscription to www.ConsumerReports.org so he could possibly research the Hitachi's and the Sony's if he were so inclined. I hope he also sees the significance of my having an extra battery for it and an external mic (if possible). Gee I hope he's reading. :) Yes I could use my old 8mm one...but it's too bulky to carry around, nor does it have a USB cable so I can use it with my current laptop as it has a firewire that I haven't been able to use since my last Sony laptop died it's slow and painful death last year.
Whatchall do today? Anybody else started decorating for Christmas?
P.S. One of my favorite CD's from this year was "Timeless" by Sergio Mendes. LOVE IT!
My father was evil as HELL to everyone so consequently he had no friends. He had people that SAID they were his friend..but only because of what he could do for them or because they were somehow afraid of him. I have never wanted to be that way. That said...I've always tried to be nice to people even giving them a second chance when they have shown me before that they don't respect me or my time and space.
I always go out of my damn way so nobody thinks I'm the dreaded "B" word. But you know what? I don't give a flying rat's behind anymore. I am no longer trying to be everybody's damn friend just because they need one.
Some people have me screwed up. Some people have taken to trying to USE me. Some people have decided that because I'm so blessed...so fuggin NICE...that it's okay to try and take advantage of me. Well guess what? I'm not dumb. I KNOW when I'm being used and I ALLOW it to happen only to the extent I want it to happen. I usually sit back and watch and laugh at how smart you THINK you are to get over on little ole dumb me. But then...it makes me sad way deep down. Why?
Cuz we COULDA been good friends. AND baaaaaaaaaaaaaby...I'm not dumb. No where fuggin NEAR it. You don't survive what I've survived by being a fruitcake my dear. Ya gotta be smarter than the average bear.
I'm used to hangers on. I've seen them become leeches onto other people and I keep them at arms length. I'm too old for all that. I would be perfectly fine staying at my damn house with my guy and my dogs AWAY from all the madness cuz one day soon...I'm gonna punch somebody in their dang mouth.
We all have our groupies...our hangers on. People who are only around us because of what we can do for them. These people are LEECHES and should be removed with tweezers and plucked into the toilet.
You can't be FABULOUS with leeches sucking the life outta ya. It makes you itch.
I HAVE friends. Good friends who have been with me through some seriously tough ish and have slugged it out with me. I have room in my heart and in my world for new friends...but make sure you're coming correct. Cuz I see right through your bullish and sooner or later...you're gonna hafta pay the piper.
Stoopit Imaginary Person: You taking up the flute now too? Thought it was just guitar. How's that going by the way?
Me: It was a metaphor nut....guitar's going...well...erra...I'm still going so I guess that's sumptin.
Stoopit Imaginary Person: So you didn't mean you're an actual piper? Wait...YOU DON'T HAVE RATS DO YOU? I DON'T LIKE RATS!
Me: Yes, we have rats, they're all over...you should leave if you don't like them. Sip? Sip? Damn he's fast.
P.S. And yes...when you approach me with a "network marketing opportunity"when you don't even KNOW me like that...I THINK YOU'RE A LOSER! You REALLY think I'd coral my friends to let you present the crap you're peddling to them. Geez. You don't know me AT ALL.
I love wraps. Like LOVE them. I have half a dozen really nice ones and other just okay ones.
Today I was passing by a store and saw a FABULOUS one. I went in and looked at it and saw a price tag of $139. For a FABULOUS wrap that I could use in lew of a coat (I need a dress coat) that's a good price I thought. I tried on one in a chocolate brown trimmed in fur and was about to buy it when I found out the REAL price was $699. Yeah...that's right. $699 as in WHADAHELZ?????????????
Needless to say...I took it off GINGERLY and put it back where the heck I got it from and meekly slid up outta there real quick but MAN...I can't stop thinking of how BEAUTIFUL it was.
It was kinda like this one...but it was chocolate, had fox instead of mink trim and MUCH fuller. This one is St. John...and you know how nutty St. John is...can't BELIEVE how much they want for this one. http://www.neimanmarcus.com/store/catalog/prod.jhtml?cmCat=search&itemId=prod33340080
I need to be rich. Like SUPER rich. Super dooper rich.
How do you cut off negative people that are related to you? Do you do the same thing you would do to a used to be friend? Would you go off on them, hang up or stomp off or emphasis and then never talk to them again? That would be easy to do if you never had to see them again. But what if they are going to be at your Grandmother's birthday party or your cousin's graduation? What if they share DNA with you?
I have a pretty interesting family and I love them all dearly. I don't understand a lot of the stuff they do...but I have come to accept that it's the way they are and they are never going to change. Not even a little bit. When I go home to Louisiana, I make sure I take as many of my younger cousins out to dinner as possible so I can try to get in their heads a little and I make sure I go by all of my Aunt's homes so I can give everyone a hug and a kiss and tell them how much I love them. Understand them? Uh...no. And they don't understand me. *sigh*
I used to be young and dumb (now I'm just dumb...lol) and I used to go off on family members and tell them how I really felt about them. Do you think they cared? Nope. And the only person upset later was me. Family will always be family. You can't get rid of them. Even if you run away. When something happens...they will find you.
I don't say much about anything when I visit my family. I meet all the new babies and give everyone well wishes and do whatever little thing I can in the quick weekend that I'm going to be in town. Their love and acceptance of me being "different" wouldn't be the same if I continued to let them piss me off. Instead, they respect me and look forward to spending some time with me and therein lies the charm of just saying nothing and accepting them for who they are.
You can't allienate family. You have to figure out how to do it in a way that allows there to be a chance for a better relationship later in life. Without all of the hurtful, angry words...this will be much easier to do once both sides have reflected on what they wish the relationship was like.
I don't get involved in my family's drama. They stopped telling me about what goes on day-to-day and I stopped asking. I don't want to know. Whatever I say won't mean a damn to them anyway...so why waste the energy? If I am sought out I go the distance. But I'm not looking for anything. When I have a cousin who goes off to college...that cousin knows to consider me a direct resource for everything from helping buy books or buying essentials for their first apartment. When I am asked to be the Godmother to a child...I start a College Savings Fund. I do what families should do. Support positive behaviour. If someone is acting a fool? Nothing, nada, zilch.
So I guess I just wanted to say to be careful how you go about distancing yourself from a family member. No matter what...deep down they love you...hell...you're family. They just love you in the only way they know how and a lot of times...that's by being overly critical. Everyone wants to be loved. You just need to learn how to accept different types of love. One of my Louisiana mamas cusses you out when she loves you. If she's polite to you...she doesn't like you and just wants you to leave. If she loves you...she cusses you out and then feeds you and checks on you often. I wouldn't change her for the world. She cussed me out for a good hour yesterday. I know she loves me a lot. LOL!
Robby and I both are HUGE Denzel movie fans. We pretty much don't care what the movie is about because we know it's gonna be good. Why? Cuz it's a Denzel movie.
Think about this. What actor has the kind of power he has to appeal to across the racial lines? Answer...Denzel. The diversity of the crowd in a Denzel movie always makes me smile. Perfect harmony...Denzel.
So...the movie was good. Not the best Denzel movie but not mighty quinish either. Would I watch it again? Hell...Imma hafta just so I can feel like I "got it." LOL!
We enjoyed it...like I said...it made us use our brains.
Chosen by Empire magazine as one of the 100 Sexiest Stars in film history (#77). 
Children: John David (b. April 23, 1983), Katia (b. 1987), and twins Malcolm and Olivia (b. 1991)
Son, Malcolm, was named in honor of Malcolm X.
Attended Fordham University, receiving a B.A. in Journalism.
1996 Harvard Foundation Award
In a Newsweek cover story about the biological basis of the perception of beauty, he was used as a key example in a scientific explanation why he is considered an extremely handsome man.
Chosen by People magazine as one of the 50 Most Beautiful People in the world 
According to a 1995 Premiere magazine article, Denzel confronted director Quentin Tarantino when he visted the set of Crimson Tide (1995). Quentin had done an uncredited rewrite of the script. Denzel lambasted Tarantino about his use of racial slurs in his films. Tarantino got embarrassed and wanted to move the conversation to a more private area. Denzel said, "No, if were going to discuss it, let's discuss it now." Denzel later said he still felt that Quentin was "a fine artist".
Denzel is named after his father who was in turn named after the doctor, Doctor Denzel, who had delivered him.
In the early 1980s, years before he portrayed Malcolm X in the Spike Lee film Malcolm X (1992), Washington portrayed Malcolm in the off-Broadway production of "When the Chickens Came Home to Roost", at the Henry Street Theatre in NYC.
Frequent collaborator of Spike Lee.
Named one of E!'s "top 20 entertainers of 2001."
Supports charities such as the Nelson Mandela Children's Fund, and the Gathering Place (an AIDS hospice).
Met his wife Pauletta Washington in 1977 when both had small roles in the TV-movie Wilma (1977) (TV) (she was billed as Pauletta Pearson), the story of runner Wilma Rudolph. They wed five years later.
His father was a Pentecostal minister; his mother a beautician and former gospel singer. They divorced when he was 14.
Is a spokesperson for the Boys and Girls Clubs of America, having been a member of the Boys Club once himself.
Was named one of the 50 Most Beautiful People by People Magazine in 2002.
Father of actor John David Washington
Ranked #28 in Premiere's 2003 annual Power 100 List. Had ranked #40 in 2002.
Often works with director Edward Zwick.
Cousin is CBS anchorman Ukee Washington.
Was awarded the title of "Police Chief for a Day" when he was a member of The Boys and Girls Club of America as a child. The photo was shown during his latest appearance on "Live with Regis and Kathie Lee" (1989).
When he was very young he was at a barber's shop with his mother and a nice old lady sitting in the corner asked his mother to write his full name down. When his mother asked why she said "Because he's going to entertain millions one day". His mother gave the old lady his name and it wasn't until later that they found out she was rumored to be some kind of local fortune teller.
First studied Biology in hopes of becoming a doctor, then switched to Political Science then to a Journalism/Drama major in college.
Has worn some kind of military uniform in at least six of his films.
Ranked #59 on VH1's 100 Hottest Hotties
Because of his pay-or-play deal on the doomed 2005 "American Gangster" project (which was to be directed by Antoine Fuqua), he was paid $20 million even though the film did not move ahead.
Premiere Magazine ranked him as #39 on a list of the Greatest Movie Stars of All Time in their Stars in Our Constellation feature (2005).
Chosen as People Magazine's Sexiest Man Alive 
First African-American actor to receive two Academy Awards
Has played two soldiers who have suffered traumatic, life-changing experiences while fighting in the 1991 Persian Gulf War: Lt. Col. Nathaniel Serling in Courage Under Fire (1996) and Maj. Ben Marco in The Manchurian Candidate (2004).
Though his first theatrical film was a comedy (Carbon Copy (1981)), he has only done three more since. Has mentioned that he's always wanted to do a great one.
He and his family visited the troops at Brook Army Medical Center, in San Antonio, Texas (BAMC). There are some buildings there called Fisher Houses. The Fisher House is a Hotel where soldiers' families can stay, for little or no charge, while their soldier is staying in the Hospital. BAMC has quite a few of these houses on base, but as you can imagine, they are almost filled most of the time. He was given a tour of one of the Fisher Houses and subsequent to his visit sent them one of the largest donations they've ever received.
Is the second of three children.
As of 2006, he is the most Oscar-winning (two) and most nominated (five) black actor/actress in Academy history.
Son John David Washington recently signed as a running back with the St. Louis Rams (May 2006).
Has worked with both Ridley Scott and Tony Scott. Ridley will direct him in the upcoming American Gangster (2007). He has worked with Ridley's brother, Tony, on three films, which are: Crimson Tide (1995), Man on Fire (2004), and the upcoming _Deja Vu (2006)_ qv).
Turned down the role of Detective David Mills in Se7en (1995).
Turned down the role of Cinque in Amistad (1997).
His daughter, Katia Washington, currently attends Yale University.
My love affair with the iPod started when I purchased a second generation iPod back in 2001. Since then I've owned a third generation (replaced it once) and now I'm on the 5th generation video iPod. (Tip...ALWAYS buy the Apple Care Warranty. ALWAYS! Wanna know how I know?)
I take my iPod everywhere with me as music is always in my head and I get bored pretty quickly and it's a good way to relieve boredom. Last week I updated my iTunes software and oooooohed and aaahhhhhhed over all the pretty new features. I played around with them a bit and looked forward to spending more time feeling my way around it later.
This morning I decided the only song on Jay Z's new CD I wanted was "Show Me What You Got" so I purchased it from iTunes (I only use iTunes when I want to buy a single or a couple of songs from the CD...when I want the whole CD I buy it at the store so I can get the jacket info.).
When the download finished I got a message that said I have authorized two machines and have a total of 3 left.
Me: (In Scooby Doo voice) AAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRUUUU?
So, of course I started snooping around to see what was going on.
Turns out it's Apple's new way of making sure that you don't give the music away for free and/or start burning Cd's to sell. In principle I understand this...but I kinda feel like my rights are being violated. No I don't have more than 5 computers in my home...I only have two as Apple apparently knows and yes I know that this doesn't affect me in any other way...but..it's the principle of it for me.
What happened to innocent before PROVEN guilty and the burden of proof being on the ACCUSER (or prosecution)?
I don't like the thought that Apple techies and execs have decided we are all burning Cd's and selling them on the corner or at the barber shop. That's just DISRESPECTFUL. I know Pookie, Earl and Jim Bob may get their hustle on this way...but I don't and I feel the majority doesn't either.
This kind of distention makes me enjoy music less. Well...at least the music I would have purchased from iTunes.
Digital Rights Management is, of course, a controversial area. In fact, Robby and I have even argued about it. He is for it looking at it from this standpoint:
Robby: Okay...look at it this way. If you were selling subscriptions to your site, how would you feel if someone were printing it out and giving to people for free?
Now this is a good argument but I'd rather think the good of people first and not assume it's something they were going to do right from the git go.
Sharing music has always been a part of my culture and no one has gone broke because I loaned a CD to Cojoe or Weezy. Ultimately the decision comes down to whether or not they were going to buy it anyway had I not loaned it to them. With those two cheap...I mean FRUGAL...dudes...No. They wouldn't have. LOL!
But this is not a laughing matter.
I don't like the thought that I can't do as I wish with something I purchased with MY money. Once I have paid for it, it is MY possession and as far as I'm concerned...once you decide BEFORE you've proven I'm a corrupt music bootlegger...I should not be penalized. Not until you've PROVEN it.
What's next? Books? Will I be able to only read a book I bought ONCE and then it will disintegrate right before my very eyes so I can't loan it to Noreen, Shelly or Shawn? Seriously.
What about DJ's? They get paid good money for playing music at a party or club right? Should they have to pay a fee every time they play a song? Should royalties encroach upon this as well? Hey...they only paid $10 for the CD but are making money playing it and keeping the crowd happy. Right? Right.
When we start doing things like this it shines the light on all sorts of potential problems. Do we really want to be THIS society?
I, for one, have made my LAST iTunes purchase and I buy a LOT of music. It's my thing. My lil ninety nine cents per song is going to go else where just as soon as I identify another source. If you guys know of another service...holla atcha girl.
Once again...I UNDERSTAND what happened to cause DRM to be created. Truly I do. I'm not totally daft. BUT...just as they have the right to place rules on how they sell music...I have the right to decide if and from whom I'm going to buy it .
The following is some good information I found...follow the links to get to the site it originated from as there is other good information there:
Posted in iTunes | by Andrew - November 8th, 2006
Apple allows you to authorize five machines to play music and video purchased from a single iTunes store account. While most people don’t have five different machines of their own from which they play five different iTunes libraries - it is still very easy to run out of authorizations. It’s easy to lose track. You might give four different songs to four different friends, and you’re done. Four of your five authorized machines are not even yours. Not to mention remembering to deauthorize your iTunes account before selling or giving away a computer (it doesn’t happen automatically when you clean install the OS).
Here’s a little trick I found one day when I was out of authorizations.
How do I deauthorize all of my computers?
If you have authorized five computers, a button labeled “Deauthorize All” will appear in your Account Information screen. This button will deauthorize all computers associated with your account. You can then reauthorize up to 5 computers. Note: You can only use this feature once a year.
Did you have a good time? How was the food? How was your family? Is everybody doing well? I hope so and I hope you had a good time.
We always have Thanksgiving dinner at my surrogate mom's even though I cook a full dinner at our house too. Dinner is usually around 6 with cocktails starting at 5. The food is FABULOUS comfort food and the vibe is so wonderful because we all know each other so well. If you know me in real life...you know my surrogate mom is the next best thing to the real thing as she's EXACTLY as a mother should be.
She never had children of her own and she and my surrogate dad adopted me with open arms and have taken care of me for more years than I sometimes remember and they both welcomed Robby with open arms as soon as they met him as well.
I don't talk about her and my "dad" much because they seperated almost two years ago and it's still a very fresh wound for all of us involved. His absence tonight was, as it has been since he left, very marked and it was difficult to pretend he was never there as he's a part of our history and always will be.
I didn't see him today as he's traveling...but to be honest...when the line was drawn in the sand...because of the circumstances surrounding...I chose my "mom."
Was that unfair? Sometimes I wonder. Yes I love him, yes I worry about him, yes I want him to be happy...but I think he did it all wrong. He knows how I feel because I've told him. OFTEN.
I think people choose sides during a breakup. Do you?
Our bird is in the oven and I'm on the sofa with Jaru and Lucy just chilling. About 20 minutes ago I heard an odd noise. A noise I'm familiar with on Thursday's...but NEVER on a holiday. Yup...the garbage truck. WHAT IN THE WORLD????????? So I run outside and they are headed out of the development and nope...Robby had not put our garbage out. Why? CUZ THEY NEVER COME ON THE HOLIDAY!
Breathe Monnie Breathe.
N E WAY! If your family is like mine, they bring up the worst mess you've ever done in your life and tease you mercilessly. No matter it happened twenty years or more ago and you're not that same person anymore...it's an old memory that just keeps coming up no matter how annoying you find it.
In order to try and control that this year, I found a really cool activity in one of Real Simple's publications that should work out. I typed it all up in an excel file for yall so all ya need to do is download it here, Download family_dinner.xls , print and cut them up.
Then fold, put in a nice bowl, and pass around the dinner table. Pass, answer, pass, answer...that way no one has an opportunity to make up something and it's all genuine and from the heart. We're going to do this at my surrogate mom's today. She doesn't know it yet. ROFL!
|Childhood||Love and Family||Likes and Dislikes||Life in General|
|What was the home and neighborhood you grew up in like?||Were you and your spouse in love from the start, or did it take time?||Who makes you laugh the hardest?||What were the best years of your life?|
|Which of your parents were you closer to?||What has been the most difficult part about raising kids?||Do you have a favorite book or author?||What was the hardest decision you've made?|
|What was your role in your family?||Do you have any good parenting advice?||Do you have a favorite movie?||What are the most important things in life?|
|What were your siblings like back then, and how did you get along with them?||How are you like your parents? And how are you different?||What was the best trip you ever took?||What do you consider to be your strongest character traits?|
|What kind of student were you?||Work||If you could live any place in the world, where would it be?||What traits or habits do you wish you didn't have?|
|Other than family, who were the most important people in your life?||If you could go somewhere you've never been, where would you go?||Do you believe that people can change?|
|Other than family, who were the most important people in your life?||What are five things you couldn't live without?||Do you believe in God?|
|What were the happiest times of your childhood?||What was the best job you ever had? The worst?||What's your most beloved personal possession?||Has life made you more hopeful or more cynical?|
|What were the biggest dissapointments?||How did you decide what field to enter?||What's the bravest thing you've ever done?||What do you consider to be the biggest world events of your lifetime?|
|What were your hobbies?||Was there one person who had a big impact on your working life?||What's the scariest thing you've ever done? The dumbest?||Do you think life now is harder or easier than when you were young?|
|What did you imagine your adult life would be like?||If you havd to do it all over again, wold you choose the same career path?||Is there anything you always wanted to do but never did?||What are you most proud of in your life?|
|What do you hope to be remembered for?|
This is gonna be cool because you'll probably find out some things about your family members you didn't know. Nice wholesome things that will help you AND them have other memories by which to think of each other.
I hope you're having a FABULOUS Thanksgiving and are appreciating it for the day it should be.
P.S. Don't forget to baste the turkey every thirty minutes! Also...DO NOT CUT THE TURKEY FOR AT LEAST THIRTY MINUTES AFTER YOU TAKE IT OUT OF THE OVEN! Why? All the juices are gonna run out. Ya gotta let the juices "settle." I forgot to tell yall that...but hey...I'm sure yall knew that and I'm just being the overprotective big sister ONCE AGAIN. (Me gotta problem I know, I know! SMOOCHES!)
My girl MMNIQUE sent me this cuz she know ya girl loves good SANGIN! ROFL! This song sent chills down my spine!
Jennifer Holliday, Sheryl Lee Ralph, Loretta Devine, and other original cast members perform "It's All Over" and "And I'm Telling You (I'm Not Going)" on the 1982 Tony Awards.
NEVER AGAIN SHOULD ANYONE ASK ME WHY IN THE HECK DON'T I WATCH MUSIC AWARD SHOWS.
All you have to do is remember Snoopdog's performance with that dude and the strippers about stripping and you'll know why. Shock and awe. I could have already been asleep. Humph. King of the West Coast my FOOT!
Bright light was Mary J. I'm amazed at how FABULOUS she looked and her song was soooooooooo beautiful! LOVED HER!
You guys remember that I have an internet stalker and what's worse...she's a RACIST internet stalker. You'd think she'd get tired of coming here and reading about me and my life when she CLEARLY knows I believe she is beneath me and she supposedly hates my guts...but she doesn't and it's a COMPLETE mystery to me. LOL!
In my opinion she probably TORTURES herself cuz baaaaaaaaaaaaaby...ain't crap in my life changing because SHE hates me. In fact...it just makes me appreciate my life as it is even more cuz it points out that no matter how sad I get...no matter how depressed...at least I'm not as miserable with my life as she must be.
I even stopped visiting a forum I used to visit because of her. Why? Because it's a wholesome, family type of place and what I wanted to say to her had no place there ESPECIALLY after she called me the N word. I took the high road and just stayed away as I respected the administrator of the site and everything it stood for regarding helping bring together women dealing with fertility issues. The ONLY reason I've stayed away is because I don't trust myself not to cut the fool with this young lady. I can be VERY confrontational when pissed off as you guys well know. LOL.
I don't talk much about race because it's actually a non-issue for me. Once you get to a certain level in life...it doesn't slap you flat out in the face as it did when we were growing up down South. Pretty much the people I deal with from all races are very intelligent and above bafoonery. I wish more people in the world had friends like mine...the world would be a better place.
Robby and I are from the DEEP South and thus we both have family members for whom race is a big thing and well...we just learned to deal with it and so have they by coming to the realization that no matter what they think...nothing is changing. NOTHING.
We're still going to be Monnie & Robby and we're still going to have, in actuality, a really great life.
With our family backgrounds it's a miracle we are together...but...it just goes to show that God is in control here.
Missy Elliott's new song, "Teary Eyed" supports that statement. LOL! I like the song...well...up until she starts rapping that is...it would have been better without that IN MY OPINION!
Curious as to what you think before I say what I wanna say:
Black comics make fun of white people ALL THE TIME. EVERY black comic has pointed out a white person in the audience and roasted him/her for being white and "acting" supposedly like white people "act." (This has actually happened to Robby.) Why is it that white people can't do the same to black people?
If you were the ONLY black person at an all white comedy show and they pointed you out and "stereotyped" you in a not so flattering way that got laughs at your expense...HOW WOULD YOU FEEL?
Stoopit Imaginary Person: So...erra...Robby got Poindextered huh? How'd he take it?
Me to The Laugh Factory today:
From: Monica Mingo [mailto:Monica.Mingo@comcast.net]
Sent: Monday, November 20, 2006 12:38 PM
Subject: Comments from your site
I love comedy and have attended several events hosted by you. This won't ever happen again. The fact that you let Michael Richards perform again after that nonsense is beneath you. I am VERY disappointed.
Laugh Factory to Me today:
For 28 years the Laugh Factory has prided itself on being the only club that guaranteed laughter. On Friday night the club exercised that pledge and refunded money to its patrons for the first time. We are truly sorry for what happened. This is a comedy club and while we have always supported the comics¹ first amendment rights, we have done so with the understanding that they were exercising that right in an effort to be funny.
We do not support or condone the inappropriate, hurtful and offensive comments that Mr. Richards made on Friday night at the Laugh Factory.
Mr. Richards was scheduled to appear on Saturday night and had informed management of his intention to apologize for his hurtful and unprofessional outburst from the previous night. He failed to do so and disappointed us.
We have made it clear that Mr. Richards is no longer welcomed here. The Laugh Factory is a comedy club not a forum for personal attacks.
The Laugh Factory
8001 Sunset Blvd.
W.Hollywood, Ca 90046
I'm okay with that and am glad this has been cleared up on their end.
DO NOT SUBSTITUTE ANY INGREDIENTS!
In other worlds...do not attempt to make vegetarian style and then talk about this is a recipe Monnie gave you. Humph. Cook it as it is written and I PROMISE you it will be the bomb! Seriously.
Those stuffed peppers and that dang Creole cornbread dressing are recipes you should only cook for the man in your life you wanna marry. Cuz if you do and he's NOT someone you want to marry...you're gonna be mad as hell when you can't get rid of him. ROFLROFLROFLROFLROFL!
P.S. Let me know which ones you tried and how it turned out.
Is Michael "HOT GEECHIE MESS" Baisden really gone? PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE SAY IT'S SO! PLEASE!
I know some of you are "insiders" PLEASE TELL ME IF YOU KNOW! THIS WILL KILL ME NOT KNOWING. This man has disgusted me for years and if he's off the air...hell...this is the BEST Christmas the Universe has EVER given me! THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU!
This recipe is in no way shape or form HEALTHY. LOL! It just can't be. Eat at your own risk.
2 – 9 inch unbaked pie shells
2 cups sugar
½ stick of butter
1 teaspoon vanilla
1 can of sweet potatoes
Preheat oven to 350 degrees. Drain sweet potatoes (leave a little juice to keep them moist) and mash. Combine all filling ingredients together with sweet potatoes. Pour into unbaked pie shell. Bake for 1 hour or until a toothpick comes out clean.
2 1/3 cups sugar
2/3 cups water
2/3 cup oil
2 cups mashed sweet potatoes
3 1/3 cups all-purpose flour
2 teaspoons baking soda
1 1/2 teaspoons salt
1 teaspoon cinnamon
1/2 teaspoon baking powder
1 cup coarsely chopped pecans
Preheat oven to 350 degrees F.
Combine sugar, water, oil, eggs, and sweet potatoes and mix thoroughly. Add dry ingredients and mix to combine. Add pecans and mix well. Divide between 2 greased loaf pans and bake for 50 minutes. Cool in pan to room temperature.
Ignorance and racism comes in ALL colors, shapes, and forms. I'm done with both of these idjits.
Kanye West: According to Essence magazine, Kanye reportedly told the
magazine, "If it wasn't for race mixing, there'd be no video girls."
Then, as if his first comment wasn't offensive enough, Kanye referred
to biracial women as dogs. The rapper told Essence (see page 72), "Me
and most of my friends like mutts a lot ... Yeah, in the hood they
call 'em mutts."
Michael Richards: http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/15816126/ Video here: http://us.video.aol.com/video.index.adp?mode=1&pmmsid=1772645
Kanye has shown me on more than one occasion how he feels about women and I have been offended several times in the past put gave him a pass. This is the last straw. I'm even going to go as far as finding out what artists are on his label so I won't support him financially in any way, shape or form. I know my lil $10 a cd won't hurt much...but it's my way of letting him know that we "mutts" have the choice as to where and how we spend our money.
As far as Michael Richards...I was a HUGE Kramer fan but have never supported anything else he's ever done because nothing else has ever appealed to me. This tirade is a nail in his coffin as far as I'm concerned.
Both these men are DEAD to me.
Southern Comfort Cake
18-1/2 oz. yellow cake mix
3-1/4 oz. package instant vanilla pudding mix
1/2 cup Southern Comfort
1/2 cup cold water
1/2 cup oil
1 cup chopped pecans or walnuts
4 T. Butter
1/8 cup water
1/2 cup granulated sugar
1/4 cup Southern Comfort
Combine cake ingredients in a large bowl and beat at a medium speed for 2 minutes. Pour into a greased and floured 10-inch tube or 12-cup bundt pan. Bake at 325ºF for 1 hour. Cool on rack. Invert on serving plate; prick top and drizzle half of glaze evenly over top and sides. After cake has cooled, reheat remainder of glaze and brush evenly over cake (this is optional).
To make glaze, melt butter in saucepan. Stir in water and sugar. Boil 3 minutes, stirring constantly. Remove from heat and stir in Southern Comfort.
What's the first thing you should do before shopping for Thanksgiving?
CLEAN OUT YOUR FRIDGE! LOL! You're going to need as much room as possible to store ingredients and then later...to store leftovers.
I hope you've already bought the special stuff you're gonna need for turkey day...cuz if not...you're gonna be upset when you can't find your ham hocks, smoked turkey necks, chicken gizzards, cream of mushroom soup etc. for your fixins. I usually start stocking up on these things immediately after Halloween because I have been in a situation where I had nothing to cook in my greens and I was HOT!
Today I cut up all my onions and bell peppers and celery that I'm going to need and put in the freezer in the measurements I'm going to need for the different recipes I'm doing. This kind of prep work ensures you can keep a relatively clean kitchen while cooking all of the big stuff.
Robby and I love Thanksgiving food so I pretty much go all out. He REALLY loves Thanksgiving food so he just keeps adding onto our menu. LOL!
Turkey Day Menu
Turkey, roast, stuffed bell peppers, creole cornbread dressing, green bean casserole (Monnie-style), baked macaroni and cheese, collard greens, candied yams, sweet potato pie, southern comfort cake and...I KNOW I'm missing something. LOL!
I'll do my baking on Wednesday and get that out of the way so the oven is good to go for early Thursday morning. Wheeeeeeeee!
I CAN'T WAIT TO EAT!