Good Dudes

Folks make it seem like good dudes are so few and far between that I wonder if they remember what one looks like.

See...good dudes come in all shapes, sizes and colors. Good dudes are in all professions. Good dudes have kids. Good dudes don't have kids. The most important thing for you to remember, however, is that good dudes can be bad dudes at the drop of a hat if you take them there.

Don't take them there.

A good dude will call you and you might have a good conversation. He might never call you again if YOUR conversation wasn't good. Hell...good dudes got standards. Folks walking around wondering why someone didn't call them or why the attention isn't there...doesn't make him a bad dude...could be just a dude smart enough to realize that you're not the one and he's decided to cut his losses before they stack up too high.

Now here is what a bad dude woulda done. A bad dude would have continued to string you along as long as they could until they can reduce you to that chick they call whenever they need something. To be put on the list at the party of the year, or to help them work on their resume, or to find out if you know someone hiring cuz one of their friends is looking. They will never OFFICIALLY tell you that you're not the one. They will trail off their sentences never once becoming FINITE with their ish.

A good dude won't do that. A good dude will stop calling you. He will delete your number and truly never call you again. For nothing. If he sees you out and about...he'll speak...but only to be cordial. Good dudes don't play games.

Good dudes don't spend money all willy nilly. Buying the latest this or that. They don't worry about how their car looks. Why? Cuz good dudes have a financial plan. Good dudes are planning on having a family one day and he ain't bout to spend his hard earned money on someone he hasn't decided could be the one. Good dudes aren't cheap...they just ain't DUMB.

Good dudes aren't going to bring any old body around their family and friends either. Why? Cuz good dudes CARE about what their family and friends think about THEM. They don't want their family and friends thinking they hos. They will be respectful of their mother's home and they will be proud knowing their father is proud of them.

Good dudes will make GREAT husbands. Good dudes will make GREAT fathers. Good dudes ARE great sons, brothers and friends.

You just gotta learn to recognize them when you see them.

As a society we've gotten caught up in so much shit...that we THINK we know what to look for when in actuality...that's tv shit. The REAL deal? The REAL good dudes...are low key like a mug.

You can go head and have all those unrealistic expectations if you want to...thinking you need an upgrade when a good dude has decided you're a downgrade.

Pay attention to the pebbles folks cuz bricks hurt like a mugga.

I'm Monica Mingo and I'm DAMN proud to say...I'm married to a GOOD DUDE. One of the gooderestness!

Comments

[foreverloyal]

"Pay attention to the pebbles folks cuz bricks hurt like a mugga."

HAAHAAhahaha!

[Melonie]

Hot damn!

[Dawn]

I think this new dude is a good dude...probably why I'm freaking out like a dang 13-year-old girl. I need to calm the eff down though...I'm driving myself crazy. :)

[Kinchen]

I have not meet not one "Good Dude" since moving back to Chicago in 2004.

[Nikita]

Thanks for the reminder of what good guys are as a I head back in the dating/relationship world. To me, for me, low key guys make me curious to know why are they so confident, comfortable etc. The flashy ones/overtly charming ones make me want to hit the door running. Game is being played and I do not wish to be the trick. Anyway, this was a great post. I am gonna advise a few friends of mine read your post very, very soon.

[Keelah]

Loved it!

[Diva (in Demand)]

You know what......I think this might be one of the best posts you've EVER had. I loved it. Kudos!

[Erica B.]

Got me a good dude too!