We were wondering. Most folks figured you were off doing research.
First dance...SAMBA.
LH's Comment:
I'm never one to turn down an invitation to dance and I've got a good pair of shoes ready, so let's get into it. In response to your questions: 1) The list you posted rubbed me the wrong way (gently) for a few reasons, not the least of which being its length. Even the US Constitution has but 27 amendments. Second, it's superfluous. I think any man would (want to) do those things anyway--most of them at least. :-) I'm not one for being told what I should do and I don't need a list to tell me how to go about the business of being a good man. This isn't to say that I'm always right or that I know everything, but rather, first and foremost, I would have my woman's/wife's best interest at heart at all times--on GP. I *elect* to be a gentleman toward women, whether or not we're involved. Why? Because it's who I am. But once I'm presented with a list of things to do (written or unwritten), now the choice has been taken away from me. Instead of choosing, I'm complying. Well, I'm not a complier. I would never and have never had a list of items that I checked off to measure a woman by. The woman who is intended for me will more than satisy my needs and wants (and vice versa) without being prompted. If I have to ask or tell her ... well, I think that speaks for itself. 2) I'm not married yet for a few reasons, not the least of which being that I didn't marry either of two women whom I should have when the opportunity presented itself. Neither of these women were perfect, but they were perfect for me and I for them. I feel blessed to have had two such women in my life, so I can't say God hasn't done His part. He has. I blew it. In the time since, I haven't met a woman whom I could imagine marrying. Incompatibility is the biggest reason for this. I'm not for most women, which I don't say this by way of arrogance, but self-awareness. Too many women whom I've met wasted their time trying to figure me out, which, for all of their good intentions, let me know that we weren't meant for each other. When they couldn't figure me out, they made the mistake of trying to fit me within the space that they've carved out for men in general to exist within. I don't operate within such spaces. I believe in one marriage, which means that before exchanging vows, I'm going to measure twice and cut once. Despite what I've said previously, I realise that I DO want to marry the love of my life, a woman with whom I share a genuine and abiding friendship ... a woman whom I simply can't stay upset with ... a woman whom I want to do anything and everything before particularly because she's her and she thought enough of me to share the rest of her life with. Those are fairly lofty romantic aspirations, ones that the woman I've met in the past few years come nowehre near inspiring. It's best that I be single until I meet such a woman ... but goodness knows how much I am enjoying the single life in the meantime. This situation may or may not be ideal but it works.
LOL! First off...HI-FUGGIN-LARIOUS. You don't want to COMPLY? There is your problem right there. You are like the women who scream they are independent and don't want a man telling them what to do. Point is...I shouldn't HAVE to tell you what the hell you're sposed to do. Period.
Lemme break it down to you this way. Princess' recognize Princes'. Simple.
See...on your site the other day you were lamenting the lack of good women in Chicago and you got an ignant comment from someone who does not grasp the use of the English language clearly. Me...I pointed out that I never had a problem finding good men. Why? Because I'm a good woman. PRINCESS' RECOGNIZE PRINCES'. SIMPLE.
You high fived me because you understood that with all of your worldly knowledge of women. BUT...the actual lesson went above your head and out of your reach.
I never had to tell a man what he should be doing when it related to me. Why? Because my mannerisms showed I expected nothing less and consequently..I only attracted men who were on top of their game and who were the shit. They ALSO knew before going any further with me...that there were certain things they could and could NOT do. BUT...this was less of an issue than you think it is because...like I said...they already knew.
I get women on here all day and all night talking about how bad men are and yada, yada. I point out to them the common denominator and if the women are smart enough...they sit the hell down and think on it. Especially after I say the following:
If all the men you are meeting ain't shit...then you might be ain't shit azz bait.
LOL! And that can be turned around and genderfied (New word folks...add it to the dictionary.) my friend.
If all the WOMEN you are meeting ain't shit (so YOU say)...then you might be ain't shit azz bait.
Women have baggage...but men do too and the media has yall hoodwinked into thinking that women are going to take your issues on as you own. The fact that all the women, um...cept for your best friend, that you meet are NOT what you are looking for SCREAMS to me that the good women recognize your ilk...and steer clear.
You talk a good game...you do. I'll give you that. BUT...game recognize game.
Funny how we can dispense knowledge to women all day and all night and the menfolks high-five...but as soon as you tag their azzes they wanna go egomaniacle. (New word folks...add it to the dictionary.)
Da-dum-dum...I'm here all night folks. :)
Next dance...SALSA. (Warning...I'm Creole so the spicy salsa is something I'm GREAT at.)
