When I first met my husband it was cool. We were both enjoying being single and found that we truly enjoyed the other's company. It was easy. A really good groove. The love snuck up on both of us in bits and pieces until one day we knew and yet...it was STILL easy.
I was talking to a male friend last night who is dating someone new. I asked him how it was going and he started singing...."I think I'm in looooooooooooooove!!!" I was blown away. Truly. I was like...wow...what do you think it is about her that makes it so you're putting yourself out there like that?
"It's easy." he said. "It's very, very easy. No drama...no effort...just easy."
I think she might be the one. :)
I started grinning from ear to ear because that's the way love goes. Or at least that's the way it goes for me...love is just...easy. No drama...no questions...just easy.
So when Robby and I first started it was a rush...a high and then...it just mellowed out. When we started living together it was crazy. Yall remember The Great Cheez-it Smackdown of 2002 don't you? LOL! And then...we got engaged so we were all lovey dovey again...and then...back to evened out and leveled.
When I "retired" so to speak I had a lot of time to organize our home and life and focus on him, when we started trying to have a baby...it shifted to focusing on me and my emotional state which was/is at times...CHOPPY.
Yall know I can't go to the library right? If you don't know it's because I can't read books read by goodnes knows who. People get real comfy while reading and the thought of me holding someone else's bathroom reading material makes me break out in hives.
That said, ya girl is the same way about doctor's office magazines. Just EWWWWW! Makes me gag. So I always, ALWAYS bring my own.
So I just finished flipping through my Real Simple magazine and went to put it back in my bag. The chick next to me frowned at me like I was stealing it. I'm in a cranky azz mood so there wasn't going to be anything pleasant coming out of my mouf so I just leaned back. You KNOW she was talking about me in her head. Good thing she kept it there. Humph!
Yall are obviously not spreading the news about coconut oil cuz if I see one more crunchy azz head Imma hold somebody down and moisturize their azzes.
There are three Black women in the waiting room and I'll be damned if all three look a hot, fonky fried mess by the head. One is even DOING-T IT by our standards from shoulder to shoe but because of her damn head she gets a damn zero on the ritcher. Just ewwwwwwwww!
Okay. A chick just showed up and renewed my faith. I believe I shall make her my friend. This ghastly beast behind me calling everyone in her address book might get Naomied however.
...has my respect for wanting to be treated as if he we not a member of the Royal family truly.
Do you think it was selfish on his part to put the British troops in danger because of accelerating their chance of being attacked by someone out to make a big name for the war by being the people who took him out?
Was his bravery an attempt to look "down" and too high a cost to pay?
I've been watching documentaries as much as I can these days and I'm watching "Girlhood." It makes me soooooo sad. I often wonder how some young ladies end up going left when we want them to go right. This documentary is a very good idea of how some girls got there.
Megan's mother was in jail for most of her life. They share lots in common like they are both, in Megan's words, "funny." *sigh* Which means bisexual.
This young lady is so lost...so very, very lost.
The other young lady, Shanae, killed her friend when she was 12. As her story continues, you find out that she was pregnant at the age of 11. The problem I have with Shanae is that she has a family that seems to be hard working people. I don't get how she got messed up. Wait...I see now. Her relationship with her mother. Oh crap...this baby was gang raped when she was 10 and she didn't tell anyone and that's how she got pregnant. *sigh*
During my search of documentaries I find myself drawn to those with faces that looked like mine. All of them...ALL OF THEM...cept for one, "Emanuel" is not about HOPE.
I know I've asked this a thousand times...but who represents us? Why aren't those of us who are normal considered just as interesting? Don't we have stories too?
"We should just give Bush the rest of the Presidency off. Seriously. Just tell him to take leave and we'll pay him no problem. Secret Service protection...yup...all of that. Just go to Crawford and never SPEAK to reporters again. Just wave from your ranch."
Me: Weezy...I wish you could see this fool. His hair is in twists cept for the one in the top of his damn head. It is unraveled and sticking straight up. The rest of his hair is nice and neat cept for that one damn piece.
Aiight folks! The March event is going to be in April. ROFL!
When:Sunday, April 6th @ 9:00 am
Where:You'll get the information in your evite.
What:HORSEBACK RIDING ON A REAL WORKING RANCH! LOL! No worries...they accomodate folks who have never ridden before by giving a lesson! We are going to learn calf roping, have sack races, a FABULOUS healthy lunch, and go for a 90 minute ride along a BEAUTIFUL trail with a guide!
Cost:$60 per person for those who are riding (and I hope most of us are)
$20 per person for lunch, calf roping and sack racing, hiking, chilling, napping on porch in rockers. LOL!
There is no deposit necessary, pay when you get there CASH ONLY.
HOWEVER...when you RSVP it will be used as the headcount for the ranch so they know how much food to prepare for us, etc.
We'll travel there via convoy so we'll meet somewhere and get in where we fit in.
Children over age 6 are welcome. According to how many children are coming I'd like to flirt with the idea of everyone paying $10 more so we can help pay for the kids. I think it's important for kids to have cool adventures too and that could get costly for the parents. I hope you guys are cool with this as I truly feel it's the right thing to do. If not...I understand. TRULY.
Aiight...send me an email with USUAL SUSPECTin the subject line if you're interested in going so I may add you to the evite. Anyone is welcome to join us so long as you're good people, you enjoy having a good time and laughing your butt off and are in the DC Metro area on the date! ROFL!
When we first heard about Lucy it broke our hearts. She'd been found tied to the gates of the Baltimore Zoo with a shattered back leg and a chain embedded in her neck. She was emaciated and very aggressive even though she was weak from lack of food. The poor baby had been there for 3 days before someone realized that she needed help.
She was taken to the doggie hospital and worked on and stayed there for several months while her leg healed...then...they looked for a home for her which was difficult because of the aggression part.
Well...we took a chance on her and brought her home with us. She was scared and nervous and shaking the entire time poor baby and she hurt me deeply thinking that someone could have done the awful, AWFUL things to her that were done.
Jaru was uber excited when he saw her and immediately went to greet her with a big goofy grin.
She jumped him.
Yall...it was bad cuz we'd never had such in our home before but we'd read that this is what happens when you introduce a new boxer into the home. They have to figure out who will be the head dog. We took them on the deck and stood there while they had it out. Even though it was obvious that Lucy was used to fighting, we weren't worried about Jaru because he was twice her size.
Lucy won. LOL! And her title as Queen Reign Supreme was duly noted by everyone.
So we brought them in and introduced her to the house. Jaru started bringing her toys to play with and she'd take it from him and put it in a corner. He was confused and would go get one to show her how to play with it and she'd jump him and take it back. LOL! He soon learned to stop bringing them to her. ROFL!
That entire evening was just about letting her do what she does. No sudden movements from anyone...it's all about our Lucy-girl.
When we fed her she ate her food so fast like she couldn't believe she was eating. I teared up. She got bathed and fluffed dry and then it was off to bed.
Initially we'd put her bed across the room from Jaru's because we didn't know how that would go. Jaru got in his bed and watched her as she paced the floor nervous with the door closed. She kept coming to the side of the bed so one of us could touch her. Finally she went and laid down.
So we put her bed next to his and showed her it was hers. She paced nervously but then she got in it and we covered her with a blankie. Poor baby was plum tuckered out.
She woke several times during the night with whimpers and nightmares we're sure.
The next day I started my morning as I usually do and then...I freaked her out. I reached in the closet to get the corn broom that I use to sweep off the front steps. She saw it and BOLTED upstairs. I rushed after her and found her under the bed terrified. I didn't even thing about it. I got under the bed with her as did Jaru and we all just laid there under the bed until she felt better.
I'd brought the broom with me and it was on the floor. She sniffed it and walked around it. I picked it up and talked to her...let her know that it would never be used ON her.
Today, Lucy has been with us for three years. Since we don't know how old she is or when her birthday is, we always consider today her birthday. She's a completely different doggie from the one we met. She's sooooooooooo sweet and loving and loves just about EVERYONE but she does have her favorites of course. ROFL! There are certain friends we have that when they arrive she goes NUTS cuz she's soooooooooo excited and she just KNOWS they are there to see ONLY HER! LOL!
I'm so sorry it seems so many of you would never be able to visit 13700 because of your fears of doggies because, as you know, Lucy and Jaru will NEVER be "put up." We'll have to meet out for lunch. LOL!
Yup...today is all about the Princess. Our Diamond Sky Lucy AKA...DEBIL DOG! LOL!
I hope if you're thinking of getting a doggie you think about rescuing one. It's really, really worth it. They love you soooooooo much because they know you saved them and they are oh, so loyal and sweet!
I'm curious as to what you guys think. Do you think it's necessary to go to a hair stylist for basic maintenance?
I used to go once a week and spent a pretty penny when you added it all up. I haven't been to a stylist since last June when I got royally pissed off by one and since then I've been learning about my hair as if I were preparing for a thesis.
In February, I got a good cut and then...I started growing it out using the information I'd learned. It's seven months later and the growth is very noticeable.
When I wear my hair down...women are always asking me where I get it done and are very surprised to find that I do it myself and no I'm NOT a stylist.
Because of what I've learned...I don't think a stylist is needed for anything besides trims, cuts, color and highlights (if you have it...I personally don't believe in ANY color anymore), updos and, if you can't do it yourself...touch ups. Or...if you're rocking a short cut and want to keep it short.
When I think about my past stylists...none of the women had long healthy hair. Why? Prolly cuz they were doing the same things they did to MY hair to their hair but everyday instead of once a week. LOL! My hair never retained any growth while going to the salon weekly. BUT IT WAS GROWING CUZ I WAS GETTING TOUCH-UPS! Had I taken a pic of my hair Day 1 and then again on Day 365...same length...no growth even if I was trying to grow it out longer. And then...when I asked what the deal was...it was all MY fault as to why my hair wasn't growing or something about the blah or the blah even though THEY were the ones maintaining it. Unh huh. Yeah.
The misinformation I've received about black hair care could and DOES fill a book. The truth is so simple it's crazy. LOL! It's pretty basic really. If you want your hair to grow...don't cut it. LOL. Simple. If you see split ends...get it dusted...but no "shape up trims" that stylists are famous for giving you after every touch-up. Your hair grows a half inch a month. If you're cutting off a half inch to an inch to shape it up...YOU'RE CUTTING OFF YOUR NEW GROWTH! Simple. So very, very simple.
Normal black hair is naturally dry and when we use chemicals on already dry hair...it gets DRIER! When we put MORE chemicals on top of that like color and highlights it gets EVEN DRIER! Simple. Dry hair is prone to breakage. When you comb it and you see those pieces of your hair...it's your dry ends breaking off.
Right now I'm right at what's called arm pit length. By this time next year...I expect to be at brastrap length if I keep doing what I'm doing.
But...I digress...back to my original question: Do you think it's necessary to go to a hair stylist for basic maintenance? Also...does YOUR stylist have long, healthy hair?