When I was single I didn't go out much, but when I did...it was with a purpose. I didn't go to the latest club because that wasn't the place I went on the regular so the chances of me meeting a guy that was my type of guy in them were slim to nothing.
It would NEVER happen.
I went to nice restaurants that had bars and were at a certain price point. I did NOT hang around at the chain restaurant bars cuz again...those wouldn't be my kinda guy. I don't like chain restaurants and didn't want some guy thinking it was okay to take me to one on a date. Would seem kinda hypocritical telling him that I don't eat at them when he met my azz there huh? LOL!
When I did hit a place it was in the type of area I felt comfortable being in and I never hung out with a group of women.
What's that you say Monnie? You didn't kick it with your girls?
That's not what I said.
There is a time and a place for everything and there was always time to kick it with my girls but not when I was looking to meet someone. Why?
Too much competition.
Most of the time I'd hang out with one of my guys and whomever they were dating at the time or one of my guys and a MINIMUM of one other girlfriend ONLY. Wasn't gonna be all that many chicks at the table to make a guy stay away for fear of being rejected in front of too many women. Nor wasn't gonna be any him having to break it down by body style as to which of us he was going to approach if he DID get the courage to roll up on a group of women out and about.
I also found that when I was with my girls I was more likely to be in my party and super fun mode so a guy meeting me then was NOT really meeting the me that I am when I'm in man mode. In man mode I'm quieter, much more laid back. Calm and paying attention to the man, letting him be the lead.
Hey...I can be silly and when I'm usually with my friends my main goal is to make sure they are okay and having a good time. I'm not saying there is anything wrong with kicking it with your girls all the time but just recognize that a group of single women together lessens your odds of meeting someone GREATLY.
I hope you're thinking about dating with a purpose. I hope you know that sometimes...it's not all coincidental. Sometimes dating is as staged as Broadway. Take this from me and from every woman who has ever accidentally dropped something so a man would stop and show her some chivalry.
What do YOU think about dating with a purpose? Do you recognize that your odds are better with only one girlfriend for meeting a guy when you're out and about?