SIP: So last night Creole left us talking bout some to be continued stuff...you know...like she somebody.
Me: (standing my full height with a raised eyebrow)
SIP: OKAY LADIES! MAKE ROOM! CREOLE IS BACK WITH SOME CONTINUED STUFF!
Women can learn a lot from the way a dude dates. They go out with a woman and have an AWESOME time, drop her off or leave the restaurant and pick up the phone to call another woman. Yup. They call another woman after having a FABULOUS time with the first woman.
A woman who was sitting at home wondering why he hadn't called her.
She looks down at the phone EXCITED to see his number and picks it up with a smile in her voice.
And they have a GREAT conversation. GREAT! She's funny and charming, he's funny and charming.
They both get off the phone excited to talk to each other again.
He gets close to his exit and looks at the time. It's bedtime but not quite right. He's gone to dinner with a pretty woman and just got off the phone with a pretty woman and even though he has to go to work in the morning...nothing would be a better nightcap than a little something, something.
He knows who to call after 10:00pm cuz she's taken his call before after 10:00pm. He calls, she answers.
Him: You feel like some company?
Her: I thought I told you the last time to not call me all late (with a giggle in her voice).
Him: Quit playing girl...you know this is the busy season at work.
Her: How far away are you?
Him: I'll be there in twenty minutes.
And they get off the phone. She jumps up and changes outta her headscarf and raggedy nightshirt, straightens up her place and checks herself in the mirror.
What should you learn from this? You should learn to identify the starting lineup. Some guys have more than three, some of less but all have a hierarchy of women.
Dinner chick would be phone call chick after another dinner or two after the hands have roamed enough while saying goodbye that he knows her defenses are melting. He knows he doesn't have to take her out to nice restaurants anymore cuz she'll just be happy to hear from him. After not hearing from him a time or two he'll call sounding really tired and she'll invite him over to her home...before 10pm and he'll come, looking tired, she'll feed him and he'll get all snuggly with her and things will get closer or they will get THERE.
And then...she becomes the phone chick because she still has her standards and he hasn't broken her down to the after 10:00pm clean up call girl that he needs to fix that urge he's had from his other women but who aren't in the position of "Come on girl...quit playing."
Current after hours clean up girl will eventually start getting hip to the fact that she hasn't seen him during daylight hours in a while and will start tripping. Blowing up his phone and leaving erratic messages, etc. It's cool with him cuz he knows to just not talk to her.
And after she stops calling all the time he'll call her once or twice cuz something reminded him of her azz and he missed tapping it.
And she'll let him cuz she misses him.
The point here is that men DATE. They have a woman for all different stages of dating so they don't have to get themselves all wrapped up in one chickie. They have a system. They don't meet one chickie and focus on her. They don't think about her CONSTANTLY and they don't blow up her phone. They have STRUCTURE because all of their lives the men they were around have told them to not get all wrapped up in some broad and, instead, to sow their oats.
The converse of this? The women who have all been told to not be ho-ish. Men know this and don't try the assault tactic right off the bat unless you come at him spitting just as much game. They know to break you down S.L.O.W.L.Y. cuz they don't want to spook you.
You lil filly you.
To be continued...