When you love someone more than you love yourself you're headed for the ditch. See...you need that barometer that tells you when you've been disrespected and you need that gauge to know when to tell someone to step the hell off.
And a lot of women don't.
I can't teach anyone how to love themselves more and it seems that when you find someone who truly DOESN'T love themselves...they know why.
Now I'm not saying that anyone's reason as to why they don't love themselves is valid or not but I am saying that folks do know themselves so when someone is adamant that they don't deserve better I listen.
Cuz again...they know why.
As humans we do understand the fundamentals of right and wrong and we know when we have stepped across the line once or twice or three times a lady. We then become our own judges.
And we are much harsher on ourselves than we'd ever be on anyone else.
The only thing I know for sure here is that no one is going to get better until they do understand how to love themselves flaws and all. And once you begin to love yourself more and ACCEPT yourself as you are...then you will be able to make better choices regarding what you deserve.
Now you're prolly wondering...I thought this was about dating Creole?
What's so fugged up about you that you deserve only fugged up azz treatment?
Yeah. I thought so. Hard question to answer huh? But you gotta answer it cuz until you do right by you everything you touch gonna...wait (sorry...Color Purple flashback)...
Basically all I'm trying to say is that until you recognize your own worth you are going to continue attracting losers and you are going to keep giving people passes for treating you like shit. Imma need you to think of yourself as Ceily in the back of that car with them two french braids and her index and middle finger putting a hex on Mister. Imma need you to know you don't need to put up with a DAMN thing that ain't respectful.
Imma need you to get mad with it. Imma need you to realize that the love you have inside you should be used for yourself first and then...whatever else is left will be fed and will grow.
Yeah...love is like that.
To be continued...