Well, she had this look about her. Like she'd be someone I'd know. Pretty lady, nice smile, dressed neat.
I decided I was going to like her and we chatted even though she also brought up Michael Baisden and yall know how much I love THAT cancer too. LOL!
She shared with me a situation with one of her friends who is dating an apparent nice guy. The nice guy wanted to do something nice for her and decided he was going to cook dinner for her. He'd been cooking all day using the oven when she arrived and she walked into a hot house. The first words out of her mouth were: "DAMN IT'S HOT UP IN HERE! WHAT IN THE HELL?" (Or something like that.) To which he responded, "Well, hello to you too."
Now for dinner he asked her what she'd like him to cook and she told him whatever he cooked would be fine. He cooked some kind of chicken with curry. The young lady felt he used too much curry and basically told him, "UM, I DON'T LIKE THIS. THERE IS TOO MUCH CURRY ON IT AND IT TASTES NASTY."
And...she did it with that TONE.
And now she's wondering what's what.
Now I don't know much about the rest of their relationship so I can't speak on anything else but I'm thinking about this attitude on this particular incident and I'm wondering how in the WORLD did she get the guy interested in the first place. You don't keep that kinda attitude under wraps for long ya know? It is very obvious and usually infects everything you do.
WATCH YO MOUF.
There is a way to say everything folks and you should strive to do it in as nice a way as possible. If you feel like you CAN'T say anything nice...THEN DON'T.
Let's take the young lady from yesterday who has a problem with sans ropasing with her guy. Everyone was in complete agreement that she tell him how she feels but no one touched on her TONE while telling him. See...some things should be handled with care because there are some things a man is going to take personal and dwell on for days and weeks and months to come.
Questioning his sincerity, his generosity and his bedroom action are among a few. A man who wanted to cook dinner for you and was filled with the momentum of his action is going to change before your very eyes when he meets your disdain immediately. A man who thought he was throwing it down in the bedroom is going to take it REALLY personal if you come at him crazy.
Food for thought.
There is a way to say anything folks.
We should strive to be as nice and as thoughtful as possible when dealing with someone you're in a relationship with. Don't go off popping off at the lips and snapping yo neck and ish all the time.
You're going to end up alone.
WATCH YO MOUF.
What say you?
(To be continued...)