When I was dating...I didn't have a problem speaking to a good looking man first. I'd learned very early on that men are intimidated by me and wouldn't approach me confidently. I don't know why seeing as though I think I'm friendly and whatnot but that's the honest truth and everyone knows that men can't STAND rejection.
Sure...men would look...but they never approached. They might be standing right beside me and we'd share a joke over something people watching-ish but that's the furthest it would go. Later when I'd ask why I always got some throwed off answers:
"You looked like you had a man."
"You looked high maintenance."
"You didn't look like someone who would give me the time of the day."
Being a woman with men as best friends I think I had an edge over most women because I was fluent in "man-speak." LOL!
Most women wouldn't say hi which, at the time, was good for me. Why? MORE INVENTORY FOR YA GIRL TO CHECK OUT THAT'S WHY! LOL!
I have been known to send a guy a drink and smile at him across the room. Why? Why not. Do you KNOW how many times men have attempted to buy me drinks? I might not have accepted them...but they got my attention every single time. They might not have been my type...but they got my attention every single time. Eye contact...no less.
So...why NOT send a guy a drink? Why NOT get a guy's attention, assimilate whether or not he's single, single...and get exchange numbers? Why NOT make the first move?
Now I'll admit to being a woman not into chasing men...BUT...I do agree that a woman needs to show interest or she'll be passed over. QUICKLY. Why? Cuz there are a whole lot of single woman out there.
Nobody is saying to start ripping off your damn shirt and flashing folks and whatnot...but hey...what's wrong with showing interest? It always worked for me. I've never been one to be dateless or without a man for very long. And maybe...just maybe...it's why the odds were always in my favor.
So tell me. What do you think the roles are in 2007 regarding dating for men and women? Is being "old-fashioned" by not approaching or calling guys working for you?Married women...did you do anything UNCONVENTIONAL to catch the eye of YOUR guy?