Many couples that have been together seem to reignite after time apart.. Some figure it's easier to work with someone they know, rather than someone they aren't familiar with.. Is that settling??? Does it work???
If you have forgiven your significant other for infidelity in the past, and the commit the same infraction again... How many times would/should you forgive them??? Could there become a time when they start to take advantage of your kindness???
If you and your significant other agree to go out at times seperately, is there a curfew??? Should the male be allowed to stay out later because he may be able to take care of himself if something happens???
Thank you so much for checking on us. Richard was discharged Wednesday evening. The doctors recommended putting him in a stroke rehab center, I opted to bring him home instead. The only issue with bringing him home is I can't leave him alone. So the last few days have been trying, but were surviving. His parents will be arriving on Tuesday and will stay for the next month to help out. He's dealing with the situation pretty well. He can't comprehend spoken words, but we communicate by me typing and he responds verbally. Sounds bother him (the speech therapist warned me about this) everything is muted i.e. TV, phones so it's very quiet here. His first night home he woke up startled at 2:00 AM I tried talking to him, but he asked me not to; the slightest sound caused him pain. I soothed him and eventually it passed. Some times he cries and it breaks my heart. He worries about me; it blows me away that in his present situation he's worried about me.
He's sleeping right now. As I watch him I pray that God restores him. In the mean time I'm here for him regardless of how long it takes. I'm so in love with him and nothing will ever change that. He asked why do I love him so much. My response because he loves me so much. Before I met him I thought I knew what love was, I was so mistaken. He has shown me true love in the purest sense. We always joke that we have 50 years or more together. I'm looking forward to every second of those 50 years.
Thanks again for checking on us and listening to me as I babble. Thanks to the tribe for all the prayers. I don't feel alone and it's awesome to know others are seeking God on our behalf.
I'm not even sure how to go about asking this, but I think I saw somewhere on your blog where people were helping each other by trading clothing items, etc.
I have dropped a few pant sizes this year, and am not in a position to be able to go out and get new things, not even new "used" things. I am trying to find a good job, but am now jammed up with not having anything to even wear to an interview, let alone throughout the week if I were to land something.
I am wondering if you may know of anyone who has some size 10 or maybe even 9 at this point, business casual attire they may no longer need? Perhaps I could cover shipping expenses or pay a small fee for the items.
I hope this doesn't completely throw you for a loop. It's hard to be humble, but this is where I'm at.
If anyone has anything they can send to her please let me know and I will send you her address. Thank you in advance.
If you received a message from someone telling you they rather you join their fan page since they only accept friend requests from people they actually KNOW...what would you think? ESPECIALLY knowing you didn't send their azz a friend request in the first place. Weird huh?
He didn't make a lot of money when he was working because of the choices he's made in life.
The mother of his child is receiving about $50 every 2 weeks in child support from his unemployment benefits.
It's no where NEAR enough, of course.
He's getting to the point where he is allowing his life's circumstances to make him not care and he's being a nasty azz to everyone. Instead of showing positive emotion he withdraws because he feels defeated and pretends not to care.
You recognize this but also recognize that he's done this all of his life. When things don't go his way...he acts an azz and lashes out to those closest to him because he thinks they won't bail on him and instead take his shit.
It's also the reason he's always the first on the chopping block when it comes to lay offs because folks can't stank his attitude sometimes.
You don't deal with him on that level because you feel that he's a grown azz man and should KNOW better and treat the people trying to help him MUCH better.
You and your parents get along fine with your nephews mother.
Granted...you only deal with or see her when it's something involving the child but seriously...she's never been a problem and she's a good mother.
You and your parents get together and it is decided that you will send her a check once a month and your parents will step up buying clothing and school needs for the child.
You don't have a problem with this as your income supports this and you love the child dearly.
Your mother tells your brother what has been decided.
He calls you and asks that you give the money to him so he can give it to her. I
n fact...he PLEADS with you to do it this way because he already feels less of a man that he can't do more for his child. You don't say much during the conversation because you're thinking on it and he starts getting nasty...but again...that's his steelo...and it is who he is.
You're used to that.
He's your brother...you can't change that. You're going to do for the child regardless as to who gives the money to the child's mother.
I'm a Kanye fan as yall know. Dude is a genius and it's really quite that simple. Of course I purchased his current cd the day it was released and I bought it from the store so I could hold it in my hand.
I've been listening to it now for a minute and I'll be honest when I say that the music is so sick it's crazy.
The beats man?
Sure a couple of the songs go on for a tad too long but hey...I understand that he meant it to be that way. Symphonic rap is what I call this flavor and it just goes to show what everyone already knows...Kanye is mad talented like...WHOA.
The words however?
Is he spitting rhymes at you effortlessly? Yup. Is he waxing in a way that makes you smile when you catch it how he threw it? Yup.
Is he disturbed as hell?
Dude has issues man.
And they are all up and through the lyrics of this album.
SIP: And so does Chris Rock.
And I feel so sorry for him. Not in a way that is pitying but in a way that's like a big sister. Like...I'd like to meet him and let him come over to 13700 and play Scrabble with us and cuddle up with Lucy because she gives the best hugs. I'd like to cook for him and debate and argue with him. I'd like to show him that just because you disagree...doesn't mean you can't be friends. I'd like to help him see that all women aren't objects, want something from him, are evil, after his money, or drama filled.
Dude needs to see some of the good in the world.
Dude needs The Tribe.
The part that lets me know that this will never happen is because if it did...this type of genius might not be possible because you have to be in a very dark place to produce this type of renaissance filled in pain, strain and, dare I say...hate.
But we've all been there.
I want him to get better. I want his lyrics to get cleaner. MUCH cleaner. But I want him to continue creating and taking music to levels others have forgotten can exist between artists and fans.
I'm not a music critic. I simply like what I like. I like...no...LOVE Kanye's music but his lyrics bring me down. Waaaaaaaay down. And it makes me hurt for his tragic soul.
That baby misses his mommy.
Kanye...if you read this...you're welcome to our home for dinner. Leave your phone in the car, leave the papparazi at the airport. Don't show up drunk or high. There won't be any cameras. Oh...and don't wear black. Lucy loves to give hugs and her doggie hair will get all over your clothes.
Have you heard Kanye's My Beautiful Dark Twisted Fantasy yet?
Are you as impressed by it as the critics are?
SIP: Yes. Ridiculously so.
Are you able to separate Kanye the sometimes obnoxious, egotistical man from Kanye the artist?
SIP: I'll be honest when I say that it is sometimes extremely difficult to do but then you hear his music and listen to his lyrics and you realize he's a tortured soul. You recognize it is the reason he is able to create something so masterful. So...amazing. Some of his lyrics are crude and in extremely poor taste but you sense that, somehow, it's truly from his heart and that it's what he has such a complicated time coming to grips with. I hope he gets to a better place soon even though I hope that doesn't interfere with digging so deep and giving a face to that which so many deny even exists. Twisted fantasies.
We are so thankful to have you guys in our life and hope you're having the lovliest of holidays surrounded by family, framily and friends. Don't forget to give thanks for the life you have and for the opportunity to always be better, do better!
I think it's extremely important for the child to know both sides of his family.
HOWEVER...I understand there is a time and a place.
I think an Aunt can be involved in a child's life without it having to take place during major holidays when it might cause a MAJOR issue.
I think it's the father's place to formally introduce his child to the family...NOT the Aunt.
I don't think the child should call the UNCLE daddy. o_0.
The kid is 5. It won't matter to him if he has Thanksgiving with his maternal or paternal family at this age. As his favorite Aunt...EVERY.SINGLE.OTHER.DAY can be special.
Until such a time as either A.) The father and stepmother step up and be better, bigger people....OR B.) The child is old enough to ask questions he wants and DESERVES answers to.
If you don't care for family members don't invite them over. ALL FAMILY AIN'T GOOD FAMILY.
Do I think old girl was being messy? Hmmmmm...good question. I don't think that was her intent but I do think she got to the point where she didn't give a rat's azz what two people she doesn't care for thought.
Okay, so this is the deal. I am having about 30+ folks over to the house for Turkey Day. My brother is coming with his wife and 7 kids. . . . or so I thought. (He was supposed to bring the Publix cake)
He backed out because he doesn't like the fact that I am friends with his ex-mistress who had a baby by him that his trifling ass doesn't take care of. He is mad that not only do I stay in touch with him, his son calls my hubby daddy. He is upset that I am having him over to meet the rest of our family tomorrow. I wasn't at first, but then again, everyone knows about the baby so stop hiding him.
His wife took him back but wants him and my family to not have any contact. As a woman, I think that is a trifling thing. I really don't do him or his wife, but our grandfather died 2 months ago and this is our family's way of honoring him by everyone getting together.
Even my crackhead auntie and uncle are coming and I really don't want them there but this is bigger than me. Should I renege on having my nephew over and try to convince my brother to come over? Should I say eff my brother and his wife and bring my nephew? I am confused. I don't have to be anonymous as I will answer any questions that come up on the comments. Thanks!
1. Boil brine and cool 2. Go to Whole Foods A. kale B. Onions C. Tomatoes D. 4 pounds of shrimp E. Pie shell F. Butter G. Oatmeal 3. Liquor store A. Kailua or Baileys 4. Pick up turkey 5. Brine turkey 6. Bloomies to exchange cargo pants 7. Get stuffed peppers oven ready 8. Get Creole cornbread dressing oven ready 9. Bake cakes, pies, and them lil chocolate things 10. Beat Robby at Scrabble