You and a friend decide to buddy up to lose weight.
Yall start and check in several times a day holding the other accountable.
You start working out together too and discussing your meals.
After about 2 months, the friend starts slacking off and gains the weight she'd lost back and then some.
You don't...you've made it a FOR REAL, FOR LIFE GOAL.
You join a running group of women and you're really enjoying the progress you're making and the friendships with some awesome and positive women.
You've lost 20+ pounds and you feel AMAZING and look even MORE AMAZING!
You and your friend speak less and less and you haven't seen her in a couple of months.
You go to Facebook and note she's unfriended you.
You call her and she doesn't answer but you leave a message.
You then send her an email and she responds by saying she's surprised you remembered her contact information since it's obvious you have new friends you'd rather spend your time with.
How do you handle?
I've had an amazing morning already k nocking things off my list.
Speaking of lists. I have two running lists. I have a to-do daily list and I have a long term list. Well...I knocked something off my long term list recently and I can't tell you how happy I am about it. I have a tremendous sense of accomplishment when that happens and I just sit back all smug in being me.
I'm almost finished with THE BOOK!
Actually...I'm looking for someone to do cover art right now. I don't think I'm all that crazy about covers with people on them although the book has people in it. LOL!
Do yall know how hard it is to write a book? Like...it's CRAZY difficult!
Who'da thunk it would be easier to write a script than a book?
You have a dream to do something you don't know how to do yet.
You meet someone who does the kind of work you want to do.
You do some work for them, for free, and they screw you over.
But you did learn a lesson.
You didn't let it deter you and you keep learning, growing and getting better once you found a real mentor who was doing things on the scale you wanted to do things.
Years later, the person who screwed you over reaches out to offer you congrats on your successes.
They have a project they want to talk to you about.
Would you take the meeting?
You've got to be kidding me!
My phone flat out blinked off and now I can't turn it on. The battery is built in so you can't "reset" it.
I type the words 'Droid 4' into Mr. Google and IMMEDIATELY 'Droid 4 won't turn on' is the first search option.
Guess who is NOT amused to have to go to Verizon.
Have you had any problems with your phone recently?
I wash this top probably twice a week so I can wear it. Like...I've fished it out of the hamper and washed it solo before that's just how much I love it. I found it at TJMaxx for like $24.99 and immediately started looking around for other tops by this brand and came up short. It has a built in sports bra and it's so comfy, flattering and cool! And I LURVE the bright orange color that you can't see here because my laptop camera is tripping. LOL!
I checked out their website and haven't found anything even remotely as cute as this one but I'll keep looking for this brand when I'm out and about. MPG Sports
What's the last thing you scored at TJMaxx or Marshall's that really made you happy?
Do YOU have any item of clothing you reach for time and time again because you LOVE it?
There are two schools in your area. One public...one private.
The public school is about average in the scale of schools in your state.
The makeup of students is pretty much even across the board as it relates to diversity.
The private school is reasonably priced but they are in the excellent range in the scale of schools in your state.
The makeup of students is EXTREMELY disproportionate and your child will likely be the only child of that skin color in his class every.single.year.
Which school do you send your child to?
How do you decide?
You ever reconnected with someone and it quickly became obvious why you voluntarily DISCONNECTED with them in the first place?
How did you handle? Was it a big azz discussion or did you just shut it down again quietly?
CreoleInDC: a butterfly just scared the crap out of jaru
Friend: ain't worth a damn.
CreoleInDC: He in the house on the sofa now.
CreoleInDC: Trying to calm the fug down.
CreoleInDC: Breathing like it was a close call.
Friend: omg that made me laugh out loud
CreoleInDC: I swear that dog ain't ish.
Tracy Anderson was on my television this morning defending something she said.
“A lot of women use pregnancy as an excuse to let their bodies go, and that’s the worst thing.”
I started laughing to myself KNOWING the mommies against anything were going to go after her.
Then...they started showing clips of Tracy working out when she was pregnant and she told her story of how she let herself go with her first pregnancy and how it was so hard to get back in shape after the baby and because she was so out of shape she didn't have a lot of energy and it wasn't a particularly joyous time. So...for her second baby...she worked out the entire time and was shocked at how much energy she always had. Oh...and she said it was easy to get back into shape after baby two.
So basically...she was telling her truth.
What do YOU think about what she said? Should the mommies-against-every.single.thing-in-the-world-other-than-couponing be mad?
A man with enough money to buy affection from beautiful women.
A woman beautiful enough, in the eyes of men, to make the man WANT to shower her with gifts?
Did your parents have access to your checking account at any time? Were they able to make deposits or transfers from their account?
Was your account ever linked to their account?
Are you linked to your kids' accounts?
Do you run into political discussions at work? How do you handle?
"A woman who is given things and money by men she's dating shouldn't be looked at any differently as a wife whose husband provides for her."
What say you?
This is what I'm currently reading: The Next Best Thing: A Novel
What are you reading? Would you recommend?
You REALLY need a massage.
You schedule one at your normal spa and your normal masseuse is on maternity leave.
You try someone else.
The new masseuse starts talking pretty much as soon as she arrives.
You think it's going to stop soon but it doesn't.
She keeps talking.
Robby and I went through our books and purged on Sunday. It wasn't easy.
Do YOU still have any books from college?
How long have you had them?
Have you ever picked them up again as a reference?
A woman is dating a guy she is really digging.
Some things aren't quite right with him, but she'd rather be with him than without a man period.
As these things end up going in the world we live in, Facebook brings to light that he's married with a baby on the way.
Hysterical, she confronts him and it all falls apart.
She tells her best girlfriend and is so hurt and so mad she says she's going to contact his wife and let her know what he's been up to.
Her girlfriend tells her to not do that because that woman is pregnant and doesn't deserve to have this dumped on her right now because it will devastate her too.
She gets pissed because her girlfriend is essentially telling her that he should be able to get away with using her and cheating on his wife.
What say YOU?
What's the cheating ETIQUETTE?
How often do you cook from a recipe?
Where are your favorite places to find new recipes?
You're on a first date to a guy.
When you met he was pretty cool.
When you show up he's at the bar and it seems as if he's in an extremely foul mood.
He's polite but not charming at all.
He's brooding, not engaging in conversation, etc.
You're beginning to feel like this was a bad idea and you're looking for an exit out of this date so you can get home in time to watch your favorite television show.
He excuses himself to go to the restroom and returns acting like a whole new person.
He's charming, fun, funny, engaging, etc.
Do you question this?
Or do you just go with the flow?
Do you wonder if he went to the bathroom and took something you'd be shocked to find out he took?
Robby: Where's your Nikon?
Me: Over there.
Robby: Where's your Canon?
Robby: What camera did you use to take the pics on your blog today?
Me: My cellphone.
Robby: But you have a Nikon AND a Canon. Why are you using the damn crappy cellphone camera when you have two VERY good cameras?
Me: Hello to you too. Hope you had a good day.
Robby: Well I'm just saying it's ridiculous that's all. Those pictures are all blurry and look bad. Just makes no sense.
And then...he disappears upstairs...
Comes back downstairs...
Robby: Well? How was track practice?
Robby: That's because all you're used to is playing video games. I bet if you ran a race with your thumbs you'd win. How was school?
E: It wasn't great...it didn't kill me.
Robby: It's the first day of the rest of your life kid. You'd better get to liking it. Quickly.
No encouraging words. No jokes. No nothing even remotely Robby-ish.
He goes down to the mancave.
E looks at me.
I look at E.
I shrug my shoulders.
Lucy decides not to follow him.
Jaru comes upstairs FROM the mancave.
Yeah...dude came home in a BAD.MOOD.
How do you handle when YOUR normally awesome guy comes home in foul azz mood?
SIP: You gonna take some better pictures or what?
I'd like to ask a few questions if you don't mind about politics and our bodies.
1. How do you feel knowing that only 16% of Congress is made up by women?
2. Do you think if that number were higher then there were be fewer "laws" regarding what can/cannot, should/should not happen with our bodies?
3. Regardless if you're pro-life or pro-choice...do you think it's something Congress should get to control?
4. How did you feel learning that Todd Akin sits on the House of Science Committee and yet spit out that "legitimate rape" crap?
5. Do you think birth control options should be dealt with in any other form other than a woman deciding PERSONALLY what she wants to do and how she wants to do it?
6. How do you feel about the fight about insurance and birth control pills?
I got the organizing bug from looking at all of the organizing options on Pinterest I even started a board about it with some of the cooler things I ran across. Organize It ALL!
We had a basement storage area from hell. Like...we'd talked about installing shelves forever and life just got in the way and we never got around to doing it. See...Robby and I are pretty lazy at home. I think it's because we're the type of people who go all out when we're at work. Like...we WORK so when we get home...we CHILL.
SIP: Lazy azzes.
So yeah...I just went ahead and ordered the dang shelves and it forced us to make a move and we got to getting. Basement Storage Clutter Solution!
Slowly but surely we've been de-cluttering our home. Getting rid of things we never use for whatever reason and organizing what's left.
I'm currently doing our bedroom, bathroom and bedroom closet (which houses our everyday clothes and shoes). I purged first and then made an assessment of what is left over and now I'm trying to figure out the best way to store everything leftover.
Your father lives with you and your spouse.
You're in the process of planning your will and the subject of your father comes up.
Your spouse indicates they are uncomfortable with the thought of taking care of YOUR father for the rest of his life should something happen to you.
I had a conversation with a male friend at an event recently about stay-at-home wives.
Which, for the most part, I am.
He asked me if I always wanted to be a stay-at-home wife and I said I always wanted to be a stay-at-home mother and wife. I told him how we set up our life so that we could have all the pieces in place in order to raise a child or children the way we wanted to and, when that didn't happen, I went with my Plan B.
So...he asked if I'd told The Robinator that I wanted to be a stay-at-home mom prior to our getting married and I told him absolutely. We'd discussed it from the very beginning when we talked about what we wanted out of life so yeah...he knew.
He then told me that if Robby had been a Black guy...we probably would have stopped dating immediately after making that known and, if most Black women who want to be a stay-at-home mom were smart...they'd keep that to themselves until after the wedding and she was good and pregnant.
I was deep into a dirty martini so I asked him a few questions a'la Ms. Smart to get him to continue to talk.
And talk he did.
Basically he stated that ain't no Black man looking to take care of a grown azz woman who is capable of working and that if the man has to go out and work...the woman has to as well cuz it ain't cheap living in the world we live in and unless the man was big time wealthy...it's not something he could even consider in 2012. He said Black men aren't wired for the possibility because life will always be more of a struggle in their minds.
I shut him down, of course, because I know more than a few stay-at-home moms. I conceded that for certain men PERIOD...this may be true but not to loop all Black men into this way of thinking. I also let him know that I'd dated Black men exclusively prior to Robby and all the guys I dated knew this and it wasn't a deal breaker.
This conversation came up again recently with a couple of female friends and they, surprisingly, agreed with my male friend. Someone even said, "Bring that up on a date and rest assured...it will be your last date or a big azz argument for sure."
It was also stated that a black man wouldn't automatically think this way if the woman they were dating was White because they have this Madonna image of White women which doesn't extend to Black women.
SIP: Are you going to tell them that you stopped talking after that tidbit?
Me: They probably already know.
So yeah...what do YOU think? Have YOU ever had this conversation with a man? What did/do they say? Do YOU think you should keep this kind of information to yourself?
Those of you who are stay-at-home moms and wives...was it a conversation prior to your getting married or did it just happen organically?
Our electricity bill averages about $250 a month.
Is that low, average or high compared to your bill?