I saw this on a t-shirt.
No...I really did.
And it made me shake my head slowly.
The other night a young man who is my Facebook friend said something negative about his job on his wall. It was REALLY negative. Like...the kind of thing you or I would vent to our S/O or best friend about. NEVER something we'd put out there to be used as ammunition against us one day.
I was out and about so I used my phone to comment by saying he should take that off his wall. I then went to send him a private message telling him exactly why I thought that because yeah...I know of people who've been fired behind a Facebook status message before. By the time I finished typing up my message, he'd unfriended and blocked me so I couldn't send it. I was like...WHOA...what the hell was that?
And then I thought about another young man I would give real live, serious advice to about career decisions, life decisions, etc. and then I learned later that he felt I was always talking down to him and that he knew what he was doing.
Because he knew it all and his pride was such that...WHO DOES SHE THINK SHE IS TRYING TO TELL ME SOMETHING...I'M A GROWN AZZ MAN.
SIP: With that milk mustache on top of his lip.
That particular young man hit one of those blocks and is ashamed to tell me about it but I know...and yet, say nothing.
I know of another young man who is the same way until he does hit a road block. You know...all biggedy and ish like he knows every dang thing and can't nobody tell him anything. He's quick to get all swole in the chest when someone DOES attempt to tell him something that contradicts how he THINKS things actually are. Then...when there is a problem and he realizes he is limited in knowledge as to how to handle...he's back to being a mama's boy.
I sit and I watch these things and I wonder where it all comes from. How is it that so many of these teenage boys have so much pride and yet...ain't done ish to be proud of yet? Where do they get this whole mantra of, "I don't like the way such-and-such talks to me. Like I'm a boy." BOY! YOU ARE A DAMN BOY HELL!
And then I wonder...if they aren't listening to the people who have their genuine best interests at heart and are only telling them things they need to hear so they have the knowledge necessary to NOT make a lot of silly mistakes...is it no wonder that so many young men aren't where they should be in life? Is it any wonder that young women of the same age are light years ahead of them by way of maturity?
Like...while they're all busy trying to be all macho and shit cuz they think that's all it takes to be a man...the young lady, their age, is working part-time saving her money to buy a car to make her commute back and forth from college easier.
Where is the disconnect with young men? Young men, who grow up to be men (in age only) who still have this same, backwards azz thought process about chest puffing making them a man.
I'm constantly thinking in my head when I see these kids, "WHO DO YOU THINK YOU ARE LIL BOY? YOU AIN'T NOBODY AND AIN'T DID SHIT TO BE TRYING TO DEMAND THAT FOLKS RESPECT YOU THE WAY YOUR COCKEYED AZZ THINKS YOU DESERVE TO BE RESPECTED! PUT IN SOME WORK! JUST SHUT THE HELL UP AND LISTEN TO PEOPLE WHO DON'T MEAN YOUR THROWED OFF AZZ ANY HARM HELL!"
But I don't say anything. I just stare at them in complete radio silence knowing they are going to have a hard azz period before they "get it."
If they ever do.
Do YOU know any young men? Late-teen's, early 20's? Do you sense that false sense of overinflated pride about nothing that I oftentimes detect? Or is it just me?
Do you say anything?
What do YOU think about this?
WHO IS BREAKING REAL LIFE DOWN FOR THESE KIDS?