Last night we went to see "This Is 40." It was a bit longer than we thought it should be but that's that style of movies this crew does where they just ramble and talk like we do in real life so it's cool if you like that in a movie.
There were some major gut busting laughs...especially during the weekend getaway scenes.
There is one part in the movie where a couple was apologizing to each other for a stupid fight they'd had. The woman said something along the lines of wanting to be with her husband forever and the husband was like...you're already with me forever...da hell you talking about?
And that made me smile cuz that's how Robby and I view marriage. Hell...we're together forever so yeah...be mad...and get over that shit cuz ain't nobody going nowhere and we don't want to be miserable so we need to sit down and deal with this shit as it is and make it better.
See...we respect and love each other so we take things the other says seriously when we have a problem. Now...please don't think that means we've mastered communicating effectively all the time cuz it doesn't. Sometimes I don't wanna hear shit right then and sometimes he doesn't wanna hear shit right then.
But we always circle back around to it and deal with it. We don't walk or run away when we're fighting. I wish Robby would walk off and out of my house like somebody stole his damn bike. That shit is disrespectful. You'd better take your mad azz to the basement until you can use your words hell.
And that's vice versa.
I used to be the type who needed to get as far away as possible from an S/O who'd pissed me off but honestly...that was just me being immature or maybe it was just me with someone who wasn't Robby...the love of my life. I can be mad at Robby and be right up under him because I know whatever thing I'm mad about isn't who he is completely.
We both have things the other does which irks the hell out of us but we realize we're being irrational that it irks us so we try not to say anything about it because seriously...it's just dumb and thank goodness we have enough sense to understand that too.
The thing we do right more than anything, in my opinion, is laugh. It's always comedy at 13700. ALWAYS. And I wouldn't change it for the world.
The best thing about the movie is that it will probably make you talk about and think about your marriage. We drove home laughing and talking and then got home pretty happy and secure with what we have. The second we walked into our home I looked at Robby and said..."And this is 43."
And it is.
Ain't nobody going nowhere. That should be the mindset of marriage.
SIP: Unless there is cheating and beating.
What say YOU?