We are currently in Mississippi putting Robby's Grandmommy to rest. She left us on Tuesday, January 8th and she left a sudden void with all those who loved her and were blessed to have her love.
When the call came, my darling, sweet, loving husband broke down. He was so shattered...it cut me to my core. I would have done anything...and I mean ANYTHING to have him not hurt as much as he was hurting. As I held him while the pain wracked through his body...I rocked him and prayed for God to send him visions of better, happier times to get him to the other side of his grief.
Within a couple of hours we were on our way to the airport so he could get home to see about his mommy, who'd spent the previous day shopping with HER mommy...who'd left us that morning.
I couldn't catch that flight with him because I needed to make arrangements for Lucy but my heart was heavy as I kissed him and hugged him tight through his tears and I watched him walk into the airport to go home to a new tapestry...one which no longer included hugs, kisses and long talks with his Grandmommy although many lovely memories will always remain.
He was so hurt. My baby...he was so, so hurt.
My Grandmommy-in-law's obituary contains the following:
She loved the outdoors and being able to enjoy a great sunny day. While she didn’t like to travel, she was always up on current events and knew what was going on in the world. She was always looking out for the neighbors and family in the community. She had a great sense of humor and loved to laugh at the everyday things in life. She never missed a phone call and was always a pillar of strength to her children and taught us to appreciate hard work. She lived a much uncomplicated life in a very complicated time. She loved listening to gospel music and reading her Bible. She liked things simple and tried to live her life that way as much as possible. She enjoyed visits from many family members and friends. She was married for 42 years when her husband passed away in 1989.
And that...is how I knew her as well. The first time I met her...she hugged me tight and kissed me right above my jawline softly. She was warm and soft with the loveliest sense of humor. The most important thing to her was that her family was happy and healthy. She knew how to LOVE.
As you're reading this...we are getting ready to go lay her to rest with honor, dignity and, above all else, love. Her memory will always remind us to be kind and nurturing. Her legacy to us will be to strive to be the person who brings out the best in others.
As you're reading this...I hope you're smiling and not sad for her family. She wouldn't want that. She'd want you to have a "good old time" and smile. She'd want your life to be of comfort and of purpose.
Thank you for reading this. My husband thanks you as well.