Yes...I said coversating. Leemelone.
SIP: She also said "leemelone."
I was on the phone conversating with someone I don't speak to often recently. She'd watch "The Coalition" and called to tell me how much she enjoyed it. We're friends on Facebook so she'd taken an opportunity to look through some of my pictures and commented on how I look at age 43. Basically...she thinks I look really good for my age and stated she wished she could look the same.
Her: But I can't be eating bird seeds like you do. *Giggle.Giggle*
Me: Well...I don't eat bird seed honey and you can do anything you want to do.
I got off the phone and kept doing what I was doing. Robby looked over and said, "Bird seed?" and I explained to him the gist of the conversating.
And then he started.
You should have given her more information. That could have been her cry out for help. You never know who might change their life because of something you share with them.
And I *YAWNED.*
Me: You finished?
Him: Yes. But I guess I'm surprised that you're reacting like this. You're usually so quick to help someone out.
Now...I had to a lot going on right then but I had some ish I needed to get off my chest with HIM so yeah...I decided to put my work to the side and go in.
Me: I can't talk to people about their weight. Talk to them and tell them what? I can't empathize because I don't have the same emotional connection to food that they do. I can't say anything to anyone who isn't TRULY ready to work on their weight without them rolling their eyes clean out their heads because I've NEVER had that emotional eating thing and I've NEVER been overweight.
Me: But nothing. I've learned this one the hard way. I can want them to lose the weight healthily but, unless they come to me and ask me specifically what they can do to change...then there is nothing I can tell them. And hey...I ain't telling them nothing they can't find from Mr. Google or that they don't already know. They are going to resent my saying anything about it because they aren't THERE yet. You want a for example?
Let's take you for example.
Before it clicked for you...anytime I said anything about what you were eating or suggesting maybe you change up your workouts...you got on the defensive. Some of our worst fights have been about food. You know there is nobody on this Earth I love more than you. You know I'm your best friend. You know I want you to be happy and healthy so we can live a good long life together. If YOU know this to be the full truth in your heart about me and yet YOU got defensive when I said something to you...then hell...how do you think the person I speak to maybe twice a year is going to feel if I say something?
I don't feel like hearing all of that or dealing with all of it if I don't have to. Why don't I talk about eating healthy and working out every.single.day? I don't talk about brushing my teeth or taking a shower either. It's what grown folks do if you want to maintain. They know this. I ain't gotta tell them. Shit...they see the results of NOT doing it as well as see the results of someone who DOES do it. If I'd said something to her in depth...she'd think "Skinny bitch" get off the phone feeling some kinda way and eat a party bag of chips before bed.
Him: I guess you have a point.
Me: Thank you. Did you take your vitamins today?
Him: Yes I took my gotdamn vitamins. Why do you always ask me that?