Last week, a young lady described my blog as a place for happily married women and their single friends with sense.
That made me smile because that pretty much sums it up over here.
The young lady is in a relationship and hoping it leads to marriage. She says it probably will. I told her that as long as things were going well...don't worry about the pace. If they are good to EACH OTHER...it will progress naturally. That sounds simple to some folks looking for a formula but that's what I believe.
Then...she shared with me that he has never really seen a successful marriage and she worries about that.
My question to you...do you think that's a factor?
I put myself into this situation and thunk on it. My parents? Um...yeah...they shouldn't have been together from jump. Seriously. I saw (what I thought back then) successful marriages but I've since been privy to adult information that made me think I wouldn't have put up with that ish either.
I know women who have amazing husbands who are the products of single mothers and I know men who have amazing wives who are the products of single mothers too. Hell...I know people from complete foster childhoods who are awesomely amazing mates.
I know I knew what I wanted and what I couldn't deal with for a lifetime. I hated my father's BECAUSE-I-SAID-SO approach to life as a family man and well...yall know about the other stuff where I WISH A FOOL WOULD!
The most important feature I think is a factor in having a successful marriage is respect. If a man, or woman, understands respect...they pretty much have it, in my opinion.
What about you? Do you think never seeing a successful marriage is a factor?
SIP: They didn't have tv? They didn't watch Clair and Cliff like the rest of us?