Whenever I'm struggling with something I go over it and over it in my head until I'm comfortable with my action or reaction. There have been periods in my life where I've been quick to jump to the worst possible conclusion and I've grown enough to realize that it was because I wasn't in a good place in life. The times in my life when I wasn't in a good place I made poor decisions. VERY poor decisions.
And I stunted my personal growth.
The most perplexing part about it is that I knew good and well that I was wrong. I felt it in my gut and in that nagging, burning feeling I had whenever I thought about it and then...I had to fill my brain with other stuff just so I didn't think about it too much and allow the guilt to eat me alive.
Nothing is a better feeling than being your own good counsel. You know what you need to do and you have the power to make the decision to listen to yourself.
I know someone who feels like they don't have the internal good counsel mechanism and I argue with them that they do. They say they always jump to the worst conclusion first and it's why they don't trust anyone. I told them that's not true. See...sometimes you have to slow your roll in order for your good counsel to start working properly. Just STOP. Don't say anything and then THINK. Remember STOP, DROP AND ROLL? Well...
If you start doing that instead of popping off immediately, you'll figure it out without help from anyone else. You'll train yourself to be your OWN good counsel.
This might seem like something you don't need to work on but you do. I promise. We need to hone our inner radars properly. We need to recognize that we have the opportunity to grow every.single.day. And honestly...if we're not taking advantage of this...how will we ever know how great life can actually be?
Do you trust your own GOOD COUNSEL? Do you find, with age, that it's getting better?