I was watching an episode of "King of Queens" recently and Doug and Carrie had an argument. See...Doug was volunteering at the church to protect the Nativity scene from vandals and another husband was out there doing the same. The wife of the other husband noted it got colder and brought her husband a heavy coat and some hot soup. Doug was all like...um...yeah...well...my wife is probably on her way.
He called Carrie and she was posted up in bed all warm and snuggy. He told her he'd really like some soup and she was like..."Oh...that's funny! I just had some!"
But she made no mention of bringing him some.
Cuz it was cold outside and she was all warm and snuggly.
Later in the week, Doug noticed Carrie hadn't started getting the stuff to make a cake for the church bake sale. Old boy's wife had already started the prep work on hers and Doug ended up snapping on Carrie when she said she was going to buy one instead of baking it.
Doug: YOU'RE NOT WIFEISH!
That threw Carrie for a loop. She was like...what the hell are you talking about and he went on about stuff she doesn't do that other wives do and well...he sounded like he'd like her to start doing some of those things. Carrie was all...hey...you knew who I was when you met me. Deal with it.
I thought about that long and hard because I wondered what happens in real life when stuff like that goes down. I mean...if a husband or a wife decides they need more from their spouse...does it just end? Do they have to find a common ground or be in danger of the end of the marriage being nigh? Like...if Doug decided that he's been missing wifeish behavior from his wife...should Carrie at least TRY to be more wifeish or should Doug have to continue being married to a woman who isn't wifeish and has no desire to TRY and be wifeish even if that's what her husband says he'd like more of. You know...wifeish behavior.
AND...is Doug damn wrong for deciding what is considered wifeish and deciding his wife comes up short based on his wifeish criteria?
Carrie has said plenty of times that Doug has no ambition to be anything other than a delivery truck driver but hey...Doug never took that management exam because he doesn't want to do anything other than be a delivery truck driver, come home to his house and watch television with his wife and sports with Deacon and his boys. (I love me some Deacon by the way.)
Confusing I know.
What do you think? Should a couple evolve into being more of what the other wants as their marriage progresses to show their love?
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