LOUISIANA IN THE HIZ-OUSE PLAYA!
I shared that I was a PROUD Louisiana girl.
The person *BLINKED* and smiled...confused. He shared that I wasn't a rough around the edges and that I was all awesome and whatnot. My face shut down immediately and he was met with a chilly, sarcastically cold and haughty SIP.
Dude was also from Louisiana.
See...in HIS world...Black people didn't look, speak or carry themselves as I do. In his Louisiana world...a Black person wasn't like, or COULDN'T be like me.
I said some things he will remember.
Or he might not since his mind was obviously made up long ago about Black people and really...he probably gives nainh damn about his stereotyped beliefs.
Now...don't get me wrong...I know some people for whom this would be true...but the same can be said for White people, Hispanic people, Asian people, etc. Every skin color has people who aren't "shiny" as he put it. I don't assume they are all UN-shiny first and dismiss the possibility they might not fit within my stereotyping belief system.
I swear my eyes turned into snake slits I was so pissed. I got quiet while talking and sipped my wine slowly while reading him. He had the good grace to look embarrassed once he realized that yes...he did say that out loud and yes...I did hear him and yes...I WAS INSULTED AND ANNOYED. Dude thought he was doling out compliments to beautiful "shiny" women.
I blame Coley's mama. She brings all the boys to the yard. They get to giggling so much like school boys they don't realize a turd just fell out their mouth.
Do you still get backhanded negative stereotypical driven "compliments?" How do YOU handle?