Later, I thought about why I hesitated and honestly...I think it's because so many people have changed the definition of the word feminism. Then I thought to myself...well that's ridiculous and kept it moving.
I thought about this conversation with myself last night as, on a gander, I looked up the definition of the world feminism online and found one thing in common with all of the dictionary references online. They were all different. If the following definitions are still the case...then yes, I am:
So...I'm a feminist. *THROWS CONFETTI*
During a casual conversation with my Godson, it came out that he felt both men and women should take out the trash, remove snow from vehicles, clear the sidewalks, and take out the trash. I told him that he can believe whatever he wants to believe and he should think about it further on his way out the door to take out the trash. I decided to revisit it later and told him that Unca Robby does those things because he doesn't want me to have to.
E: Would you do it if he didn't want to do it?
Me: He'd never not want to do it if the alternative is me doing it.
E: But what if he couldn't?
Me: Then I'd do it. I'm perfectly capable of doing it, it's just not something I'd want to be responsible for. Same as Unca Robby not wanting to be responsible for cooking dinner or grocery shopping or dealing with a lot of stuff he doesn't want to deal with so I deal with and vice versa. Each of us have our own roles that, over time, we slid into naturally.
E: My wife is going to take out the trash and do all of that stuff too.
Me: If she doesn't have a problem doing those things...then she will. But if she has a problem with it because she was raised in a home where her father and brother did those things...she probably won't so make sure you're not trying to hand down ultimatums because the only women who are going to deal with your ultimatums are women who don't feel worthy of having choices and well...a whole set of extra problems comes along with a woman who is unsure of herself.
He started walking off...
So...in your opinion...do you think the definition of feminism has changed from what you've always known it to be? Can you be a feminist if you want equal rights across the board for women yet expect the man to take out the trash?
Am I a feminist? Are you?