You are a great mother.
Everyone knows this.
You also tend to keep to you and yourN.
Everyone knows this too.
A parent gains knowledge of something they knew you'd want to know about one of your children.
This parent doesn't know you well.
The parent goes to a mutual friend of both of you and tells the friend to tell you.
But she asks the mutual friend to NOT tell you where she got the information because she didn't want to dime out that it was her child who told her.
The mutual friend tells you because again...it's something you would WANT to know about one of your children.
And it's something that could be checked out quickly beyond a shadow of doubt quickly.
You check it out and find that it's true.
You're devastated and want to know more.
You ask the mutual friend who told her so that you could double back.
The mutual friend says she can't tell you because she promised she wouldn't but that she'd ask to see if the woman would change her mind.
She asks and the woman says no, she doesn't want to get involved any further. She has her own shit to deal with surrounding the situation.
The mutual friend tells you she asked but that the woman declined to be identified.
Would you get mad at the mutual friend?
Would you consider her untrustworthy now because she wouldn't betray the confidence of the other woman?
Would you be mad about this even though it was true and it was something you SERIOUSLY wanted to know about your child?
Should the mutual friend have not told you if she couldn't tell you where she got the information?
Was the woman with the information wrong for putting the other woman in the middle?