You have a good friend.
You don't see her often because you live in different states.
You tend to catch up and talk about once a month or so.
She is a friend you can count on and always has been.
You visit the friend recently and during the visit she confesses to you that she is having an affair.
With a married couple.
Both the man...AND the woman.
What do you say?
Would you distance yourself from her after this confession?
Would this weird you out?
Would you wonder why in the hell she told you this and didn't keep that a personal secret?
You have a family member who marries a woman that you really like.
They get married and have a child.
Years later, it comes to light that the child isn't his.
His wife had an indescretion the night before their wedding that didn't mean anything.
He comes to you for advice as he is devastated.
What would you tell him?
You are a great mother.
Everyone knows this.
You also tend to keep to you and yourN.
Everyone knows this too.
A parent gains knowledge of something they knew you'd want to know about one of your children.
This parent doesn't know you well.
The parent goes to a mutual friend of both of you and tells the friend to tell you.
But she asks the mutual friend to NOT tell you where she got the information because she didn't want to dime out that it was her child who told her.
The mutual friend tells you because again...it's something you would WANT to know about one of your children.
And it's something that could be checked out quickly beyond a shadow of doubt quickly.
You check it out and find that it's true.
You're devastated and want to know more.
You ask the mutual friend who told her so that you could double back.
The mutual friend says she can't tell you because she promised she wouldn't but that she'd ask to see if the woman would change her mind.
She asks and the woman says no, she doesn't want to get involved any further. She has her own shit to deal with surrounding the situation.
The mutual friend tells you she asked but that the woman declined to be identified.
Would you get mad at the mutual friend?
Would you consider her untrustworthy now because she wouldn't betray the confidence of the other woman?
Would you be mad about this even though it was true and it was something you SERIOUSLY wanted to know about your child?
Should the mutual friend have not told you if she couldn't tell you where she got the information?
Was the woman with the information wrong for putting the other woman in the middle?
A teacher unlocks her phone to allow a student to use it to call his/her parents.
While the student has the phone, he/she goes through the teacher's phone and finds nude selfies of the teacher.
The student shows other students and they take pictures of the nude pictures and post them online.
A student eventually tells the teacher about it and the teacher tries to get to the bottom of it on her own.
The school ends up finding out about it and the teacher is fired for being irresponsible with her phone, etc.
SIP: WHY DO PEOPLE KEEP TAKING NUDE PICTURES OF THEMSELVES?????????????????????????
A guy you were casually dating leaves to go to the Middle East as a contractor for 18 months.
While gone, he rented out his home.
He is REALLY excited about the tax free money he's going to make while staying "rent free" with his company and getting extra money over the cost of his mortgage as rent from his renters.
You and he email and Facetime at least weekly.
He ends up only doing 14 months because the company he was with had all of their contracts frozen and he comes back to the states while they cut costss.
He calls you and you're excited to hear he's back.
He wants to see you and you say HELL YEAH!
He picks you up and takes you to a FABULOUS restaurant.
While there he tells you about his "homeless" situation and wonders if you'd let him crash at your place for 4 months until the lease is up on his house.
What say you?
A mother works at McDonald's.
She brings her 9 year old child to work to sit in the restaurant and use the laptop with free WiFi.
The laptop is stolen during a home burglary.
After being bored at McDonald's, the child asked her mother could she go to the nearby park instead of to the restaurant.
The mother gives the child a cellphone and agrees.
This becomes their routine.
The child would go to the McDonald's (located inside a Walmart) for lunch.
One day a woman asked the child about her mother and the child answered that she was at work.
The woman called the police.
The mother was arrested and the child taken into protective custody.
I read that article with my face frowned up so badly I know I created at least 2 new wrinkles. I blame Slate for that.
In rejecting an outfit, I have never, ever communicated to my child that her dress was a “distraction” to others or that she bore responsibility if someone reacted in any way—favorably, rudely, distracted, or otherwise—to her body. That schools are passing on this very message to her and other female students—and simultaneously communicating to boys that their learning environment is being compromised by the sight of girls' limbs or cleavage—is unhealthy and unsound at best, illegal at worst.
I must have reread that passage three times trying to find it in me to have the outrage that mother feels about her daughter being yanked for those shorts. Well, I couldn't muster up a single seed. Her faux outrage on the possibility of pretend rights being stepped on just made me roll my eyes.
Ma'am...your daughter's shorts are too short. I don't know nothing about birthing no babies...but I know that baby's shorts are too short. And when I say that, I'm not adding a single other thing to it. I'm not saying she's going to mess around and get groped because we know the wrong type of male will grope a nun. I'm not saying it means she's going to be promiscuous when she grows up because plenty of people have removed long, flowy pants to get their groove on. All I'm saying, simply, is that your daughter's shorts are too short. It's not a political statement. It's not a sexist or feminist statement from where I'm coming from. It's a decency statement. I think it looks indecent when I see ANYONE with shorts on that short. Where I'm from, we call them coochie cutters and it's always said with our lip curled on one side. Buy her some longer shorts. Simple.
What say YOU? Do YOU think those shorts are too short? Would you let YOUR preteen daughter wear them? Do you think the mother is reaching, big time, in this article? Or do you understand where she's coming from and feels like dress codes are placing unwanted body stigmas on girls?
A woman makes an appointment to have her daughter's hair braided.
The appointment started off all wrong because the woman dropped her daughter off two hours late.
The mother ran errands.
The stylist braids the little girl's hair (child looks to be around 6) beautifully.
She takes pics and put her on Instagram account as she always does when she braids a clients hair.
She calls the mother.
Mother says she'll be there in twenty minutes.
Two hours later...the mother isn't there.
Mother says she had a flat tire so stylist gives the child a ride home based on the directions the mother gave her.
Turns out...it was to her grandmother's house. The child lived down the street.
Stylist drives child to her home and sends her in to get hermother.
Child comes back and says mother isn't that, just her brother.
Stylist leaves but then gets super annoyed so he goes bak, asks the little girl to come out and cuts the braids out of the child's hair.
She then takes pics of the child and posts them to her Instagram account too as a warning to anyone who thinks it's okay to play with her money.
Stylist says she was away from her kids for 9 hours dealing with the child's mother and doing the child's braids.
She could have scheduled another client, etc. and been paid properly.
Do YOU think the stylist did anything wrong?
A guy you're dating buys his daughter Michael Kors' bags from department stores.
You share with him that he can get a much better deal on Michael Kors' purses at TJMaxx or Marshall's.
You don't hear from him a while after the conversation.
Turns out, he had a problem with your telling him he could get a better deal on purses for his daughter.
Says that you were trying to tell him how to spend his money on his child and he's grown.
Is this a red flag?
Your husband used to work with a woman who is known to be undercover hoochie.
Your husband told you about some of her exploits from years ago.
You're at a party and she is there.
You look across the room and you see she's MIGHTY friendly with your husband and all up in his face.
Would you EVER check her there?
Would you check your mate there?
Or would you say nothing until you got home?
You're dating online.
You get a message from someone you dated when you were 25.
You are now 38.
They are currently divorced, 1 child.
Seem to be doing well in life.
You know YOU'RE not the same person you were when you were 25.
Would you agree to a date?
I believe in true love and I always have. I believe that love manifests in ways that make it known without a shadow of a doubt.
The quickening of your heart, the heat that rises from your chest. You stomach flipping over and over while your pupils dilate and a heavier, hotter scent emerges from your body at the mere thought of someone.
And I also believe that love can and should be denied the opportunity to flourish.
We all have our deal-breakers. We all know what we can and can't deal with.
Or at least we should.
Let's say that you move in with the person you love. You move your stuff in, they move their stuff in. You're both on the lease. The first night in the new home, they don't come home. You call and call but the calls go straight to voicemail. They don't call you. No text. No email. Nothing.
You get up and go to work the next day.
You go home and their car is there.
You go inside and they are in there unpacking their boxes or some random new house ish.
Your pulse jumps. Your heart breathes a sigh of relief that they aren't hurt somewhere.
What is the first thing you say? What do you do? How in the world do you handle such disrespect from the person you love and just made a MAJOR life decision with? What do you do?
You are a gamillionare.
Your parents are married.
You are VERY close to your mother.
Your father cheats on your mother.
The other woman gets pregnant.
Your mother divorces your father.
Your father is ordered to pay child support.
He doesn't even though he should be able to afford to.
The mother isn't working.
She can't pay her bills.
She's being evicted.
She's on welfare.
The child of the affair is your half-sibling.
You are still VERY close to your mother.
What do you feel is YOUR obligation to your half-sibling and his/her mother?
You're a gamillionare.
Your father marries a 52 year old woman who is an assistant principal.
She owns a house outright.
You buy a house for your father and his wife to live in.
Custom built. They picked out every.single.tile.
After 12 years of marriage, your father does something stupid and he and his wife split up.
He leaves the house.
During the marriage, his wife mortgaged her paid for house to put money into his business.
You pay off THAT mortgage and offer her the original house back.
She doesn't want to live in that house anymore.
She wants to stay in her mansion and anyway...her daughter and kids now live in her old home.
Divorce is over.
It's been 2 years since your father left.
YOU own the mansion she's living in.
You've purchased your father a NEW home.
What do you do about the house that you own that his ex-wife is still living in?
You're on a group trip with friends from college.
Everyone arrives and gets situated in their rooms.
One of your male friends arrive with a woman who is NOT his wife.
He sends her up to their room and comes down to ask yall not to post any pictures on FB of him and old girl.
How do you respond?
Do you consider it disrespectful to yall that he brought his mistress along on a reunion trip?
How would you interact with her knowing she KNOWS he's married?
Would you go out of your way to make sure old girl isn't in any of your pictures?
My wife and I are having a disagreement over the latest Dear Abby (http://www.uexpress.com/dearabby/2014/3/20).
One of the letters is about a woman who moved in with her boyfriend and now the living situation has got to the point where she is calling it abuse. As the letter is printed, I do not see it as abuse but my wife does. I see it as a situation where she is in his house and he has a way of doing things and neither of them have adjusted to each other. I think she needs to sit down and talk to him about her concerns. She is stressed and probably does need to leave, though. What do you and your readers think?
A teenager is pregnant.
She gives birth to a stillborn child.
The doctor, well known as being highly controversial, finds traces of a chemical produced by cocaine in the child's system.
There is little doubt the mother used cocaine while pregnant.
The state of Mississippi charges the young mother with murder.
That was an interesting read.
So...say you're STD free and you meet someone who is awesome in every way and then they disclose that they have an STD.
Would YOU be able to continue dating them?
Or would you bail?
Anonymous comments on this one are cool.
Your 18 year old son has graduated from high school but doesn't have a plan yet.
His grades were simply that which didn't get him into a good college and, if you're honest, he's not ready for college yet and you know he'll screw up until HE'S ready to go to college.
So...he is still home.
Everyone else in your home goes to work and school during the day.
He's been trying to find a job...but hasn't been able to yet.
A neighbor tells you that he has been having company during the day and the young lady leaves before your younger daughter gets home from school.
You don't know anything about this.
You have told your 18 year old that he has to be home by 2:00am.
He's a high school graduate.
He doesn't have a plan yet.
You have told this man child on MORE THAN ONE OCCASION TO NOT COME IN YOUR HOME PAST 2:00AM.
It's past 2:00am. He's not home. You put the deadbolt on. He comes home at 3:15am. It's 20 degrees outside. He doesn't have a car.
Do you let him in?
A 40-some year old single man is hit on BIG.TIME by a 21 year old woman who makes it clear she is digging him.
He is flattered but keeps it moving.
She tries to get is attention again on another occasion and you're with him.
He asks your opinion on whether or not he should ask her out.
What would YOU say?
You're at a friend's place when you meet someone.
The someone is annoying as hell.
You're polite because your friend does business with them.
You run into the annoying person a few days later and they are even MORE annoying and...slightly offensive.
How do you react knowing you met them through someone they do business with who is a friend of yours?
Does respect for your friend cause you to be as polite as possible or, since you're somewhere else and the friend isn't around, are you comfortable tagging that azz?
It's Valentine's Day and you're in a new relationship which is going along amazingly.
You're extremely happy.
Your best girlfriend is single and you decide to send her some flowers to her office for Valentine's Day.
You share this with your guy before you do it and he tells you to make sure she won't be offended first.
You question him and he says that well...it might come across as your feeling sorry for her or something because she doesn't have a boyfriend.
You never thought of that before.
What do you do?
You ignore your crazy sister and attend your niece's wedding.
When your niece sees you as she's walking down the aisle she looks SOOOOOOOOOO HAPPY!
You ignore your sister and look past her whenever she is in your eye line.
You arrive at the reception and you and your husband don't have a seat at a table.
Your children do.
How do you handle?
Your niece is getting married.
You ADORE your niece.
You have been estranged from your sister, her mother, for a few years.
You're completely okay with this as you've decided the less time you spend together...the better.
You received an invitation and RSVP'd for you, your husband and your two children.
The morning of the wedding you get a call from your sister.
Your sister tells you that she doesn't want you and your husband at the wedding but that your two children (early 20s) can attend.
How do you handle?
A friend asks you to pick them up from the airport.
The friend's flight is delayed because of the weather where they are flying from.
They let you know via text that their flight is delayed by 3 hours RIGHT BEFORE THEY TAKE OFF.
You immediately call to let them know you won't be available to pick them up and the call goes straight to voicemail suggesting they've turned their phone off.
How do you proceed?
A.) Leave them a message telling them that they are going to have to arrange transportation once they arrive.
B.) Call a mutual friend to see if they are available to pick the friend up.
C.) Change your plans to accomodate the friend.
You just found out that your husband's best friend is a serial cheater from a pretty reliable source.
Turns out he messed with the wrong woman and she's a better detective than the FBI.
Are you disturbed by this information?
Do you have a problem with your husband spending time with him after finding this out?
Do you have a problem with him being in your home after finding this out?
Your husband goes to a club.
He's enjoying himself people watching by the bar.
An attractive woman comes up and orders drinks.
Your husband jokingly looks at her wedding ring finger and asks her why she isn't married looking the way she looks.
She says something random about not having found the right one yet, etc. while looking at his wedding ring finger.
Your husband doesn't wear a ring.
He told you from the beginning of your relationship that he wasn't going to.
He buys the woman's drinks and gives her his card before he leaves.
The woman he gave his card to sends him an email thanking him for being a gentleman.
He responds back by saying she should text him because it's quicker for him to respond that way.
She's not the TEXTING A DUDE RIGHT OFF THE BAT TYPE so she responds via email and straight off the bat asks if he's married so she could get that out of the way.
Ain't nobody trying to be Mary Jane'd.
He responds by saying yes he's married blah, blah, blah.
The woman ceases all communication with him because, again, she ain't a Mary Jane.
Now...if YOU were the dude's wife...did he do anything wrong? Are you pissed if you find out about this? Or was he simply being a nice guy? Would you have a problem with your husband buying a woman YALL don't know and he's not trying to do some type of legitimate business with drinks?
You spend a lot of time with your family weekly.
You've been invited to spend Christmas with your best friend's family in sunny California.
You'd like a trip because life has been a bit mundane lately.
You tell your mother and she's upset but it seems to be okay.
The closer it gets to the time you're supposed to leave...the saltier she gets.
Your sister tells you that she's hurt and LIVID that you won't be home for Christmas.
I'm sorry to tell you this because it seems as if many people think that once you fall in love and take your relationship to the next level...everything is going to be perfect. Disney birds are going to start flying around your house, magical music notes will float up from the floor under your every step. Love will make it all perfect and you will be in seventh heaven.
Your home will always be lovely. You'll have amazing meals seated at a table every.single.night with matching place settings and healthy, heart happy meals.
You will always, ALWAYS, want to be right up under the one you love just breathing in yall's perfection as a couple knowing you're doing it all right.
And then one day you'll wake up from that damn dream and see what it's REALLY like and you'll start to have problems because your crazy azz has been living in never-never land and Michael Jackson put the key inside a big azz tiger or some shit.
Cuz yeah...that shit is a fantasy.
Ladies...gentlemen...please help us out here. I have a young newlywed who is finding out that the hazy, bubble she was living in inside of her head was all a dream. Please let her know that WE ALL know good and well that it's not always Disney birds and shit even though it's good most of the time. Tell her about how you can ask your spouse to do something a hundred GAMILLION TIMES and it doesn't get done until you snap and jump all the way cray-cray-crazy. Tell her about how, even though they KNOW, Christmas is coming, they will still complain about picking up the tree knowing GOOD AND DAMN WELL THEY LOVE IT WHEN THE TREE IS UP AND EVERYTHING IS ALL CHRISTMASY PERFECT! Tell her about how you can love your spouse to the ends of the earth and beyond but sometimes...SOMETIMES...you just need some down time without ANY TALKING until you can talk again.
These younguns need advice on how to handle the non-blissful stuff. Please advise.
You're out shopping with your mother-in-law and you're not feeling good.
She takes one look at you, asks a few questions and tells you that you are pregnant.
You freak out, stop to get a test and IMMEDIATELY take it!
You're sooooooooooooo happy! You start planning how you're going to surprise your husband with the news and your phone rings.
Your MIL has already texted him with the news.
Our daughter "Amanda" lives in another state and has been married to "Jacob" for several years. Theirs is an open relationship, and I have always known that. My husband, however has kept his head in the sand regarding this. My daughter has a boyfriend, "Tom,” whom Jacob knows about and has a great friendship with. They are all planning to come to our home this Christmas, but my husband insists that Tom (who has visited us previously) is not welcome. Do I tell our daughter, son-in-law, and daughter's boyfriend to make other holiday plans? My opinion is that they are all consenting adults, there are no children involved, and always behave appropriately in public.
—Stuck in the Middle With Him
What would YOU advise? What would YOU tell your daughter?
Q. Former Mistress' Son: I am currently in marriage counseling with my wife after she discovered my three-year-long relationship with another woman. After a lot of soul-searching, I truly want to make the marriage work and ended my affair with "Sandy" for good. The problem we have is Sandy's son, "John." Sandy has been a single mother most of her life and I am the only father figure he's known. John and I developed a bond over the years and I feel as though it would be cruel to cut him out of my life because I am no longer in a relationship with his mother. My wife is adamant that she won't stay in the marriage if I maintain any ties with either John or Sandy. I feel disappointed in her for not having the compassion to see John is the innocent victim here who needs my ongoing support. I've previously promised John I would always be a part of his life and I don't want to go back on that. Shouldn't my wife be more understanding of a child's needs?
What would YOU advise?
Click here to see how Prudence answered: I Will Be Your Father Figure
A friend loaned a friend $200.
The lender required collateral.
The borrower put up their iPad.
The time has come and gone for the payback.
Should the lender friend feel bad about wiping the iPad clean and considering it payment?
A few months ago at work a young, handsome intern started talking to me. He was flirtatious and would act thrilled to see me. He would do this when other people were around, even other supervisors. I admit that I was flattered, but I’m a divorced woman 20 years his senior and in a relationship, so I didn't take it seriously. All I did to respond to him was smile and exchange small talk. I recently found out that he isn't flirting, he is making a joke of me. I was told by a friend that he was talking about me at an event in front of other employees, including a supervisor, and they were all having a laugh at my expense. This also explains the times when I would walk into the cafeteria and this intern and some co-workers would start smirking at me and cracking up. I am a bit overweight and not all that attractive, so perhaps this makes me a good target. He’s continuing his overtures and I simply respond “Hello” with a flat smile and go on my way. My friend told me to beware because she was afraid that this young man might get me into trouble. I am concerned that he could file a complaint against me and I don't know what to do. How should I handle this situation?
—Not a Sexual Harasser
What advice would YOU give?
You walk up on your 13 year old daughter and while she's watching a video on YouTube.
She jumps suspiciously so you tell her to show you what she's looking at.
It's a video of some girls your daughter's age that you know go to school with her dancing super suggestively at a slumber party.
Do you contact their parents or are you just glad it's not a video of YOUR daughter?
You have a blog which isn't connected to your real name in any way.
You write about something totally cute that your child did on your blog.
You're laughing about the same cute thing your child did with a co-worker who is a friend.
Another co-worker walks into the breakroom and overhears the story and laughs saying she'd read the same thing on one of her favorite blogs earlier that week.
You don't write about work at all on your blog.
You don't blog while you're at work.
Do you fess up that you're the owner of that blog or do you keep it moving?
I'm curious as to what YALL have to say about this:
I was in a club the other night and my girl was standing with her back to me talking to a group of people. She was close enough to hear what was being said, but not close enough where you would know we were together. A woman walked up to the bar and began a conversation with me. She then asked if I was single, and my response was yes, but I'm here with my girl. Well my girl went APESHIT on me and asked why did I tell her I was single when I'm not? So my question is, what does single mean? Has the term changed because I thought as long as I wasn't married, I was single. I said I was here with my girl, but apparently that wasn't good enough. Thoughts??
I am furious with another set of parents. My 16-year-old daughter has recently told her mother and me that she is pregnant. It happened at a party that was not well-supervised, and there was alcohol involved. The boy involved and his family are owning up to their share of the responsibility, but the owners of the house are absolutely infuriating me. They need to admit their share of this burden, as it was their booze and their house party that allowed this to happen. My family is going to have a lot of expenses due to this new baby, and I don't know how much the boy's family can help, so it seems that the party's host should help out, again as it was on their watch that this happened. So far, that family has ignored me when I have tried to speak with them about this. I am ready to call a lawyer to press the issue, but my wife thinks I am overreacting. What do you think?
What advice would YOU give?
The teenage son of one of your dear friends is found to be a drug user.
They are getting their son help for his problem.
He comes out of the very expensive rehab program they put him in.
Your friend calls and wants to see if your teenage son wouldn't mind hanging out with him because she wants him to hang out with some good boys instead of his old friends.
You're wearing a super awesome all white very expensive suit.
You're on the Metro headed to your office.
A woman gets on the Metro with a cup of coffee.
She bumps into you and spills the coffee all down your super awesome all white very expensive suit.
How do you handle?
Just want to see how you would handle a situation that happened to me. Recently I reconnected with an old friend. I had been told that she was bad off on drugs but decided to give her a chance because it had been a while. Well, she ended up stealing checks from me and cost me 350 dollars before the bank and I caught it. The only way to get reimbursed by the bank is to file a police report. I don't want her to go to jail but I'd never allow her in my house again. Not sure if that was the right thing. We had some fun in the day. Idk, can't bring myself to have her locked up.
What would YOU advise?