Someone I love has been dating online. She has run into some good guys who didn't fit her idea of a mate and she's run into some bad guys who didn't fit her idea of a mate.
One guy in particular was all good on paper and had excellent communication skills. He was smart and funny. She agreed to meet him for coffee.
They were down South and it was a hot day so she wore a maxi dress. Loose and flowing. Pretty colors. She paired her sundress with strappy sandals and had a cardigan in her bag in case she got cold inside.
She walked in the designated meeting place (a coffee house) and he was already there.
She went over and they met face-to-face and she gave him a quick hug. One you'd give a stranger.
She then walked up to the counter to order her drink. When she got in line, she saw that he was watching her with a soft smile on his face.
She walked back to their table and sat down. She smiled, he smiled. They discussed how they'd had no trouble getting to the coffee house and that he never really spent that much time in the area. Small talk. Chit chat.
He then asked her if he looked like his picture and she said yes. They laughed at how that can go dangerously wrong sometimes and she asked the same. He agreed she looked like her picture and then he said, "You look like you REALLY enjoy sans ropas."
The smile dropped from her face and, being who she is, she snapped and said, "That's about the rudest, most disrespectful thing you could say to a woman you just met."
Then she rolled the hell out MAD.AS.FUG!
She called me and told me about it and I couldn't close my mouth. She was PISSED! Dude was a professional and had all the makings of being someone worth dating but hell...that didn't materialize AT.ALL.
He sent her a text a couple of days later asking if she realized she'd overreacted yet. She didn't respond, of course, and blocked his number.
Do YOU think she overreacted? Do you think there are SOME guys who think that if a woman is dating online then she's desperate and that's why they go there? Do you think this same dude would be different with a woman he met in a traditional way?
What has been YOUR online dating experience? Do you have a favorable view of it?
An ULTRA-CONSERVATIVE EXTREMELY RELIGIOUS political family loses their matriarch.
While packing up her home after her funeral, her journals are discovered.
Her daughter and granddaughter are doing the packing.
Her grandaughter is given the journals, old letters etc.
Her granddaughter reads them and finds out that her grandmother was gay and had a long-term relationship with her best friend from college that they both carried on even after being married and having children.
If YOU were the granddaughter...what would YOU do with this information. Would you tell anyone in the family? Or would you take it to YOUR grave?
If someone is no longer attracted to their spouse...is it THEIR fault...or the fault of the spouse?
For instance...
Say a couple gained weight together and then...one day the wife decided enough is enough.
She started cooking healthier, working out and generally making better choices. She cooked the same foods for her husband, but he chose to eat outside of the home because he didn't like all that "healthy crap." She started getting up at 4:30am to workout at home because they have children and each have full time jobs.
She feels like if she can do it...then so should he have been able to.
Years later...she's no longer attracted to him.
At all.
Is it her fault?
Or is it his?
What...IN YOUR OPINION...could a couple like this do in order to get back on the good foot with each other. Does she have to lower HER standards or does he have to raise HIS standards for himself?
Would you feel differently if the situation was swapped and HE was the one no longer attracted to her for the same reasons?
What do you think about THIS advice? Relationship Problems: I'm Not Attracted to My Husband
I'm in the market for a heart rate monitor. Any recommendations? Which one do you use? Why do you like it? What DON'T you like about it. If money wasn't an issue...which one would YOU purchase?
I dried my hair with a t-shirt this morning and I must say. OH YEAH BABY! It was darn near DRY when I finished! GO ME!
Yall give some majorly awesome tips. Another fave is mine was from either Nerd Girl or ARGal. They said they polish their toesies in the evening and don't worry about "staying inside the lines" and simply take a bath the next morning and the excess on the skin comes off easily in the water. CHILE! THAT CHANGED MY LIFE! LOL! And there are seriously so many more tips I've recieved from yall which make life easier and/or better.
SIP: It's truly the little things.
What have YOU learned from the Tribe that you are super grateful that you now know?
You are out shopping and see a friend you know who is a stay-at-home mom.
She's working at the store you're browsing in.
This is news to you.
But no biggie.
A couple of weeks later her name comes up in conversation and someone says they haven't seen her around in a minute.
You say, "Oh, that's probably because she's working now."
The person is surprised and you tell them you saw her at work a couple of weeks ago.
The next day, the person you were talking to calls and tells you that she called the former stay-at-home mother and asked her why she didn't tell her that she's now working and that she said "I knew she couldn't keep her big mouth shut" talking about you.
You're annoyed because you didn't think it was a big secret because...
1. It was at the area mall so plenty of people would run into her.
2. You shared it in a perfectly legitimate way without malice.
3. The friend on your phone RIGHT THIS MINUTE is obviously about some mess and you want to tag her something proper.
How would you handle?
Hello Monica!
I bought this dress (attached) last summer, but wasn’t comfortable with how it fit me. I loved it and was already getting in shape so I decided to hold on to it. I have since lost the weight and toned up well so I tried the dress on yesterday and it looks so good on me! Could you ask the tribe to share what colors (if any at all) they would put with this dress? Shoes, scarves, cardigans, etc.
Thanks in advance to you and the tribe
Hello Monica,
After posting a few questions on Facebook and asking people directly about what people perceive their childhood to have been, I've been receiving lots of emails and messages.
(NOTE: I'm working on something regarding so have just been asking general questions. Pretty surprised at how much people are opening up. It's as if they NEED to talk to someone about this.)
One message I received has really stood out to me and is leaning on me. I didn't know a lot of what was revealed in my questioning and was shocked because the person who said it is one of the most positive personalities I know. I sent the person a video of a Joel Osteen sermon which really speaks to me and their response is REALLY leaning on me. With their permission...I'm posting an altered version:
Thanks. This is just what I needed to hear today, for many reasons. I plan to listen to it again tomorrow. I used to write affirmations and post them on my bathroom mirror to read over and over again, until I believed them. There are some things in this sermon that I may need to write down or just listen to over and over again. I have worked so very hard to overcome so much... so much that no one really knows about. It's hard to keep it all in, so I have been sharing my story lately and trying to understand how these things have affected me.
I think that memories of my childhood are on my mind so much lately, because with my Mom becoming older, sicker and needing more help, the devil is as active as ever. He has been reminding me that I am extending myself so much for my Mom who told me that "she never wanted a 4th child, who moved out of the house when I was in the 5th grade, who stole money from me, who never gave me one red cent when I was in college, who...... it goes on and on. I have to rise above these experiences and memories and just do what I can and forgive. She is still my Mother and God has blessed me with the means to help, so I help. The issue is, I really don't have the means like I used to (not making the kind of money that I used to), so it's a struggle. This sermon helps me to remember that God has a plan for my life and the way that things are now are not what He planned for me. I have to believe that things will get better and I have to get my fire back. I put plans in place, but sometimes... most times I just get stuck. I will fight to get my fire back, work my plan and start to visualize myself where and how I want to be. There can't be faith without action.
This sermon is more timely than you could ever imagine!
You have to know this person to really understand why it is leaning on me so tough. See...the person is one of the most postive and encouraging people ever. Like...she can even be OVERLY encouraging if such a thing actually exists. To hear them say they are getting stuck and that the devil is messing with their progress is really not something I'd ever think would happen to them. I mean...I know of a lot of their story and what they've overcome but learning of this just made me even prouder of them even as I'm trying to figure out a way to respond so they understand how strong I think they are and how I know they won't allow this to stop them. Truth be told...there is a lot. So much so that it's overwhelming for me to even THINK about so knowing how much the person does and deals with proves how much of a HERO and a SURVIVOR they truly are.
That said...help me out here. Help the inboxer out. What would you say to someone who suffered from abuse as a child and is now the sole caretaker of the parent who abused them? Remember...abuse isn't just physical and emotional abuse can be just as and even moreso damaging in some cases.
I know of a woman whose husband has been tipping out on her since before they were married. Now he's, apparently, REALLY tipping out and she's fighting to save their marriage.
Not THEY are really fighting. SHE is really fighting.
And that baby's nerves are really bad behind it all.
I'm addicted to this page because the questions and the commenters bring me JOY, JOY, JOY!! RQOTD
This question made me laugh snot bubbles while *BLINKING* rapidly.
What say YOU?
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