So yeah...the new hair guy wanted me to go natural. Or texturize. I chose texturize. I was extremely unhappy with my hair. I suffered lots of breakage because of the two textures of my hair and I'm just really not the person with the level of patience necessary to be successful.
So...I went back to my old faithful, Affirm. I ordered a 4lb tub from Amazon with all the stuff that goes along with it and it arrived last night. This morning?
I BUSTED THE HELL OUTTA THE THICKNESS.
I used a normal lye relaxer instead of a mild no-lye relaxer so I could deal with the new thickness that is my new growth since I stopped eating gluten. And now? I'm happy again. You have no idea. I like my hair straight. I like my hair to move. I don't like the amount of work it takes to get it straight and to move when it's not for real relaxed.
New guy is awesome for anyone who wants to transition into his version of healthy hair. Old me just wants her hair to look like she wants it to look. GO.ME. My hair is now straight again. I won't do the rinse again because he was totally right about that. I'm going to grow it out about 3 more inches and keep it this way forever.
Or until I change my mind again. LOL!
Any relaxed hair people still out there? Anybody who tried the transition thing and decided it wasn't for them?
Inside this jar, is the most magical hot oil hair treatment I've ever used on my hair. See...it's been so dry this winter and my scalp has decided it's SO.OVER.IT. So I needed to do something. Shelly uses olive oil on her hair but that just made a complete mess for me. I had olive oil everywhere it seemed. I needed something thicker and castor oil was simply TOO thick. So...I put half castor oil and half olive oil in an Herb-ox jar (I HARDLY EVER THROW THESE AWAY! They come in handy for so many things!) and heat it in the microwave for about 30 seconds. Then I put on my hair with my hands, massaging it in well. I cover it with a wet, hot towel and then cover the towel with a plastic cap until the towel is cool to touch. Then...I wash and condition my hair.
FAB-U-LOUS! No more itchy scalp!
I don't know if it will work with your hair type but I know it works uber well with mine so, if it's not something you already do...give it a try and let me know how it worked out.
If you do hot oil treatments...what do you use? How long do you keep the oil on for? How often do you do the treatments?
So...the fancy hair dude wanted me to go natural. He also wanted me to stop using a rinse on my hair to cover my gray. Said that he needed to see my natural hair color so...he asked me to stop using it for three months to get it completely off my hair.
Well...three months later and I couldn't do the natural thing even though I tried but I did stop putting a rinse in my hair and well...he was right. My hair feels WAY better. The gray is doing it's thing and I've decided it's not all that bad. The rinse was making my hair feel icky.
And now I have bangs and it's the length my hair should be for optimal movement. Go me!
I have to get used to the bangs because they are too short to tuck behind my hair when they mess with my eyes. I'm sure whenever you see me in person within the next two months...I'll have some kinda hair clip holding them in place out of my eyes.
SIP: Just crazy.
This is it after being wrapped:
What are YOUR thoughts on the reaction to Ms. Oliver's sideline hairstyle choices? Should she not have to care about what her hair looks like at her job on national television because she works in a sports related field? Do you think she's getting a bum rap and people are worried about the wrong ish?
I haven't been taking care of my hair and feel like it shows so I decided I should start going to a stylist again since it's obvious I don't want to deal with it myself. I've been searching for a while and then saw an older, super fly woman whose hair was stunning in a casual, simple, super healthy way.
So I asked her if she got her hair done in the area and she told me yes, she's been going to the same guy for over 20 years.
She gave me his number and I called him. He was exceedingly pleasant on the phone and asked me some questions and we scheduled a consultation. Before the consultation, I washed my hair and air dried it so he could see it exactly as it is.
A big, huge, mess.
I've been looking for something different to do with my hair and today I found it something I like! GO ME! Whatcha think?
Geisha girl look.
The texture of this style is simply so amazing. What do you think?
What do you think? Which of the three should I rock?
Sometime this past Spring, I read about a contest Jennifer Aniston was having about being obsessed with hair. I was sitting on the deck with my laptop and pressed record and made a quick, quirky video adding different pictures of me wearing my hair differently. I was bored and it was something fun to play around with.
I sent it in.
About a month ago they contacted me and told me I was a runner up in the contest and I won $100 gift certificate to use their products at Living Proof.
Cool! Me love free stuff!
GO ME! GO ME!
I then asked her which product line should I try since I'm Black and my hair ain't like Jen-Jen's. LOL! She told me to try the Restore line which is for dry hair.
When I received the product I was at the end of a relaxer stretch and wasn't going to do anything with my hair anyway but honestly...once I added my leave-in conditioner I thought to myself...hmmmm...I bet I could blow dry and flat iron it without a bunch of tangling so I tried it and it worked well.
I was happy with the way my hair turned out but I wasn't ecstatic until I tried the Targeted Repair Creme. This stuff felt really good on my hair. I only used a little bit but that little bit went a long, long way. I learned that first week that I can't use it every day because it's thicker than I'm used to...but using it every other day works wonders.
I read some reviews online which suggest it doesn't work well on natural hair but they were using the No-Frizz line so I'm wondering if they would have had better results had they used the Restore line too.
They sent me a sample of this product and I think I'm going to order it too: Perfect Hair Day
All-in-all I'm pretty darned pleased with it since I've been over here bouncing and behaving. LOL! GO ME!
Have you tried any new hair products lately? Share please! You know we're always looking for something hot!
I put a rinse in my hair last night and dried it before going to bed. When I got up this morning I was brushing my teeth as I remembered that I'd dreamed that my hair was blond. I straight up SNATCHED my headscarf off my head in sheer PANIC and, even as my hair was still a shiny nice new dark brown...it took me a few seconds to calm down.
You ever have a weird dream about hair or beauty issues?
I've never really used hair spray. When I used to get my hair done weekly down South...every time I tried a new hairstylist I had to remind them that I didn't like hair spray in my hair. My hair is thin and, to me...I feel like hair spray makes it a bit too stiff. When it's that stiff...the only thing I can do is wash it if I want it to be soft again and not hard.
So yeah...I never really used hair spray.
I wanted to do my hair in a pompadour kinda thingy with the back down and some loose beachy waves. Since it was raining...I knew the beachy waves would last for all of 6 seconds once I stepped out of the house. I thought to myself...gosh...I wish I had some hair spray and I went to the beauty sample basket to see if I'd procured some along the way and hadn't tossed.
Then...for whatever reason...I decided to look in the guest bathroom because folks who visit seem to always leave product-y stuff and I simply put it under the sink so when they return...all they have to do is look and yeah...BINGO...MY STUFF!!!!!!!!!!!
And guess what I found? HAIR SPRAY!!!!!!!!! Some kinda Suave hair spray in a dark pink bottle. I'm thinking it was really old because the sprayer didn't work so I had to pour some in a small travel sprayer bottle. GO ME!
I sprayed some on the brush for the pompadour and sprayed it directly on the back.
IT WORKED! My hair looked like I wanted it to look when I got where I was going! GO ME!
But I feel like I'm going to have to wash it tomorrow to get it back right. LOL!
So...what do you think about hair spray? Do you use it? What kind do you use? I never wanted to use it because of the alcohol. Is that a factor for you?
Your hair is natural.
You are on the third interview with a company.
From what you can tell so far...the company isn't very diverse.
The people you're meeting with this time are the HR Director and one of the people who would be in the department you're working in.
You've already met with the owner of the company.
The HR Director leaves the room to take a call and the other person asks you if you ever wear scarves on your head. You know...like those pretty patterned scarves they sometimes see women have on their heads.
How do you answer?
What do you think went down BEHIND the scenes?
For the first time in my life I did a touch-up to my hair using a regular strength relaxer. Normally I do the Affirm Sensitive Scalp in mild but with my "new" hair...decided to do the regular Affirm in regular strength.
13 minutes in...I had to get it out. My scalp was ON.FIRE!!!!!!!!!
Worst feeling in the entire world of worst feelings.
I washed it and conditioned it and left it alone. I couldn't imagine putting the rinse on that I was planning to put on it so I just blow dried it and let it go. Yall...it hurt. My head hurt so bad I had to take Advil. I don't see how people use the regular strength cuz wow...NO. Just...NO.
I went to the store and got some Vitamin E oil and poured into the Roots Only bottle:Roots Only Hair Root Touch up
Then I added it directly to my scalp. It stopped hurting immediately and I massaged my scalp. It's not burned or sore. It's just irritated feeling.
I'm not doing that again. Back to mild I go with my half processed head.
When you were relaxed...did YOU use mild or regular? If you used regular...how in the WORLD did you do that every time? Was your head ever sore feeling after? What did you do for that?
Let me tell you...with this "new" hair of mine it's a life saver.
What do YOU use on your edges?
So...I've been gluten-free now since pretty much this time last year.
I'm pretty much the healthiest I've ever been in my life and I'm way excited about that.
I wrote about how much thicker my hair is these days and got a VERY interesting comment:
So, of course, I asked Mr. Google about the possibility and welp...seems to be the general concensus that going gluten-free absolutely makes your hair thicker and healthier.
Search: gluten free thicker hair
I am seriously blown away.
The thought I can't stop? IT WILL JUST GET THICKER.
Surprisingly I wasn't nervous. Robby was...but I wasn't. He kept asking if there was an emergency hair cut place I could check into in the event I messed up big time. LOL! That dude is funny.
I wasn't cutting my hair...I was simply trimming it so I was comfortable doing it myself. My hair is long enough and I wasn't cutting so much that I couldn't self-correct if need be. The stylist I trust to trim and not cut my hair is off having a baby and what not and I didn't have anyone else I trusted since I'm not due for another cut until September.
I think I did a pretty good job and might invest in a pair of really good shears so I can trim it myself more often.
Have you ever trimmed your own hair? Any tips? Do you do it wet or dry? I did it dry and freshly flatironed.
SIP: So we're not going to discuss that picture huh?
When air drying, I've incorporated an apple cider vinegar rinse into my hair routine. I find it gives my hair a smoothness and a shine that I used to have before these damn after 40 wiry grey hairs started doing whatever the heck they want to do in my hair.
I mix 1/3 cup of apple cider vinegar to a quart or so of water (Honestly...I put it in a dollar store pitcher and just add water to the vinegar so I don't know how much water I use. I just fill it up.) and pour it over my hair and then run a bit of plain water on it.
I'm sure most of you already do this and just keep it to yourself like yall did with the t-shirt drying method cuz you want your hair to look way better than ours cuz you're all selfish and whatnot. LOL! If you do this...how much ACV do YOU use? How often do you do it? What does it do to YOUR hair? Shelly did it last night and is all happy this merntink with her soft, shiny curls. LOL!
When I'm airdrying my hair with plans to bun it for the week, I really like using this leave-in conditioner. I don't use it when I plan on adding heat to my hair but for no/low-manipulation styling...it's pretty awesome to me. I bought it at Sally's for $8.99 but a friend told me she gets it at Walmart for a little less. (I just noticed you can get it for a tad bit less on Sally's site.)
It doesn't make my hair greasy feeling nor does it weigh it down.
Just passing it along.
Anything you've been trying lately that you'd like to share with us?
What are your go-to hair blogs when you have a serious question about your hair?
Mine? Just Grow Already
On top of being extremely knowledgeable about relaxed hair...she just seems like she's such a nice person. Me likey nice people! GO JENNIFER!
Whatchu got? Please remind us if you're relaxed or natural.
What did you do to your hair this morning?
How are you wearing it today?
Do you have any hair goals?
What are they?
I dried my hair with a t-shirt this morning and I must say. OH YEAH BABY! It was darn near DRY when I finished! GO ME!
Yall give some majorly awesome tips. Another fave is mine was from either Nerd Girl or ARGal. They said they polish their toesies in the evening and don't worry about "staying inside the lines" and simply take a bath the next morning and the excess on the skin comes off easily in the water. CHILE! THAT CHANGED MY LIFE! LOL! And there are seriously so many more tips I've recieved from yall which make life easier and/or better.
SIP: It's truly the little things.
What have YOU learned from the Tribe that you are super grateful that you now know?
Shelly: What do you think? Deva Gloves
Me: You try it first. :)
Would YOU try these? Have you?
I finally caved and did something to my hair on Saturday. I had absolutely none of the products I normally use on my hair when I'm going to actually DO something to it so I rolled out to get some supplies. I hit up Aveda and then Sally's Beauty Supply because I wanted to try this on my hair: ApHogee 2-Step Protein Treatment and Balanced Moisturizer
Aveda was out of my leave-in and the kid wasn't amused. Aveda Damage Remedy Daily Hair Repair
So, while at Sally's I was on the lookout for some type of leave-in something and saw this:
I bought it cuz really...it couldn't hurt right?
So I went home and procrastinated until the absolute latest time I could wait to start my hair. Since I had so much new growth, I worked darn near a 1/4 cup of coconut oil through my hair so it was manageable. I just kept scooping and scooping. And yes...I said scooping cuz I got that old janky jar from Trader Joe's and my hand can't fit in it and it's almost empty. I keep saying I should melt it and pour it into something I could actually use better but yeah...I never follow through with that thought since it only aggravates me when I'm putting some on my hair and that takes all of 5 minutes a day. LOL!
I did something completely different this time for my touch-up. Instead of parting my hair in quadrants, I sectioned off the absolute top in a square because that's where it grows the most and is always the thickest and started there first.
Then I finished the steps to balance it out, neutralize and then wash it. For the past three touch-ups I've been doing a rinse after I relaxed my new growth to cover the sun damaged red icky color it is but I'm tired of doing that. It's messy and, frankly, I'm past caring I think. So yesterday...I did the ApHogee treatment next.
I tried separating the two attached packets and the damn thing ripped and a bunch of the ish spilled all over the place. I should have known I was going to be in for a treat when I looked down and saw what the drops of the product did to my slippers:
Um...looks burned huh?
Yeah...when I put it on my freshly touch-up head...yeah...I got real Scarfaced up via my vernacular.
Then I had to sit under the dryer until my hair completely dried and when it did...it was as hard as a brick. Felt like hay. After washing it out and using the balancing conditioner...it felt really good. I didn't like the smell so I washed and conditioned my hair using my normal Aveda stuff. After that, I used the new Creme of Nature leave-in product and it wasn't anywhere near the kind of consistency the Aveda stuff I usually use is. I blow dried it and flat ironed it at 250 degrees and wasn't pleased with the "greasy" feeling of it at all. It felt good from the protein pack and was nice and strong feeling but yeah...I can't really get down with that greasy feeling.
So I promptly tied it up and am sporting a bun today, tomorrow, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, etc.
If I find my leave-in product I'll consider wearing it down it again on Friday but honestly...I'm sick of hair and my buns are no-muss, no-fuss. Hell...I don't even comb them out at night anymore. Just take the ponytail holder off and put on a bonnet.
I would consider shaving my head if I wasn't so vain but bald with no boobs would get me mistaken for a young boy I'm sure and well...I like being and looking like a girl.
SIP: Maybe get fake boobs first.
Question...do you use any Creme of Nature products? What about that ApHogee product? If you use the ApHogee one...how often do you use it?
Honestly though...it really messed her up big time in the confidence department.
I saw her a while back and she was sporting a super fresh natural head of hair that was thick and AWESOME! Think G-Baby's hair now (Who should have gone back natural FOREVER ago cuz BAAAAAAAAAAAAABY! SHE IS ROCKING THE HELL OUTTA NATURAL HAIR! LOVE IT SOOOOOOOO MUCH ON HER!).
N E WAY...
I was like...girl! You look like MONEY!
And we laughed our butts off. She told me that she started oiling and massaging her entire scalp three times a week with Castor Oil . Says it took about 3 months before she saw some hair filling in her thinning spot but that yeah...you can't even tell anymore. Says the Castor Oil made her hair grow back thicker and stronger.
I thought about this and remembered that an Elder babysat a little cousin once for the summer. The baby's mama used to put them old jacked up too tight plaits or braids all over that lil girl's head (WHY WOULD YOU PUT BRAIDS ON A TODDLER KNOWING THAT BEATS THE HELL UP OUTTA A HAIRLINE ON A GROWN WOMAN?????????) and the child's edges were straight JACKED. The Elder put Castor Oil on the baby's edges all summer telling the mama to stop doing the child's hair in the morning and she'd do it when she got there and yup...at summer's end...the baby's edges had started coming back in nicely.
SIP: Elders can solve anything with berries and juices or some old school something we ain't heard of for a minute. (Zinc/ZANK Soap Update)
Okay...so someone else was having some hair thinning issues and I shared this with her. She said she's heard that if you go natural your hair would look thicker and you couldn't really tell. I asked her if she thought about going natural and she said her hair is too nappy to go natural and she ain't walking around looking like that.
I kept it moving cuz really...it's her head and her perception of her head and I ain't gonna change that at all.
But...it made me wonder...are there many people who think their hair is too nappy to go natural that they wouldn't even if they were having hair issues? Is there really such a thing as TOO NAPPY? I know there are people whose hair has major shrinkage but too nappy? I mean...even the thickest is able to be loosened up with twists and length right?
School me if I'm wrong.
If you were having hair loss issues and had a relaxer...would you have to do too much thinking to go natural?
Also...have YOU ever heard of or used Castor Oil on your hair?
I asked Mr. Google about it...here's what he had to say in pictures: Castor Oil Hair
How are you wearing your hair today?
An elderly lady complimented my hair recently and I smiled politely and said thank you.
She then said she really wished this natural hair thing would be over already because, in her opinion, it looked just a nappy, terrible mess.
These days I have so much on my mind that I really don't have time to execute flawless responses on the fly anymore because, to be honest...in the grand scheme of things it doesn't affect me at all.
I'm trying my best to continue to keep it moving but I looked at that little old lady and thought to myself what I'd feel horrid if I found out she'd said that to some young lady wearing her hair as she chooses. So I said, "I hope choosing to do with your own hair is never something that becomes OVER. Sometimes we worry about the wrong things and I would hope that whatever hair hangups you have aren't something you push on anyone else."
She blinked at me in surprise and started sputtering. "No, no...I didn't mean no harm about it or anything I just don't think it looks good on a lot of people."
And she kept explaining what she meant. I thought about that this morning as I saw a young lady with a head full of the most gorgeous twists I've ever seen. I just HAD to stop and compliment her.
Me: You have a gorgeous head of hair.
And she said thank you in a way which showed she didn't know if I was being facetious or not. I smiled and kept it moving and hoped she stayed out of the way of little old ladies with hair issues.
Well...I haven't changed what I use in more than a decade: AFFIRM SENSITIVE SCALP RELAXER KIT
I buy it from Amazon and I still do it myself cuz I think the prices the salon charges to do it are ri-damn-diculous. HOWEVER...I don't suggest you do it yourself. I've done mine forever and I'm pretty good at it because I'm the most anal Virgo you know. I know exactly how to do it so it doesn't overlap or touch my scalp. GO ME!
Of the two or three of you who still relax your hair...what do you use?
PhytoSpecific changed up the formulas for the products I loved.
THEN...they stopped selling a lot of what I loved at Sephora.
After buying out all they had I finally threw up my hands and went back to Aveda.
Since I was having the sun damage issue, I kicked it strictly with the Damage Remedy Line.
Conditioner: Aveda Damage Remedy Conditioner
Deep Conditioner Treatment: Aveda Damage Remedy Intensive Restructuring Treatment
Leave In Conditioner: Aveda Damage Remedy Daily Hair Repair
I'm still using these two products to moisturize and seal in the moisture twice a day:
Moisturizer: PhytoSpecific Moisturizing Styling Balm
I was telling a friend I've had to go back to Aveda and she laughed and said...folks always go back to the old standby Aveda. LOLOLOLOL!
What about you? Do you use any Aveda products? Have you ever gone BACK to Aveda?
The worst thing I've ever done to my hair is not protect it from the sun.
I seriously didn't realize how much of a big deal it actually is to protect my hair when sitting in the sun which I LURVE to do.
I started noticing that my hair was turning this really odd shade of red and I wondered if that was a part of my hair going gray. Because it soooooooooooooooo is. LOL! I don't have a problem with the gray, but that icky red? NO. AB-SO-LUT-ELY-NOT!
And it was all dry feeling. ESPECIALLY on the ends cuz that's my oldest hair.
I get two really good hair cuts a year. One in March and the other in September. The rest of the time I just get trims to keep it looking neat. Well...I've been cutting the old hair off an inch or two at a time for a few months now and last week, I decided to cut it some more and put some temporary color in it.
And dude...I'm loving it.
I got a straight all around blunt cut in the back, all one length (about an inch past my shoulders) and tapered around my face. Basically, a shorter version of my usual. Once it was shorter...it started moving again and I was all giggly, girly smiley cuz I KNOW this hair! LOL!
Then I hit up Target and bought the color that I'd decided would be the most like my original color because coloring your hair can be tricky. Dark brown looks black on my hair. Golden brown looks reddish on my hair and, apparently...there are FIFTY GAMILLION shades in between.
So, after stalking the innanets, I decided to go with this one: Clairol Natural Instincts Hair Color #20 Medium Brown
AND I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE, LOVE, LOVE IT!
It never smelled funny...not even in the container before I put it on my hair. I left it on for 15 minutes and then followed the directions. Once I was finished with the directions, I washed it with my own shampoo and deep conditioned it.
Then I flat ironed it on 250 degrees and seriously...it feels like my hair again.
And the kid is sooooooooooooooooooooooo happy!
I'm curious as to what it's going to look like once this color fades and washes away. I'm told that sun damaged hair gets darker after a while but heck...I don't know so I guess I'll just see as we go along.
What brand and color do you use? How often do you have to do it? Do you do it to cover gray or, smooth out your color or a bit of both?
Do you do it yourself or do you get a stylist to do it? Any tips to make the color last longer?