An elderly lady complimented my hair recently and I smiled politely and said thank you.
She then said she really wished this natural hair thing would be over already because, in her opinion, it looked just a nappy, terrible mess.
These days I have so much on my mind that I really don't have time to execute flawless responses on the fly anymore because, to be honest...in the grand scheme of things it doesn't affect me at all.
I'm trying my best to continue to keep it moving but I looked at that little old lady and thought to myself what I'd feel horrid if I found out she'd said that to some young lady wearing her hair as she chooses.
So I said, "I hope choosing to do with your own hair is never something that becomes OVER. Sometimes we worry about the wrong things and I would hope that whatever hair hangups you have aren't something you push on anyone else."
She blinked at me in surprise and started sputtering. "No, no...I didn't mean no harm about it or anything I just don't think it looks good on a lot of people."
And she kept explaining what she meant.
I thought about that this morning as I saw a young lady with a head full of the most gorgeous twists I've ever seen. I just HAD to stop and compliment her.
Me: You have a gorgeous head of hair.
And she said thank you in a way which showed she didn't know if I was being facetious or not. I smiled and kept it moving and hoped she stayed out of the way of little old ladies with hair issues.
I buy it from Amazon and I still do it myself cuz I think the prices the salon charges to do it are ri-damn-diculous. HOWEVER...I don't suggest you do it yourself. I've done mine forever and I'm pretty good at it because I'm the most anal Virgo you know. I know exactly how to do it so it doesn't overlap or touch my scalp. GO ME!
Of the two or three of you who still relax your hair...what do you use?
The worst thing I've ever done to my hair is not protect it from the sun.
I seriously didn't realize how much of a big deal it actually is to protect my hair when sitting in the sun which I LURVE to do.
I started noticing that my hair was turning this really odd shade of red and I wondered if that was a part of my hair going gray. Because it soooooooooooooooo is. LOL! I don't have a problem with the gray, but that icky red? NO. AB-SO-LUT-ELY-NOT!
And it was all dry feeling. ESPECIALLY on the ends cuz that's my oldest hair.
I get two really good hair cuts a year. One in March and the other in September. The rest of the time I just get trims to keep it looking neat. Well...I've been cutting the old hair off an inch or two at a time for a few months now and last week, I decided to cut it some more and put some temporary color in it.
And dude...I'm loving it.
I got a straight all around blunt cut in the back, all one length (about an inch past my shoulders) and tapered around my face. Basically, a shorter version of my usual. Once it was shorter...it started moving again and I was all giggly, girly smiley cuz I KNOW this hair! LOL!
Then I hit up Target and bought the color that I'd decided would be the most like my original color because coloring your hair can be tricky. Dark brown looks black on my hair. Golden brown looks reddish on my hair and, apparently...there are FIFTY GAMILLION shades in between.
It never smelled funny...not even in the container before I put it on my hair. I left it on for 15 minutes and then followed the directions. Once I was finished with the directions, I washed it with my own shampoo and deep conditioned it.
Then I flat ironed it on 250 degrees and seriously...it feels like my hair again.
And the kid is sooooooooooooooooooooooo happy!
I'm curious as to what it's going to look like once this color fades and washes away. I'm told that sun damaged hair gets darker after a while but heck...I don't know so I guess I'll just see as we go along.
What brand and color do you use? How often do you have to do it? Do you do it to cover gray or, smooth out your color or a bit of both?
Do you do it yourself or do you get a stylist to do it? Any tips to make the color last longer?
I don't know about you but I've enjoyed watching little Miss Gabrielle Douglas fly through the air flipping and twisting and then BAM! STICK IT! This lil girl has been bringing me JOY! I love when she gives her interviews and she's all sweetly confident. I love how she is so supportive of her teammates. I love how she speaks about how much she loves what she does and how honored she is to represent our country in the Olympics. When she's kinda wobbly...I'm holding my breath and breathing hard, praying she recovers. When she hits something just right...I am yelling at the top of my lungs. GET.IT.GABBY!!!!!!!!!!!!!! SHOW 'EM HOW TO DO IT! USA! USA! USA!
In short...she is QUITE impressive and I LOVE.ME.SOME.GABBY!
I read something yesterday about the 16 year old's hair that made me stop. Then I asked Mr. Google if other people were saying negative things about her hair and was FLOORED with what I found.
So yeah...I got annoyed at just how inappropriate people can be with the things they were saying about a 16 year old WORLD.CLASS.ATHLETE.
Did YOU pay more attention to her hair or to her skills and her confidence in her ability?
Did you hear others ridiculing the child because of her hair?
I just tried and I have to say...for a first try...it's not half bad! I could actually see me rocking this on occasion other than just to see if I could do it! I tried to do it in the pattern of the picture below and it didn't take that long to do!
I put it in a bun cuz the ends kept unraveling. UGH! What do you do for that? I am NOT putting rubber bands on the ends so I guess bunning it up is going to have to do.
My hair broke off wherever I had the highlights and I was MAD.ABOUT.IT!
Since then I've done a rinse a couple of times but they never really did it for me even as I just really wanted a change.
Well...now I want a change again.
I'm not willing to go shorter in length than shoulder length these days because I rock a ponytail probably 300 times a year. LOL!
I NEED a ponytail as they are just really the best go to hairstyle for me. I just can't be worried about how my hair looks a lot these days and I find that a ponytail and a pair of fab shades make it so easy for me to appear presentable. LOL!
She told me that she was going to finally do the proper research for a book about Black hair so people could use it as a reference. We would discuss the amounts of bad information out there and laugh at some of the beliefs and myths surrounding Black hair. The number one being...
She sent me a copy of her extremely gorgeous book and I've been keeping it on my reading table. I pick it up whenever I need a break from what I'm doing and read something in it and, I have to be honest, it's like a reference book that is seriously like a thesis breaking down the science of Black hair from all considerations.
I'm a fan. This book is like...WHOA. I'm totally feeling like it's the only book one ever needs to read regarding Black hair in order to finally, finally GET IT.
I really don't have time to sit in a hair salon today so I'm going to do my hair myself tonight.
I've gotten to the point where I HATE doing my own hair even though I'm pretty darn good at it.
What about you? Do you enjoy doing your own hair? Are you good at it?
SIP: If you see Monnie out and about today, be nice and don't stare at her hair too hard okay? She'll have on a hat but yeah...it's gonna be under that hat coated in coconut oil. LOL! Oh...and don't worry...I'm going to FORCE her to wear some kinda makeup this weekend. I PROMISE! We gotta get our STANK.STRIDE.BACK!
A friend decides to return to wearing her hair in it's natural state.
She cuts it off in one big chop and rocks a mini-fro.
Everyone who loves her hates the style on her.
NOT because it's natural...but because the style isn't very flattering on HER.
Her face is round.
VERY round and folks think she looks BLAH and extremely unattractive with the CURRENT natural style she's rocking.
She asks you DIRECTLY what do you think of her hairstyle.
Personally...you agree that the way she is wearing it is the most unflattering style in the world for her and thinks she'd look far better wearing it in twists or braid outs or pretty much anything other than the afro she's been consistently sporting.
But...those are your PERSONAL beliefs.
You KNOW she loves her hair.
Even if she asked you DIRECTLY...would you tell her what you REALLY think or would you tell her something along the lines of...if you like it...I love it...do you girl.
Is criticizing natural hairstyles a no-no in the world of being PC?