Cool. Found the gifts I'm giving for Christmas this year. Go me!
A while ago I met a woman on a plane who was a speech therapist and I was very surprised to find that a lot of her clients were actors who wanted to learn to enunciate words properly.
The majority of the issues she helped people deal with were based on regional / international dialect but, she found there were lots of people who really just didn't enunciate their words at all and that they were aware that their speech made them sound uneducated and less smart. She also shared that she worked with regular people in business related fields who wanted to get ahead and felt the way they spoke hindered them.
I wondered at the person who KNEW they didn't enunciate properly but still had to talk to people regularly. What did that feel like and how did they determine they weren't "doing it right?"
I remembered the episode of "King of Queens" when a woman in the office told Carrie that she might not get a job she applied for because of her "Queens accent" so Carrie tried to work on her diction:
What do you think about pre-school and kindergarten suspensions? A bill is being proposed to ban them with the thought that a child under age 5 can't possibly do anything to warrant being put out of school.
What say you?
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A 6th grader finds out a fellow student is using a razor blade to cut himself.
She takes the razor blade from him, throws it away, and tells an administrator.
The 6th grader ends up being suspended for 10 days for touching the "weapon."
She also has to be reviewed for consideration of expulsion.
Are these zero tolerance rules ridiculous?
Do you know a child who has been adversely affected by them?
How was it resolved?
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I met a young lady recently who impressed the hell out of me. She was 23 years old, working full-time and is about to start working on her Masters. She got smart people scholarships to pay for her education so she doesn't have loans from her undergrad and she's doing the same (plus employer benefits) to pay for her Masters.
She has a roommate and she saves practically all of her money. Her goal is to have enough of a down payment saved up to put down on a modest condo once she gets her degree and gets the promotion her company has all but promised her already. Her only bills seem to be her car note (a Toyota) and car insurance (I don't know for sure these are her only bills mind you...just seems fitting given the rest of the conversation we had.)
I was so impressed.
I'll tell you why I'm asking. I asked E a question recently that I felt he should know based on what I knew he was studying in a class. He couldn't answer it. He then told me that it wasn't something that was on the study guide so they didn't focus on it in class.
But it was something pretty simple.
Sure...he could recite the hard answers because he'd studied them since they were on his study guide...but the little simple answer, which would have proved he actually understood what was going on from a wider perspective...he couldn't answer.
So yeah...it made me wonder.
With the study guides, open book tests, and calculators...do you think your kids are learning in school or are they simply learning how to do well on the tests?
President Obama spoke at Morehouse's graduation this past weekend.
His speech was so personal and profound that I sent it to all the males I love.
It was pouring raining.
When you look at this picture what are YOU thinking?
I'm working on something about "Soft Kids" in response to things I've seen and heard for a minute now especially here on the blog.
I don't know many teenagers who are together you know? Like...if they had to strike out and do some things on their own...they'd be azzed out because it seems their critical thinking skills just aren't all that great it seems. You know...like the stuff that is important to them doesn't help them develop these skills at all and well...they seem throwed the hell off more and more.
I've been around kids who can't even remember where the vehicle was parked that the just got out of 10 minutes ago. Like...they don't even remember what the vehicle looks like even if they've been in said vehicle a gamillion times before. How do you not notice what kinda car you ride in?
And the bullying. Yes...it's a big f'ing deal in lots of instances but kids can't seem to even be able to figure out how to flip the script. I said something to a friend recently about an instance where a girl was deciding that a random day was "IGNORE A CLASSMATE DAY" and she'd just pick someone and all of the kids would ignore that kid all day. My friend immediately said...the kids need to find out something about her life that would embarrass the shit outta her and tell the other kids. I mean sure...it's not an ideal solution but would it have worked? Probably. Did the kids think of this? No. Just no counter action AT.ALL. and let the chick rule the classroom being evil.
I know I get annoyed with E and he's a pretty smart kid. LIke...if I tell him to do something I have to tell him all of the steps to do it. I can't just say, E...take the garbage out. I have to say, E...take the garbage bag out of the can and tie it up, look under the sink and get another garbage bag and put it in making sure you tuck the top around the top of the can, close the lid, take the bag out to the outside garbage can on side of the house and put it in the can and then put the top back on it.
If I don't say it SPECIFICALLY like that...some bullshit is gonna go down that will make me question his sanity.
Having this conversation with my friends uncovered a whole gamut of things they are disappointed in with teenagers of today being soft. One friend feels like her friend isn't a fighter and she blames herself. She says that every problem he's ever had she's been able to throw money at it because she wanted to be a good parent and give her child the tools to succeed. If he was having trouble in class she hired him a private tutor or put him in an after school tutoring program for additional help. She says he's okay with just doing okay when she's competitive as hell and want him to be as well.
One friend shared the differences between her and her brother. How she has IT but her brother doesn't even though they were raised by the same mother.
And it goes on and on.
What, in your opinion, makes some kids SOFT and unable to figure ish out? How can the same kids be raised in the same environment yet one be SOFT and the other not? How can a kid who has a parent who has always excelled and whose parent has always focused on their CHILD excelling...end up being SOFT?
What do you think of the SOFT kids?
Are your kids SMART, are they really good students or both?
Which were/are you?
What study habits do they have which you think are awesome?
A single mother has decided to return to school to get a post graduate degree.
She has an adviser helping her identify scholarships and fellowship programs to apply for.
The adviser tells the single mother to not say anything about BEING a single mother in the "About You" paragraphs of their essay applications.
What say you? Agree or disagree?
There are two schools in your area. One public...one private.
The public school is about average in the scale of schools in your state.
The makeup of students is pretty much even across the board as it relates to diversity.
The private school is reasonably priced but they are in the excellent range in the scale of schools in your state.
The makeup of students is EXTREMELY disproportionate and your child will likely be the only child of that skin color in his class every.single.year.
Which school do you send your child to?
How do you decide?
So last night, Tiffany In Houston posted this article on FB:
I read the comments not having formed my own opinion yet and then read oneblackman's comment:
"Yes he should keep it. However, there's a poor kid that ball somewhere tat could really use that scholarship or had to take a scholarship from another school simply because UCLA didn't have anymore. Schools are given a certain amount of scholarships each year. If the Combs boy would give his up, that would give them an extra scholarship thus giving his team an advantage."
And that REALLY made me think about what I would do in a similiar situation.
What say you? What do YOU think?
Are your kids going to college?
Are they on scholarship?
Did you consider them going to community college to get their basic courses out the way cheaper first?
Do you find it's a struggle figuring out how to pay for it?
Did you get a loan in your name or did they get a loan in their name?
Do you still feel that college is worth it financially?
E's been on our shit list all week behind some shit he didn't turn in on time for school.
It's been a stressfull week dealing with all of this.
Unca Robby is going over his math review right now and pulled out the answer key that the teacher gave E.
Robby (to me): What's 8 minus -3?
Robby: Exactly...damn teacher has 5 as the answer.
Me: No she doesn't.
Robby: She absolutely does. Shit...for all we know he has been turning in his work on time and she's marking it down wrong. We're giving the kid shit and he might be doing everything right. He's so confused right now and hell...now I'm pissed with the teacher!
Me: Let me see that.
I look and I'll be damned if that isn't the case.
THIS IS SOME BULLSHIT ALLALDO!
A young lady I know is going back to school to get her BA.
Someone was teasing her about going to school at her age.
I told her that there are lots of people who had to go back after the traditional ages to get their degree and that she should just trudge on and make it do what it do.
That said...how old were you when you started college? How old were you when you received your college degree?
Any advice for a working single mother who is going back to school?
If you have one...do you think it's worth having?
Has it paid for itself?
Did you learn much more about your field than you did while in undergrad?
Did you get it from the same place you got your undergrad?
Would you advise yoru children to get one?
A female Principal attends a party where there is a male stripper.
She enjoys the festivities.
Some pictures with her in them enjoying the festivities end up on Facebook.
Students found the picture and passed it around.
The school is already under fire for underperforming.
Should her personal life become a factor in her being a Principal?
And then...they took it a step further.
They were REALLY impressed with how E advocates for himself.
And that made all of us grin from ear-to-ear.
Cuz that's the stuff GREATNESS is made of.
And that's the stuff we preach to him ALL.THE.TIME!
E goes to his teachers and asks what else can he do in order to get that A. He asks if he can re-do reports and homework and such if he doesn't get the expected grade. He's been taught to NOT take no for an answer. He is to be respectful, of course, but he needs to go to the teacher and ask questions and attempt to explain any issues which may have caused him to be unfairly graded.
WE DON'T TAKE WHAT IS GIVEN!
WE EARN EVERY.SINGLE.THING!
USE YOUR MOUTHPIECE!
SPEAK UP FOR YOURSELF!
DON'T TAKE WHAT IS GIVEN!
WE EARN EVERY.SINGLE.THING!
The teachers stated that no other kids do this and that it is so awesome that he does this.
INSERT BIG CHEESE EATING GRIN HERE!!!!!!!!!!!!!
We are so proud of that kid man! He's doing what he's supposed to do. His level of confidence brings us JOY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
That kid is totally destined for GREATNESS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Do YOUR kids advocate for themselves?
A young woman is a recent college graduate working at a country club making 45k per year in a southern state.
She's saddled with student loans but getting by just fine.
She meets a rich dude who takes her under his wing and becomes her mentor.
He likes her and thinks she's smart.
Nothing going on between them mind you...but he never had kids and feels like she is what his daughter would be like.
He tells her she should go to law school and she says she can't because she can't afford it.
He tells her that if she gets into a good school...he'll pay for it.
She gets into a school which costs $55k per year and he writes out the check for $55k and pays for it.
She quits her fulltime job at the country club, works her azz off and does well in school.
Second year is getting geared up and suddenly old dude isn't returning her calls.
She shows up to his office and he tells her that the economy took a downturn and that he's taken a hit financially which made him decide his promise to her was unreasonable.
He's still rich.
She's pissed because going to law school wasn't even on her radar until old dude made the promise.
Now she has two more years to pay for at $55k.
Do YOU think she has a case if she decides to sue old dude for not following through with his promise?
Why or why not?
I am DYING laughing at some of these questions that selective colleges ask on their applications. Let's have some fun and answer some! I took out all of the ones which were essay based!
1. How do you feel about Wednesday? [University of Chicago]
3. How did you get caught? (Or not caught, as the case may be.) [University of Chicago]
4. Write a haiku, limerick, or short poem that best represents you. [New York University]
6. Are we alone? [Tufts University]
8. If any of these three inanimate objects could talk, how would your room, computer or car describe you? [Haas School of Business at UC Berkeley]
11. If you were reduced to living on a flat plane, what would be your greatest problems? Opportunities? [Hamilton College]
14. In the year 2050, a movie is being made of your life. Please tell us the name of your movie and briefly summarize the story line. [New York University]
17. Sartre said, “Hell is other people”; but Streisand sang, “People who need people / Are the luckiest people in the world.” With whom do you agree and why? Don’t be icky. [Amherst College]
19. If you could balance on a tightrope, over what landscape would you walk? (No net.) [University of Chicago]
20. Tell us the question you think a selective college should ask. How would you answer it? [Haas School of Business at UC Berkeley]
I got annoyed recently at a dude who isn't a college graduate and yet seems to have had an okay life so far. Dude works in a service industry and has a life that seems comparable to that of someone who has a graduate degree and is working in a position of management.
I got annoyed because dude came across as trying to celebrate college dropouts who made it as if it should be a source of encouragement to those who were on the fence about going to or completing college.
I doubt if Steve Jobs ever had to fill out a job application in his entire life.
Her father lives in a distict where the schools are really good.
The woman decides she wants her kids to go to the better schools so they may have the better quality education.
She uses her father's address so the kids can go to the schools in her father's area.
The district spends $6,000 on private investigators to follow the kids and their mother to prove they don't live in the district.
The mother is arrested for fraud and sent to jail for 10 days.
I posted this article on FB last night and a good discussion evolved. The following comment was particularly interesting to me:
What say YOU?
A teacher notices a bully in her class.
It disturbs her.
On a day when the kid isn't in school she asks the class about bullying.
MOST of the kids tell her about an instance where the absent kid bullied them.
He spit on one.
He threatened to shoot and kill others.
He shoved some.
The list goes on.
The teacher writes it all down and contacts the parents, the school and the administration.
Nothing happens so she contacts the police to see if there is something she can do via them and was told no.
The next day she was put on paid administrative leave.
The kids in question are 7.
Do YOU think she should be reprimanded?
How would you feel if your child was one of the ones who said they were being bullied?
How would you feel if your child was the accused bully?
She's finally finished Lawd.
She's finally finished Lawd!
SHE'S FINALLY FINISHED LAWD THANK YOU JESUS FOR YOUR BLESSINGS, SALVATION AND DELIVERANCE!
She defends on Wednesday.
THANK YOU JESUS!
Question...for some reason her graduation party is almost two weeks later than her graduation. If this was your sister and you KNEW your schedule wouldn't allow you to make both events...which would you do? Graduation or party?
"Black males now make up only 5 percent of college enrollment nationally, but 36 percent of the prison population."
What are you thinking?
How does this stack up with the males in YOUR family?
Where do you think the disconnect is?
Does this shock YOU?