I had a 20 year old young lady ask me recently if I was a feminist and for the first time in my life, I hesitated before I answered yes.
Later, I thought about why I hesitated and honestly...I think it's because so many people have changed the definition of the word feminism. Then I thought to myself...well that's ridiculous and kept it moving.
I thought about this conversation with myself last night as, on a gander, I looked up the definition of the world feminism online and found one thing in common with all of the dictionary references online. They were all different. If the following definitions are still the case...then yes, I am:
So...I'm a feminist. *THROWS CONFETTI*
During a casual conversation with my Godson, it came out that he felt both men and women should take out the trash, remove snow from vehicles, clear the sidewalks, and take out the trash. I told him that he can believe whatever he wants to believe and he should think about it further on his way out the door to take out the trash. I decided to revisit it later and told him that Unca Robby does those things because he doesn't want me to have to.
E: Would you do it if he didn't want to do it?
Me: He'd never not want to do it if the alternative is me doing it.
E: But what if he couldn't?
Me: Then I'd do it. I'm perfectly capable of doing it, it's just not something I'd want to be responsible for. Same as Unca Robby not wanting to be responsible for cooking dinner or grocery shopping or dealing with a lot of stuff he doesn't want to deal with so I deal with and vice versa. Each of us have our own roles that, over time, we slid into naturally.
E: My wife is going to take out the trash and do all of that stuff too.
Me: If she doesn't have a problem doing those things...then she will. But if she has a problem with it because she was raised in a home where her father and brother did those things...she probably won't so make sure you're not trying to hand down ultimatums because the only women who are going to deal with your ultimatums are women who don't feel worthy of having choices and well...a whole set of extra problems comes along with a woman who is unsure of herself.
He started walking off...
So...in your opinion...do you think the definition of feminism has changed from what you've always known it to be? Can you be a feminist if you want equal rights across the board for women yet expect the man to take out the trash?
Sarah Jessica parker says that the friendship she and the girls had on "Sex and the City" is a thing of the past and that the culture of the past 10 years of reality shows have changed friendships with women.
"Men, I know you think your woman isn't the type who wants to be taken. But trust me, she is. Every girl wants to get her hair pulled once in a while. If your wife says "no," turn her around, and rip her clothes off. She wants to be dominated."
Fasten your bra in front, and then twist it around so the clasp is in the back.
Place your arms in the straps and adjust them so they rest on your shoulders and they're not all twisty or wonky.
This is the most important part! Bend forward and pull your boobs (and side/under boob fat!) into the cups. Seriously, it's crazy how good it looks when you pull forward that side and under fat and your boobs presto changos into bigger boobs. Sorcery!
Now, stand up. If you have muffin top, just push it back into the cup. Don't be afraid to manhandle your boobs and make sure they're all in there.
Here's an easy-to-follow video tutorial on putting on a bra — start at 3:01 to see her demonstrate the technique:
I was talking to a friend the other day and she was sharing that she has a problem accepting help from people no matter who it is. When someone offers her help with something...she automatically says, "That's okay, I can do it." She realized that this has been a problem in the relationships she's had and that more than a couple of her exes have shared this frustration with her.
But she says she can't help herself.
The other day she was being really reflective and wondered if it was because she's a single mother. She said when her child was younger, it was just easier to do everything herself instead of giving someone the opportunity to disappoint her when it came to doing things for her child. She wondered if it became so second nature to her to get it done herself...that it became second nature in every aspect of her life.
Single mothers...do you have the same stance on life? Do you think you have a problem with accepting help from anyone because you learned you can only count on yourself? Do you think it's easier to do what you need done YOURSELF? Do you have a problem letting others in because of this?
Four of my friends had on blue nail polish Saturday and now I soooooooooooooooooo want some! LOL! Have you rocked blue yet? How about green? I tend to stick to colors which kinda go with my skin color so using primary colors (other than red) is not my norm.
What say you? What colors do you normally reach for? Especially as a professional woman in a professional environment.
I have had a lot of conversations about "Being Mary Jane" since it aired. Well...not about the actual movie per se (even though that's how the conversations started) but about how women saw themselves in the situations Mary Jane presented.
ONe of the main conversations was about the married woman part. I was having lunch with two married women and one single woman. The movie came up and the inevitable question was raised.
"What would you do if a woman told you she was sleeping with your husband and you knew she was telling the truth?"
One married woman slapped the table and crossed her leg while saying, "I ain't never leaving that man!" And I blinked. We all looked at her like...WHOA and the questions started pouring out:
...and talked for almost 13 hours straight starting at 11:18 am yesterday to derail a vote in the GOP-dominated Senate. She had to keep speaking on the bill until midnight, which was the deadline for the end of the special session. She lectured, read testimony from women, doctors etc. At one point, during one story...Senator Davis almost cried.
But she kept going.
There are specific, tedious and archaic rules to filibustering and Ms. Davis never even SKIRTED on the side of wrong during the first three hours of her REMARKABLE and just flipping AWESOME stand for women. She is the perfect antithesis to Rick Perry and I damn sure hope she runs for Governor of Texas as soon as possible. TURN TEXAS BLUE!!!!!!!!
Ms. Davis became a single mother at the age of 19. She's the first person in her family to graduate from college. Upon graduation from Texas Christian University, she went to Harvard Law School and put in her time clerking, being a business owner and then got involved in local politics. Senator Davis is 50 years old.
She has championed bills which mean something, in my opinion. Everything from payday loans to protecting sexual assault victims. The bill she was attempting to derail was this one: Texas Anti-Abortion Bill - SB5
The Republicans succeeded in pausing her filibuster since she had three strikes. One of the strikes she received was for receiving assistance in putting on a back brace while speaking:
Was Ms. Davis successful in stopping the bill from becoming law? AB-SO-FLIPPING-LUTELY. Why? Because the vote was recorded at 12:03 am AFTER THE DEADLINE.
THE BILL IS DEAD.
"Today was democracy in action,” Davis said. “You all are the voices we were speaking for from the floor.”
Senator Davis is the reason I didn't go to bed last night until midnight thirty knowing I had a 6:15 am flight this morning and would have to get up at 3:30 am. Senator Davis...I thank you for being a WOMAN WHO ROARS and for the exaggeration of the already heavy bags under my eyes this morning. #TomFordSunglassEmergency
Did you watch? It was sooooooooooooooooooo awesome! It was like...AMAZING! The energy, her steadfastness...yeah...all of that. DRAMA!
With apologies to the menfolk, but does anyone else have pain in their thighs and hips during Midol week? I mean like bent over shuffling like an old woman pain? I've never had this before and it's insane.
What do YOU think about Angelina cutting off her boobies to prevent possible cancer in her future? If you had the money for the genetic testing and your results were the same...would YOU have cut off YOUR boobies?
As I was reading it I was thinking about how I measure and define personal success and I have to say that I consider being successful being able to do whatever you WANT to do versus doing what you NEED to do in order to have a comfortable life. Like...if you enjoy your job...no matter how much it pays, and you're comfortable...you're successful. In MY opinion.
"Being a female boss is a classic catch-22. In order for women to succeed, they have to be different, extraordinary, and not too emotional. But in order for them to be respected by their female employees, it seems these women also need to be relatable, likable, and "just like everyone else." When they're not, there's major backlash. Just look at Marisa Mayer, who has been widely criticized for her decision to ban telecommuting, a decision she made in order to benefit the company -- in other words, in order to do the job she was hired to do."
I bought one of these a while ago from Target and it's pretty darn awesome. All of the essential things you keep in your purse fit in it and when you want to change bags you just pull it out and plop it into another bag. I'd seen something like this before and considered buying it but couldn't wrap my brain around the price so finding this one for $14.99 made me feel all awesome-bargain-shoppery. GO ME!
Shelly Bean liked it so much she got one too! It has all kinds of compartments inside and it's really kept my bag pretty organized. ESPECIALLY when traveling.
Do you have any men you talk to on a regular basis like a good friend or a relative?
Does their logic ever make you wonder if something is wrong witih them?
Like...they tell you some crazy ish like they broke up with their girlfriend and then had sans ropas with her and now they don't know why their EX-girlfriend is tripping thinking they are going to get back together just because they had sans ropas together?
DOES THAT KIND OF LOGIC MAKE YOU WANT TO RIP THEIR EARS OFF??????????????????????????????????????????????
PLEASE tell me that when you hear something like this you set them straight! PLEASE!
Anybody own one of these? I'm thinking Imma go buy one. I can't do shapewear that goes over my navel cuz I feel like I'm suffocating and I love that this will make it so that the wind won't blow the dress between my legs up to high and leave nothing to the imagination.