Rantings of a Creole Princess

Mother / Daughter Competition

Do YOU believe it exists?????

Do you recognize it when you see it?

Has it ever happened TO YOU?

Question...

If you knew one of your best friends was going to be somewhere their ex was going to be...would you tell them so they had time to "fix their face" or would you say nothing and just let it roll even though their relationship ended very badly?

Atlanta's and Alabama's Finest!

 

 

 

Friday night I had the pleasure of dining with some of the most FABULOUS folks I know!  Sure...my drink sucked and my food was too salty (Color me NOT impressed with Two Urban Licks in Atlanta) but you couldn't tell that I wasn't having the time of my life because of the company I was keeping!  LOL!

(Nobody say NUTTING about me having to pull rank on the big hair heffa in polyester please and thank you.)

I don't know HOW it came about that most of us were all coordinated and whatnot but it just goes to show...we like looking good!  LOL!  There wasn't a person among us that needed to hear the words "BE.MORE.VAIN!"

GO US!

Yall KNOW the baubles were in full effect right?  Right.

 

 

And the foolishness?  *sigh*  What can I say?  We LURVE to have a good time!  ROFL!

My weekend was truly a 10!  What would you rate YOUR weekend as?

Congrats to our Princess Nina Gabrielle!

Princess Nina Gabrielle was christened and baptized on Saturday!  She was soooooooooo sweet and barely cried at all while being dunked!  LOL!  Personally I think it's because she was just shocked!  ROFL!

 

I totally enjoyed myself hanging with my people and all of us coming together for her ceremony showed her just how loved and cherished she truly is!  

I had a GREAT time and laughed and smiled until I just got too tired and just started grunting and nodding me head!  LOL!

Did you have a big ceremony for your christening and baptizing?  Did your children?

Silly Shit

Do you have "family" silly shit sometimes?  Do you feel obligated to compromise to come to a peaceful resolution?

Or do you call everyone out regarding the silly shit and let the chips fall as they may because you ain't got time for SILLY SHIT?

My Godson's Snowman...

The doorbell rang today and I just KNEW it was one of E's friends looking for him and that I was going to be annoyed when I went to the door because E was already outside.

It wasn't one of his friends.

LOL!

Would YOU tell?

If you were asked a flat out question...would you answer it truthfully?

Say for instance...and this is purely hypothetical so don't send me emails asking who....that you knew a woman's husband was cheating on her but you only knew because your husband is his friend and your husband told you.

Say for instance she started coming around more because she didn't have a lot of friends and since you guys hung out as couples from time to time...she thought you and she could become really good friends.

Say for instance you're out shopping with her one day and she asks you...point blank...if you'd ever heard of her husband cheating on her.

WHAT WOULD YOU DO?

You like her. She's a good person and you guys have gotten close. You don't want to see her being dogged out....BUT THE ONLY WAY YOU COULD TELL HER WOULD BE TO BETRAY YOUR HUSBAND'S CONFIDENCE!

WHAT WOULD YOU DO? Would you tell her? Would you stop being her friend? Would you decide that it's more important that YOUR husband knows he can trust you to keep something he told you secret instead of putting this poor woman out of her misery??????

WHAT WOULD YOU DO?

If you were asked a flat out question...would you answer it truthfully?

Say for instance...and this is purely hypothetical so don't send me emails asking who....that you knew a woman's husband was cheating on her but you only knew because your husband is his friend and your husband told you.

Say for instance she started coming around more because she didn't have a lot of friends and since you guys hung out as couples from time to time...she thought you and she could become really good friends.

Say for instance you're out shopping with her one day and she asks you...point blank...if you'd ever heard of her husband cheating on her.

WHAT WOULD YOU DO?

You like her. She's a good person and you guys have gotten close. You don't want to see her being dogged out....BUT THE ONLY WAY YOU COULD TELL HER WOULD BE TO BETRAY YOUR HUSBAND'S CONFIDENCE!

WHAT WOULD YOU DO? Would you tell her? Would you stop being her friend? Would you decide that it's more important that YOUR husband knows he can trust you to keep something he told you secret instead of putting this poor woman out of her misery??????

WHAT WOULD YOU DO?

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Happy Birthday to our Sissy!!!!!!!!!

In your adult life it is very difficult to find someone new you may consider a TRUE friend.  I mean think about it.  You've lived your entire life and it's really hard to get someone up to speed on who you are and why you are the way you are.  

It was so easy with Sissy it became natural and I am so blessed to call her one of my favorite people and one of my best friends.  Robby and I love her as if she was our own flesh and blood and look forward to seeing her every chance we get.  I don't have to be in a good mood to be around Sissy nor do I have to "fix my face" or "watch my mouth."  I can be TOTALLY me.

That's rare.  So very, very rare.  

All inhabitants of 13700 love Sissy as if she were DNA carrying family.  She's the only person Robby would actually call to come "see bout me."

Happy birthday to my Sissy.  We love you so very much and thank God OFTEN for your existence in our life.  Thank you for the love you show us and thank you for knowing me as well as you do and still love me.

I wish you the best of EVERY.SINGLE.THING life has to offer and look forward to getting eviler with you in our old age!  

We love you.

Happy birthday!!!!!!!!!!!

Monnie, Robby, ST, Jaru and Lucy

  

What would you do?

I'm torn.  Conflicted even.

I'm upset with someone but not as much anymore because I'm kinda used to them being a HUGE flake and it's just really business as usual but I'm still annoyed.

How do YOU handle when you're annoyed with a friend whom you love?  Are you the type to keep quiet or do you get it out?  Do you get it out via email?  Text?  Phone?  Or do you schedule face-to-face time because you love them and don't want anything to be lost in translation?

How do YOU handle conflict with a REAL.FRIEND?

Nintendo Wii Fit Plus Party 2009 Pics and Video!

 

 

When Nintendo contacted me about hosting a Wii Fit Plus Party I didn't realize just how much FUN, FUN, FUN I was getting myself into!  OHMYG!  WE HAD SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO MUCH FUN!

Yall know I have an addictive personality to all things FABULOUS right? 

Frozen Embryos, Friends, Fun and SAM FINE! It's Sunday People!

 

 

 


Gosh!  I can't remember when I've had a more FABULOUS weekend!  I had fun, fun, fun and more fun!

And to think...it all started on a low note on Friday.

*sigh*

Friday morning at 7:00 am, I had my frozen embryo transfer during a natural cycle.  Hey...it's the only thing I HADN'T tried yall so I had to.  Well...we had two perfect embryos on ice and they started the thawing process on Thursday. 

Only one survived.  (I swear fo goodness if one of yall say some ish about it only takes one Imma scream for 10 minutes.)

N E WAY...

Yall girl was feeling bad.  Like...waaaaaaaaaaaay down low.  But...I shook it up and off because my friends were coming to town and I was looking forward to seeing them.

I cooked some Shrimp and Grits and baked a Southern Comfort cake, bought the ingredients for Dirty Martinis and lots o' lots of cheese.  Why LOTS of cheese?  Ask Ted.  Ted knows.  ROFL!

Ted, Sissy, 1969, Shelly, C, ST, Robby and I laughed so hard Friday night that it's just ridiculous!  LOL!  Good food and good friends make it hard to stay down ya know? 

Yeah...you know.

So yup...my weekend started off hurting my heart dearly.  One lovely embryo was transfered to my jacked up azz uterus and we're hoping, wishing and praying for a miracle.  I was sad waaaaaaay down deep and then my friends made me happy.  That's what friends are for ya know?  To be there for you when you need them the most and the good Lord Himself knows I needed me some them on Friday.

On Saturday I shopped with my Shelly Bean and ST and then we went to the Nintendo Wii Fit Plus party and had an absolute BLAST!  Today, Shelly Bean, kisz4tj and I got up early and ate the breakfast The Robinator cooked for us and headed out to see Mr. Sam Fine.  Yes, yes, yes...I have some FABULOUS pics and video from both events to work on and am doing that before I go to bed.  Tomorrow is my "off" day so I'm going to take it easy except for doing a bit more of shopping for Turkey Day. 

That embryo shit almost broke me man.  Sometimes I truly don't know how it is that I go on and then I look in his eyes and he folds me in his arms and kisses me and I know.

I'm meant for this journey for a reason. 

I hope it's a good one.

How was YOUR weekend?

Depressed Friends and Family

Do YOU know anyone depressed? 

Do you think THEY think it's just them and that no one else understands depression?

Do you think it would help if someone knew just how many people deal with depression?

Is it hard to understand that even I, Monica Mingo, who loves myself to the ends of the Earth and beyond, deal with depression too?

Depression Love

Someone you love is depressed.

How do you handle?

Depression Love

Someone you love is depressed.

How do you handle?

Woe is He

Someone I hold near and dear to my heart found out recently that his wife is in love with another man and wants to be with that other man.  He found out because he came home from working hard one day to provide for his family and she simply told him. 

No warning.

No explanation.

Just...out the blue.

Mr. Telephone Man

Do you have a friend you wouldn't talk to as much if YOU didn't call THEM?  Have you ever thought about why that is?

Did we have fun?

What do YOU think?

So...carving and painting pumpkins is a messy job indeed.  Because of...I put a big, black, plastic paint tarp down stretched across some parking spaces.  Then...I put those vinyl tablecloths you get at the dollar store on top of all of those tables and tied them down with balloons from the dollar store too.

This way...all you have to do is roll em up completely and put everything in the garbage can for a quick cleanup cuz TRUST...this is MESSY!

Each table had a pack of baby wipes and a roll of paper towels as well as tins with paintbrushes in them.  I got the tins from the $1 bins at Target and there were 25 paintbrushes in a pack for $4.99 at Michael's.

The big kid's table had the carving tools in a plastic bowl in the center.  (Notice all this plastic and vinyl right?  RIGHT.  T-Monnie KNOWS KIDS.)

All of the snacks were inside and I basically played server to make sure the kids had some outside with them.  The party was just PERFECT.  It wasn't crazy, over the top and exactly what kids who want to have a messy fun time wanted. 

LOVED IT LOVED IT LOVED IT!

The kids had a blast.  I had a blast and the parents had a blast!  Afterwards we all cleaned up together and everyone was long gone and my home clean by 7:30pm. My kinda party!  Oh...and there was face painting!!!!!

I believe we should know who our neighbors are.  Some of my neighbors have lived here over 7 years and never even KNEW a lot of the people they met today.  It was just LOVELY and I was really glad that I was able to make that connection for them.  The funny thing was they all knew me.  ROFL!  "Oh yeah...we know Monica!"  Why?  Because Monica makes it a POINT to get to know who her neighbors are.  Grownups, children...et al.  Ain't nuttin wrong with knowing who you live next to and to consider them "friend."

I promise!

Undrea's Mommy has left us...

My Mother is Gone

Prince Marcus

Prince Marcus had his dedication ceremony today which is considered Christening to other religions.  I feel really awful because my card was something about 'Happy Christening' or something to that notion.  I went to Taya's father's house and was totally in awe of the beauty of her family.  There was a lot of love in that house man and it blessed me to my core.  That is one well-loved kid. 

To include his T-Monnie and Uncle Robby.

 

 

Obligatory

Do you feel obligated to accept a friend request from a family member on Facebook even if you don't care for that family member?

Is it cool to not like a family member or does that make sure you're headed straight to hell? 

Skyping with Shelly Bean and My Coley Pole!

Scenario...

You have an attractive, single first cousin on your mother's side of the family.

You have an attractive, single first cousin on your father's side of the family.

They know each other because well...THEY YO COUSINS!

They start dating.

Gross or cool?

What would YOU do?

Something for Everyone

In this world there is something for everyone.  If I didn't believe that before I certainly believe it now after learning about h.o.rror.c.o.r.e. rap.

Because of this I'm never really sure how people can say they don't have anything to do or that they don't have friends.  Now...I'm not looking for folks to start jumping out of planes or to start bungee jumping but I do want folks to stop and listen to how ridiculous it sounds that they can't find anything to take a shine to and meet people who have common interests.

My county AND city have a recreation department with a lot of cool stuff to do.  The prices are very reasonable and I know the other students in the classes are there for the same reasons so it would be odd that I didn't find at least one person to have coffee with outside of class right?  Right.

I'm thinking about something this morning where someone I love seems to have a lot of people in their life who don't really seem to value them as a friend. 

But then again...I guess the way I take care of my friends and the way others take care of their friends are very different huh?  I guess it would be difficult to judge how someone else does their friendships.  Just cuz my friendships are the way they are...doesn't mean everyone's is the same.

But that's a shame because my friendships are sooooooooooo good.  We spoil each other.  Hell...we CHERISH each other and there is no way in the world I wouldn't let my friends know through my actions how much I love and appreciate them. 

That said...I think a lot of people need to start shaking their tree of life free of bad apples and start fresh with who you are TODAY and meet people who like you just as you are.  If your friendships are too draining and you don't look forward to seeing your friends or communicating with them...something might not be quite right.  Why don't you think you deserve someone to love you to the point of making a fuss over you?  Where does that come from?

Why don't more people think they deserve the kind of friendships that enhance your happiness in life?  Why don't more people think their friends SHOULD make a big fuss over them?  Why are some people always involved in some kinda DRAMA with people that are supposed to be their friends?

Why are people more friendly than some folks?

How are your friendships?  You good?  What are the best things about YOUR friendships?

Skyping with Dr. Melly!

Skyping with Travel Diva and Princess Cara!

My T-Rhonda!

T-Rhonda was in town on business today and I picked her up so we could have lunch and spend a bit of time with her before she headed back.

Since she hadn't been here since the election, of COURSE, she had to go get her family their Obama gear!  LOL!

Skyping with Princess Nina Gabrielle!

And her parents.  The poor child is going to need me to make sure she doesn't end up like her daddy.  ROFL!

HAPPY BIRTHDAY ERICA B!!!!!!!!!!!

LOVED her birthday post!  "It's My Birthday!"

MY GIRL!  HAPPY, HAPPY HAPPY BIRTHDAY! KEEP SHOWING THESE YOUNGINS HOW TO STAY DOING-T IT!  Love you more than you know! 

Shawns & Co.

I got to see the Shawns and 3 of their 4 kids today!  T had a football game in our area and ST and I went to check it out.  It was such a BEAUTIFUL day so I took lots o' lots of pics!

Big Shawn had to leave early because I had a game in Egypt and Shawn and T headed out to meet them after.  I'm tired and confucious just WRITING that.

Please keep Tiff's family in your prayers...

I just got in and got an email from someone alerting me to the cbox where Tiffy shared with us that her beautiful baby boy, Jamison, left us yesterday.  I'm not really good talking about babies leaving but I wanted Tiffy to know that she, her husband and her family have our deepest condolences and our most sincerest of prayers.

If you need anything that I may do for you Tiff...please don't hesitate...please. 

Sometimes it feels like everything is passing me by...

One thing I love most about my life are my friends.  I love how happy they are to talk to me and I love the feeling I get from talking to them.  I love knowing that my friends can pick up the phone and discuss differences in our opinion of a Tyler Perry movie.  I love that my friends let me make a fuss of them.  I love that my friends allow me to make grandiose gestures and I love knowing I sit at the family table at their most intimate of occasions.

Dr. Punkin is ENGAGED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Whooooooooohooooooooooooooo!  We're going to have a wedding!!!!!!!!!  I shared with my brother-in-law-to-be two words...DESTINATION.WEDDING!  LOL!  (Hey...I try this with everyone.  ROFL!  I'm all for a vacation/wedding ANYDAY!)

Star Trek...The Next Generation

A couple of weeks ago, one of my first cousins (his blog name shall be ST.  Why ST?  Star Trek..The Next Generation),  got a job offer in DC.  When he graduated from college he went back home in Louisiana and looked for a job close to his parents like a good Southern boy does.  After months and months of looking...he didn't find anything suitable in Louisiana's economy.  I told him to look for something out here and he did and we were all proud of him when he got something really good in his chosen profession.

His initial start date was set and arrangements were made for him to come out here and I'd gotten our schedule ready to accommodate him.  

His initial start date fell through and was set for two weeks later.

Then we had to re-do plans and move a lot of stuff around so we can do what needed to be done.

We got him.  He is family.

ST was always one of the sweetest kids I knew.  I've always been ridiculously proud of him and I've always made time for him no matter what.  The only problem I've EVER had with him is that he's the type of guy who doesn't like to ask for anything.

But I guess that's what real men are made of right?  Yeah...to a point.

He keeps to himself pretty much and I can tell he is making a conscious effort to stay out of our way.  He has told me several times that he doesn't want to be a "bother."

I love that kid man.

Today was his first day of work.  Last night I watched as he prepared for his morning, double checking everything to make sure he was ready.  I'm all about being organized and hope that this part o me rubs off on him.  He made sure his clothes were ready to go, packed his metro bag and lined his shiny shoes up.  He also practiced tying his tie about fifty lleven times to make sure that his knot had the dimple in it that I told him it needed.

The kid makes me proud.

I hovered over him last night and this morning making sure he was good to go and personally escorted him to where he needed to be.  Yes.  Me.  At 6:00 am this morning.  Robby says I'm babying him but...like Shelly says...Robby should know seeing as though he's my BIGGEST baby.  LOL!  I'm not trying to baby him but I want him to feel secure and loved because I know how hard it is to be away from all that you know in a new city.

Cept he is not on his own.

We got him.  He is family.

We have told him that he may stay with us for 6 months.  During this time we don't want him to spend a DIME on anything.  No food, no water, no nuttin.  Nothing except Metro back and forth and an occasional movie.  We want him to save, save, and save some more so that when we start helping him look for his own place he has a tidy lump in savings to start him off right.  He tried to fix his mouth to say he'd like to give us a lil something money wise and we let him know that he would be snatched bald if he kept trying to go there.

We got him.  He is FAMILY.

At 13700 we believe in extending ourselves and our generosity to family members who are doing the right thing.  We have ABSOLUTELY no problem at ALL making sure the upcoming generations know they should consider us a resource and we are so happy we have the opportunity to help my baby cousin get his career and life away from the comforts of home the right way.

In fact...we are darn near BEAMING with pride at him every time he walks into the room.  He's the kind of kid who is really appreciative of any little thing you do for him and it is very important to him to make all us of proud.  Or should I say proud-ER because we are already bursting at the seams of proud.

I'd like you to help welcome one of my family's Golden Boys, ST, to the big city and to the world of responsibility.  Share with him any advice you think he should read about moving, living, and beginning his OWN foundation for a REALLY good life.  Let him know of any pitfalls he should look out for and what you think was most helpful to you when you started your first real job.

Did anyone in your family do this for you?   Would you do it for family?

Thank you in advance.

Princess Nina Gabrielle Went Home Today!!!!!

Today was a very busy day!  I went home today with my mommy and daddy and my MiMi1 and my MiMi2!

My mommy and daddy sure are happy.  I think I like them.  :)

I rode in the car for my very first time.  It's okay but I'm going to have to do something with my daddy's music tastes for sure!

 

Both my MiMi's are here, of course.  Where else would the MiMi's of a brand new Creoleline Bambineaux be?

My T-Monnie is coming to see me when I'm about 6 weeks old.  She says she wants me to be good and solid before she gets here to spoil.me.rotten.  I'm not sure what she means but I can't WAIT to meet her!

HEY YALL!

What My Friendship Means (ROFL!)

None of that 'Sis'-sy Stuff

Are you tired of those sissy 'friendship' poems
that always sound good,
  but never actually come close to reality?
Well, here is a series of promises that actually speak of True Friendship.

You WON'T see cutesy little smiley faces
on this card-
Just the stone cold truth
 of our great friendship.

Friends?

Could you remain friends with someone who is friends with someone who is a lying sack of shit faker than a gamillion dollar bill and who REALLY doesn't like little old YOU?

Question...

Who is the person who can always make you smile?  Are you that person for anyone?

"She Yo Girl"

My friends and I don't mince words with each other.  We're just not those kinda friends.  We would have never BEEN friends if we felt the need to coddle each other cuz none of of us need or want that.

Nothing wrong with people who do...but everyone is and needs different interaction.

If I were to talk to certain people how I talk to my friends or how my friends talk to me...they'd prolly slit their wrists cuz they don't know how to handle it.  I'm not saying anything is wrong with someone who can't swallow our brand of us but I am going to say that it's not going to be fun for you or for me if you're always getting upset with the way I say something and I'm going to get annoyed as hell always feeling as if I have to tailor my language when talking to you.

So the best thing?  For me...the best thing is to say nothing...which is cool because my face usually says it all for me.

That chick in my inbox about the IVF situation irked the shit outta me.  Had we been somewhere and she told me that shit...Idda walked off and left her azz RAT.THERE.

I remember when she reached out to me before...I said nothing then either.

I feel like maybe...just MAYBE I should say something this time but in order to keep it light...I said nothing but I did call one of my girls who let me cuss like a sailor at the audacity of this fool.  She was just as amazed as I was that this woman was trying to bring a child into the world under these circumstances.  We were both EQUALLY amazed that a guy, who isn't her husband, was going along for the ride knowing the cost and headaches associated with IVF. 

But I guess man...I guess.

So yeah...I'm not going to say anything to her cuz I can't say anything nice.

Do you remember the last time YOU elected to not say anything to someone for fear of it coming out wrong or for fear that you'd  snap and cuss them clean the hell out?

Dear You:

I know you're over here...cuz you're trying to find "her."  But guess what?  She's not trying to hear anything from you and you know this.

As I have told you on several occasions I am NOT talking to you about her.  Why?  It's irrelevant.  She doesn't want to date you ever again.  She doesn't want to see you ever again.  It's over and you need to move on.

I told you I would help you find the help you need.  I tell anyone who makes suicidal threats the same.  I will help you find someone with some initials behind their name to talk to you.  I will even TAKE you there and sit and wait till you're done.

Why?

No reason really.  The only reason I have is that I care about my fellow humans and I will always do what I need to do in order to help when I can.

That said...I ain't running behind no grown azz man to get some help either.  Either you take the offer or not.  I have no ulterior motive.  NONE.  And don't care if you think it's a conspiracy theory to "get" you.  (Um...Imma need you to remember that I don't even KNOW you so why in the WORLD would I want to "get" you...dude...really..."

Again...you are more than welcome to call me if you want me to assist you in finding someone to give you the help you need.  If you insist on attempting to talk about HER...I will hang up on you AGAIN and AGAIN and AGAIN until you get it.  I don't care what you believe she did you.  I really do NOT care.

I'm extending myself, AGAIN, to offer you some assistance.  If you let me?  Fine.  If not...fine.  But if you EVER talk about hurting yourself again around ME...I will, AGAIN, call them people on you.

And I am soooooooooooooooooooo serious.

I truly hurt for you because I know you're hurting badly.  I'll be here when you are REALLY ready to deal.

Robby says don't call our home anymore with dumb shit cuz if you upset me again like you did tonight your access to me will be discontinued.  He knows I want to help you but he's not about to let you bring me any crazy.

Again...if you want to deal with your grief...contact me.  If you to talk about HER...NOT.HAPPENING.EVER.

My name is Monica Mingo and I don't fuxs with suicide.

Shit.

Question...

Would you bail your sibling out of jail?

Enough?

Have you ever had to figure out how to stop letting family hurt you so much?  Have you ever just decided to leave them alone?  Did it take a lot out of you?  Was it truly for the best?  Were you ever able to bridge the gap later?

Question...

Have you ever had a friend's ex contact you to get you to help them get back in your friend's good graces?  What did you do?  Did you let the friend know?

Common Denominator

Who is the common denominator in your crew for some crazy to pop off?  LOL! 

For Dr. Punkin and Shelly it's me.  LOL!

For me it's HOSTESS AND HONEST!

Who is it for you?

Dear DC Restaurant Patrons

If you are dining at a restaurant and you see any of these folks in the above photo arrive in a group of more than two together.  LEAVE.

I'm talking snap the piano shut and roll out Color Purple style in a RUSH!

Why?  Ain't nothing good gonna come out of your staying. 

That is all.

You have been warned.

Co-Signing

I don't have anyone in my inner circle that doesn't yank my chain REGULARLY.  Because I have such tough skin I can take it and because I'm very careful about letting someone in my inner circle I trust that when they say something...I need to listen.

And I do.

The convo usually goes like this:

(I write something or say something ignent...)

Phone rings.

Me:  Hello?

Friend:  You's a dumb ho.

OR...

Bleep from email goes off.

Subject:  AHEM

Body:  You's a dumb ho.

Now I know some folks can't take it that bluntly.  Hell...sometimes I tear up.  LOL!  But ya gotta say something about the power of REAL friends that tell you like it is.

I saw some co-signing going on lately that made my damn teeth itch cuz them folks knew good and damn well that shit wasn't kosher.  It pissed me off cuz wasn't nobody even CONSIDERING being a voice of reason or even a devil's advocate.  Folks claiming they care about someone and sniggling and giggling bout dumb shit. 

SNIGGLING AND GIGGLING.

What kinda damn friends are that?  What kinda damn support system is that? 

During this ish someone sent me something and I didn't have time to address it cuz I was dealing with dream making stuff and ain't have time for nobody else's shit.  The person actually told me that I needed to say something and I'm like...THE FUG WRONG WITH YOUR FINGERS?  The person actually said...well I don't have a relationship with her like that.  Yeah...whatever.  Miss me with that shit.  You over there co-signing and don't realize that your co-signing could possibly be doing harm.

And then...the person said something that has her on my shit list for a minute.  She said...well...I don't tell grown people how to live their life.

Now see...that could be true...to a point.  If you are SO concerned about some shit that you contact ME even after you've PUBLIC-CA-LY co-signed on some dumb shit...what does that make you?

An enabler?  Two faced?  A non-"friend?"  What?

Yeah...I know that sometimes folks don't feel comfortable with saying something that shows they don't agree but in my world...I'd rather you just say nothing instead of that old fake co-signing shit.

Cuz that fake co-signing shit will start making a person feel like nothing is wrong with an IMPOSSIBLY RED FLAG SWINGING WRONG FROM THE GIT-GO situation and get them hemmed up cuz no-one who claims to care about them spoke up and put something on their mind that would possibly make them slow down and look at things from a different perspective.

Just my two cents.

To the MORE THAN FEW folks that I have tagged and cussed out in the past couple of weeks regarding this situation regarding that co-signing shit...I told ya I was gonna get ya.  Stop doing that shit. 

It's evil.

Not as evil as me being me...but evil nonetheless. 

Don't enable dumb shit.  If you're going to be a friend or a "friend," be as true of one as you can be. 

That is all.

ME, ME, ME!

I'm wearing my favorite t-shirt today.  I've been up and at em since really early and as I stood in my closet deciding what to toss on...I figured I needed a bit of Ninja power to get me going.

Shelly gave me this shirt a few years ago knowing my fascination for all things Ninja and my ridiculous sense of humor that sometimes...only she gets.

It made me smile when I opened it and I don't wear it often because I want to own it for a very long time.  Hence...it's one of my SPECIALES OF SPECIAL things that I own.

I have a hat box that has a bunch of clothes in it.  You'd pull them out and think to yourself...DA HELL MONNIE DOING THIS WITH CRAP?????  You'd prolly stand there with your nose all scrunched up and holding the items between your index finger and thumb and then I'd roll up on you and see you fingering them and karate chop your azz in the back of the head.

GETCHO HAND OUTTA MY POCKET!

When I left my parents home (sounds all lovely and ish huh like I was going on a tour of Europe for the summer) my mother overcompensated by buying me lots of clothes, especially pajamas.  I don't know why pajamas really.  I think she liked to think of me in cool, crisp cotton sipping on lemonade or something...trying to paint a picture that was the antithesis of why I was forced to decide to never return to their home again.  In that hat box are several slips (seriously...she had a thing about slips) and two pair of ridiculously small pajamas.  One pair pink and white stripe and the other blue and white checked.  Both pair are long sleeve but made out of the softest of crisp, cool cotton that isn't crisp anymore.  Traditional looking pajamas with a collar and a lapel with a breast pocket and buttons down the front.

In the waistband and collar of these items?  My name.  My ENTIRE name.

Written in permanent marker in my mother's handwriting.

When I was in New York last summer the mail came while I was at Mr. Lee's office and someone called my name.  I walked over and was handed a piece of mail.  I'm like...DA HELL???????  I turned it over and saw our home address engraved on the back of the envelope.  Envelopes that I had painstakingly pondered so as to choose the right personalized stationary for my husband.  Inside there was one of his simple embossed note cards and in his handwriting was the following:

You are on your way!  Love you, The Robinator

In short...these are a few of the things that  can always make me smile and remember that I have always been cherished and loved by my family and friends.  And when I say they are a few...seriously.  I have stuff from Cojoe, Weezy, Dr. Punkin, Prince Myles...everyone I love with all of me that would be the things I'd mourn the most if I somehow lost everything due to tragedy.  

When I think about stuff like this I realize that I must be pretty well grounded about life based on the things I consider my treasures.  I didn't say not one piece of jewelry (I'd prolly be wearing my mother's pearls.  LOL!) nor did I mention not one bag.

Wait...um...erra...not one bag? 

Shit...I must be delirious.  DELIRIOUS INDEED!  I have vintage status bags!  That can't be replaced!  Wait...hold up...I'll be back...

(SIP:  Told yall her azz is bat shit crazy!  It's like three people live in her dang head PLUS me!  Humph.  Just CA-RA-ZY!)

Name three of YOUR most cherished items?  Why do you cherish them so?

I need new friends...*sigh*

On Sunday, I was able to fulfill part (not all, but close) of a life long dream.  I was able to be in between Dawn, Terry, Cindy, and Maxine better known as En Vogue.  I literally used to dream about this!  I can remember my momma telling me to stop watching the “Hold On” video over and over again.  She said I was gonna hurt myself.  This was the sandwich I always wanted. ~ oneblackman

Question...

Who do you argue with more?  Friends or family?

"Sex and the City" Family

As I was driving this morning, I found myself thinking about the oddest thing.  I started thinking about Carrie Bradshaw's mother and siblings.  I couldn't remember whether or not she ever (in an episode) had relatives visit her or whether or not she ever visited them.

And then I wondered about Samantha's family and Charlotte's family and Miranda's family too.  I remember Miranda's mother dying but it was kinda like an afterthought ya know?  Like she got the call that she was dead, got upset and then went to the funeral where her girls ended up attending in support of her.

Cuz they obviously didn't know her mother.

Then I started thinking about Carrie's elaborate wedding and never ONCE was there a mention of family.

DNA family that is...not the family you created with friends.

And it really made me wonder if that was intentional because it seems to be the way that a lot of people really are in life.

It made me wonder...in Carrie Bradshaw style...if more often than not, if you're DIFFERENT from the norm in your family, do people find themselves closer to friends because of REAL commonalities than they do to their family (whom they feel they have nothing in common with) the older they get in life.

Was the absence of DNA family in "Sex and the City" the NORM?  Is day-to-day interaction mostly regulated to friends intentionally?  Is it simply EASIER and therefore more of an attractive option?