Forward Notion is going through some things regarding a career decision. SIP decided to answer his queries today using the gloves off approach:
When you are pursuing what you believe to be your passion or your calling, and you want something so bad you can taste it, how in the world do you know if it’s right for you???
Because I would do it for free. Because I would do it on 2 hours of sleep. Because even if I have to be on set for 4:00am…I don’t need an alarm clock to wake me. Because it doesn’t feel like WORK…it feels like moving in the middle of my LIFE.
All that to say, what we think will help us get closer to our dreams can turn out to be the very thing that takes us further away from it. So how do tell the difference??
I truly believe that God will send you the pebbles. He always has in my life. I’ve always known when I wasn’t following my life’s dream but never believed it was something I could actually do. I’ve always known because I know my work ethic and I know when I’m not giving something my all. AND…I know that I’m happiest when I’m giving something my all. Listen to how you feel. In order to do that…you have to REALLY know and trust yourself and not give a shit about what anyone else thinks. Once you get there…in that personal ZONE…you can flipping FLY off that power. I PROMISE YOU.
I just go for it. That can’t be the right way, can it??
God has given you everything you will need to succeed and this is where a lot of people go wrong. They FORGET or BYPASS the things in front of them. You can’t just jump out there unprepared. God gave you what you need to be prepared. You got good sense. You have Mr. Google. You have the fortitude to read and process what you learn. Put that to work and WRITE IT DOWN AND MAKE IT HAPPEN! Folks step out all willy nilly without a plan and then…fall on their faces talking about they guess it wasn’t meant for them. I don’t agree. Milton Hershey went bankrupt 15 times trying to make chocolate candy before his research and proper planning caught up with his hard work. He had the passion but didn’t have the plan for a long damn time. He figured it out finally through preparation and PLANNING.
If I REALLY think this out and pray on it and decide that this is the direction I need to go, and THEN the daggum committee tells me that I wasn’t selected, then what?!?!?
So what you might not be selected. What does that say about you? About your body of work? About your passion? About your dream? Not a GOT.DAMN.THING other than the selection committee didn’t believe in you as much as you do, as much as your family, framily and friends do, as much as the most random person who gets to meet you does. Fuck them. You want this…then we have faith that you’ve done everything possible to get this. Hell…you could be bypassed because of a selection committee’s second cousin’s niece for all we know hell. The true great ones get this and they know one monkey don’t stop no show. Do it your damn self. Make your own rules and if you need help getting there…the beauty of being a child of God is that you never know who you already know that could be a blessing to you and your dream. Open your mouth and start talking. Once the Universe is made aware of what you want…the pieces will start coming together and you will already have the plan in place to follow.
So, how have ya’ll handled these sorts of things? Any advice?
Don’t be scared of shit. Least of all…failing. That’s just dumb. True failure is sitting on your azz doing nothing scared of how it’s going to look if you don’t get what you want once you’ve tried once. ‘GONE GET YOUR DREAM HELL.
I’m waiting and while I’m waiting…I’m getting mineZ.
SIP has spoken. Don’t make me fight you.
This is the same thing I'd tell any of yall. If you have a dream...don't be dumb about following it. WRITE IT DOWN and then? MAKE IT FLIPPING HAPPEN! Keep the naysayers out of your space, surround yourself with likemindeds and have a core group of people you TRUST to be your focus group. You can do anything you fucking want to do. Period. Stop counting yourself out.
Someone told me recently that they love this blog because we have an extraordinarily high group of married women around here and it gives her hope. She says she believes in the power of being around what you want to be which is a wife.
So...as you can tell, oneblackman was allowed to run rampant around here today. We have since realized that it might not be a good idea to have his less than technically savvy self roaming around messing with settings and whatnot so he was given his very own login account. This way...during days like today when I'm swamped...he can entertain yall with his shenanigans. From now on...you'll be able to see 'Posted by oneblackman' at the bottom of a post he has contributed but I have a feeling you'll know first hand when he's shared something. LOL!
I can't tell yall I didn't burst out laughing several times at his craziness today because I did. Dude has issues. LOL! Smelly Bark had me ROLLING!
Now...yall know his azz is crazy and militant and I don't get down with 99% of what he has to say about race issues or politics but hey...we ain't gotsta agree on everything to be friends.
All-in-all...this is how friends get down. Yall know he's one of my oldest friends and when I need him...he's always available and when he, Robby and Jamie kidnap Stacey Dash...I'll go bail 'em outta jail cuz I know they can't help themselves.
Thanks for stepping up and helping ya girl out and I can't wait to see what you come up with. I'm wondering, however, if we need to set up some limits for you. Hmmmmmmm...
Whatchall say? Does oneblackman need RULES? If so...what?
Monnie is busy today and has given me the blog password and permission to do as I see fit for the rest of the day. I'm really excited and believe Shelly, 1969 and onefromphilly will love me even more after today.
Hi. What's up? Nice to meet you. Yada, yada, yada.
This post is just for you so we can stay on the right foot. I'm glad you like the blog. We put a lot into it. When I say we...I mean me, my husband and the Tribe. Speaking of the Tribe...don't mess with any of them. Seriously. You don't know us like that. We put in on this for a long time and we have a groove. Just so you know how deep the connection is...I stopped messing with a DNA carrying person for messing with someone in the Tribe. We're here for each other daily, we've made connections we can't deny. We will NOT allow someone to come up in here and mess with one of our people.