Too far? Or funny?
I'm in the process of decorating for Christmas on a perfectly snowy day! Instead of Christmas tunes in the background, however...I have a yelling husband and a Ravens' football game to listen to. LOL!
My inspiration for the topper came from a floral arrangement I saw at Michael's in Asheville, NC.
I couldn't find a burlap tree skirt that I liked so my mommy-in-law made me the perfect one because she's so awesome and rocks so solidly! LOL!
I dressed the mirror up by adding a berry spray and a double swag ribbon made out of red wired burlap ribbon.
I found these ornaments years ago for $1 each at the Dollar store. I tied some fishing twine to them and used Command hooks to hang them. That's an old spruce garland with ribbon woven through it. Easy and cheap.
That's Day 1 of decorating so far. I'm still working on the tablescape for the coffee table in that room. I think with so much color throughout, I need to use white only to kinda ground it. I don't want it to be too "busy."
After that...I'll do the family room.
I LURVE CHRISTMAS!!!!!!!!!!!!
What colors are YOU using this year? Are you finished decorating yet?
Doesn't have any children.
Comes from a good family.
Tells you that his father had another woman in the same town and his mother, who was married to his father, didn't concern herself with it and that he's decided that he wants that type of marriage as well because he doesn't think men can be monogamous.
I was reading this month's More magazine and there was an article about how to have your best hair at 30, 40 and 50. I quickly skipped to the 40 page and read up on what I'm supposed to look out for and what I can do.
I couldn't find the current article online but this basically what they said:
Great. I have going bald to look forward to. The more I read about this aging shit...the more I want to opt out. Seriously.
This shit is for the birds. LOL! I canNOT stop laughing at this shit! Eyes bad and baldness in my future. One of my surrogate mothers told me that my face looks ashy. And I was moisturized. LOL! WITH BRONZER! LOLOLOLOL! Now...in my defense...she wasn't wearing her glasses and she's way older than me but hell. What the hell is next? I'm not taking this ish lying down.
If you know of some secret stuff to fight all of this inevitable ish coming down the pipeline...Imma need yall to speak up hell. Don't be keeping the secret of the bees to yourself. That shit is not sisterly. If you have a fountain of youth out back...ship me a bottle. Please and thank you.
Have you started noticing some of these things happening? What are you doing? Do you FOCUS on aging well? Are you eating right? Working out? Drinking water?
Our daughter "Amanda" lives in another state and has been married to "Jacob" for several years. Theirs is an open relationship, and I have always known that. My husband, however has kept his head in the sand regarding this. My daughter has a boyfriend, "Tom,” whom Jacob knows about and has a great friendship with. They are all planning to come to our home this Christmas, but my husband insists that Tom (who has visited us previously) is not welcome. Do I tell our daughter, son-in-law, and daughter's boyfriend to make other holiday plans? My opinion is that they are all consenting adults, there are no children involved, and always behave appropriately in public.
—Stuck in the Middle With Him
What would YOU advise? What would YOU tell your daughter?
I have never read the I hate my husband post. It was interesting. I have a personal question/comment/request for you.
You've spoken on your parents' relationship before, but do you know if your mother ever hated your father? You seem to be the child that every woman in this situation wants to have. You have a great marriage and home life. You're surrounded by good people and you're living your dreams. Every mother that's sacrificing themselves in a horrible marriage is hoping that they end up with a version of you because of it. How did you get to where you are? Are all of your siblings the same way? Maybe you can post about it in response to the I hate my husband post.
In my experience my mother divorced my father before i was born. I never grew up with him. My older sister has memories of living with him, and is more bonded to him. Growing up we didn't spend much time with him because we lived on separate coasts. When we did spend time together I kept my distance. I didn't know or trust him as he was a stranger to me. He never took the time or perhaps he didn't have the knowledge of how to bond with me either. I later found out that he didn't miss a single child support payment in twenty four years. No matter what he was going through he made sure that was taken care of, so maybe that was his way of being there.
In college he taught me how to tie a double windsor knot. That lesson was like gold to me, I put a tie on my dog. I have the picture somewhere. I later realized how much I'd missed out on by not having him around. I knew that he wasn't the best father or husband and wished he'd been better in those areas, but he still had something to offer and I'd missed out. That's something that I never wanted for my own kids.
I still have to deal with the demons of my parents' past. Not having my father around magnified my mother's issues as well as magnifying his absence. I can't say it would have been better with them being married, but I think I may have benefited had he been around. I can relate to the women's fear of their husbands disappearing on the kids because that's what I've seen happen and what I've experienced. It's the question of is something better than nothing? At what point is the something more damaging than the nothing?
Well I am speaking from my own experience as a child of divorce. You're someone with a more public voice who is emblematic of what mothers hope their sacrifices will produce. Maybe that's something you can speak about.
Have a wonderful day!
I'm kinda weird about pajamas. I love, love, LOVE them! But I ONLY buy my favorite kind, Munki Munki, at Nordstrom when I have a gift card. I just feel weird paying $70 for pajamas on my own. LOL!
But if I have a Nordstrom gift card? Baaaaaaaaby...I'm getting a new pair of Munki Munki pjs!
I was in Marshall's recently being all casually random and saw a Munki Munki tag. I stopped in my tracks and darted over in a frantic fashion flipping through the racks. A woman noticed me moving so fast and came over.
Her: What did you find?
Me: (looking up squinting) Um...give me a minute.
Her: I saw how quick you got over here so I knew it was something good.
Once I'd made my choices...I told her the pajamas were usually like $70 at Nordstrom and they were super soft and awesome. She picked up a pair and felt them up. Then...she agreed that they felt good.
I left her there happy and excited with my find. GO ME! Munki Munki pajamas for $24.99.
Lemme hit my tap dance slide again right quick. HAPPY DANCE!
Why yes...yes you do. :) The Coalition
Houston cops cuff 13-year-old white girl, 2 black men visiting city for dance video shoot
Read more: http://www.nydailynews.com/news/national/houston-cops-cuff-white-teen-black-men-visiting-video-shoot-article-1.1535803#ixzz2mVqVptkf
What do you guys think of this story? I'm discussing it now and I'm confused. I mean...number one...I want to know why the girl's mom or dad didn't go with them? I mean...she's 13. My parents wouldn't have let me travel anywhere with other folks like that without them like that. But I guess it's different for all folks.
Do you think it was racial profiling or suspicious looking circumstances taken too far by the police?
Can you speak any Spanish?
Remember this? You Mad at Maria Kang?
We established that we weren't mad at Maria Kang.
Yesterday Caroline Berg Eriksen posted the picture of herself 4 days after the birth of her baby. Folks were going IN on her. I read in the Yahoo! article that one of Caroline's critics said, "This is not a selfie. This is an act of war."
I've felt sorry for the backlash Maria Kang received but I felt some kinda way when I read that on her FB wall last night. It's like...she's doing the same thing to this woman that she claims everyone else it doing to her. Why in the world would she think that's okay to do? Like...she seems to feel like this woman needs to be taken down a notch for posting that picture and isn't that the same thing she's been saying women have been doing to her?????????
What do YOU think?
...so will I.
That is all.
I bought a bunch of Alstroemeria Sunday before last to put in a vase. I didn't want to spend a lot on flowers because I knew we'd be leaving even though I wanted flowers that day. I paid $3.99 for a bunch at Trader Joe's.
When we got home last night I was blown away at how they'd opened up and how such a cheapo pack of flowers looked so beautiful.
I changed the water today and here is how they look tonight...8 days later:
How is that even possible? I think this is going to be a standing flower for our home. Cheap, lovely and super long lasting. GO ALSTOEMERIA!
Do you know what your kids are getting for Christmas yet?
Our road trip to the Smokey Mountains was a success! Robby and his father got to golf and his mommy and I did a bit of crafting and a wee wee tiny bit of shopping. Most of all, however, was relaxing and spending good quality time with people you love. That is IMPORTANT. That is necessary for all of us to do in order to reconnect and stay connected with the very heart of who you are.
It's no secret that my mommy-in-law is one of my favorite people on earth. She is so sweet and funny and awesome. Just WAIT until you see what she and I have cooked up for Christmas decorating. It's going to be sweeeeeet!
So...that up there is our haul back from their farm. String beans, pears, pickles, preserve, pecans, etc. We even got an entire bowl of satsumas. SOOOOOOOO DELICIOUS! If you've never had fresh canned veggies and fruits, you're missing out BIG.TIME. My mommy-in-law shelled those pecans for us herself and I plan on freezing them in quart size bags today because baaaaaaaaaby...pecans ain't cheap these days. She said to let yall know that they will probably be pricey this coming year because pecan trees throughout didn't produce much. I can't WAIT to make some sweet potato pecan candy!
I'm not going to say that I'm already looking forward to our next road trip. Because I'm not. It's hard on the body. LOL! I don't want to do more than one per year and if it has to be for Thanksgiving...so be it. It was nice. VERY nice. And The Robinator was in seventh heaven and honestly...if he's happy...that makes it all great. Jaru REALLY loved the mountain air, if you can believe that! Our pampered pooch LOVED it outside!
How was your holiday? If you road tripped...when did you head back? How long did it take you? We got caught up in traffic in Tennessee so our 8.5 hour trip took us 10 hours and all three of us are SO.TIRED!
We survived the road trip.
I kirked out at hour 8 and wanted to jump out the window and roll around on the ground like a 3 year old in full on tantrum mode. Yall...I was DROVE! I'm talking Oprah DROVE.
So was Jaru. I looked back at one time and almost died laughing at my poor puppy cuz he looked like he'd just given up on life.
That's funny because he was SO SAD looking when he saw our suitcase since he's used to us leaving him so when he saw me pick up one of his beds to take out too...BAAAAAAAAAAAAAABY! DUDE STARTED TWIRLING LIKE A CIRCUS DOG! TuTu and all!
But lawd jeevus...he soon realized that a road trip is not all it's cracked up to be. How folks do this on a regular I vow to never, ever know. I have a friend who does a road trip every month or so. I now think she must be a serial killer looking out for new places to hide bodies cuz yeah...no.
So we got here and when I saw the view...seriously...it was SO worth it!
I plan on sitting out on this deck as soon as someone gets rid of that snow because I'm kuntry and when a kuntry girls sees a rocking chair...rocking must be done.
My food traveled super well. We dang near needed a blowtorch to unwrap my turkey. I'd wrapped it three times in foil and then three times in Saran Wrap. I was so nervous but when we took it out...it was nice and cold to the touch. Instead of reheating the entire bird...we sliced a platter of meat and reheated that with fresh sprigs of rosemary and damp paper towels covering it. Everything was delicious and my tablescape was simple and lovely. The centerpiece traveled well too and it was super quick to lay out.
Hold on...let me side eye my mother-in-law right quick. She's talking about going forage for pine cones in the woods with the bears and the other wood stuff that lives on side of a mountain with a winding dirt road surrounded by trees. I need to remind her that we can get a bag for like $1.50 from Michael's with a 40% off coupon.
Side eye sequence complete.
How's Jaru you ask? Dude took to the cabin like water to a duck. (Why did I first type like butter to a duck cuz seriously...that was just odd. LOL!)
THAT FACE! I love my puppy.
Well...the menfolk are about to get ready to go golfing. We're going to run to town and forage for pine cones IN A STORE and fire starters IN A STORE cuz ain't nobody going out there foraging in the woods. LOL! My mommy-in-law brings me JOY! She's simply the cutest EVER!
How was your Thanksgiving? All well?
The weather jacked our plans and we're not leaving until 3:00am Thursday morning. The Robinator made the best decision possible to keep us safe.
Totally threw all of my cooking plans out the door. Since we're not getting there until after noonish...I decided to cook my turkey and everything here and travel with it all done.
I totally LOOK like I'm going with the flow but inside my brain I'm on serious panic mode.
On a ridiculous note...I have an unnatural fear of traveling when it is cold outside. I watch too many Hallmark movies where folks get stuck in snow storms when their car breaks down. They be shivering...
Just crazy huh?
Did you get where you're going yet? Any cooking questions? Anyone making that brie?
Last week I was attempting to strategically place a bobby pin in my bun so you couldn't see it. I must have adjusted that thing 4 times to get it right.
I guess that's gone out of style since Rihanna accepted an award presented BY HER MOTHER...with bobby pins holding her hair down in plain view. I guess that's what is hot on the streets now huh?
Do YOU hide bobby pins? Or are you cool with them in plain view?
I'm at the radiology center waiting to have my mammogram. The young lady at the front desk looks like she just rolled out of bed and didn't TOUCH her hair. Like...her ish is all the way crunchy with old curls flat and bent every whichaway from sleep. WHO THE HELL GOES TO WORK LOOKING LIKE THAT? WHO THE HELL GOES TO WORK WITH COMBING THEIR HAIR?????????????????????? I bet her azz doesn't show up at the club looking like that. I am TOO THROUGH! Why is this acceptable? What would YOU say to an employee who showed up to work with uncombed hair?
Ugh! I can't even look her direction without my lips tight. Just...EW!
I posted this picture last night on FB and a friend wrote, "Little woman, big dog." LOL! That cracked me up because it could totally be the title to the story of my life.
I'm looking at this big dog now while he's sprawled out on his bad snoring, smelling all tea tree oil good from his grooming on Saturday and I'm worried about him on a long road trip. We decided to rent a vehicle to take the drive so he'll have enough room to spread out because yall know he has issues. My truck is a mid-size SUV and The Robinator drives a big pickup truck without a cover on the bed so we decided to rent a big SUV so this beast is comfortable.
I swear...the things we do for our pets.
We have a prescription for Dramamine in the event he starts having issues on the ride but hope to not have to use any. The doctor said if we wanted to...we could give him 1 mg per pound of Benadryl and that would make him kinda sleepy for the ride.
Have YOU ever taken a road trip with a dog? Any tips?
Sometimes it's infuriating listening to women talk about the men they are dating or were dating. I listen in amazement wondering if they are describing something that happened with a boy when they were in middle school and not with a grown azz 40 some year old man.
Cuz what you just shared makes no damn sense.
A grown azz man knows better.
I refuse to believe that there are so many grown azz men who don't know better.
So...maybe they know better but search for BOO BOO THE FOOL so they don't have to DO better and dear...guess what? You're the contestant on BOO BOO THE FOOL!
When someone does some ish like you're BOO BOO THE FOOL...why don't you call them out? Point that ish out and keep it moving? Acknowledge that you don't HAVE to be BOO BOO THE FOOL. Acknowledge that you control how people treat you! Acknowledge that your two feet work just fine and you can put one foot in front of the other and keep it the heck moving.
I was stood up for a date once and the guy didn't all. When I tried to call him...he didn't answer. I called that mofo ONCE thinking something had to be big time wrong. He didn't answer. Oh well...guess who ain't BOO BOO THE FOOL? I was too old for that ish and perfectly fine with spending the weekend on my sofa watching television. I never answered any of his calls after that and meant that ish. When I saw him out and about months later he looked like he wanted to say something to me. LOOKED LIKE...cuz that shithead didn't get an opportunity to come near me. I was NOT having it. My name is NOT BOO BOO THE FOOL and you're not going to treat me like ish and think I'm going to be skinning and grinning in your face afterwards.
I heard dude got married and then divorced within a year. Sounds like he thought his wife was going to play BOO BOO THE FOOL for the long haul. Good thing she figured that ish out because I can't think of anything worse than marrying a grown azz, rude fuck that periodically forgets the concept of respect. Sounds like his azz needed to be alone.
Women...PLEASE don't be walking around here being BOO BOO THE FOOL. Be who your parents raised you to be. Be who you see yourself as. Don't be what a rude, disrespectful shithead reduces you azz.
Do you know any BOO BOO THE FOOLS currently?
You should DEFINITELY add this to your grazing station for Thanksgiving this year. A friend made some recently and I embarrassed myself with how much of it I scarfed down. I'm talking...DEEEEEEEEELICIOUS!
About 18 ounces of Brie
1/2 cup butter, melted
1 cup Kahlua
1 cup light brown sugar, packed
1 cup chopped pecans
Slice rind off top of brie but don't remove. Bake in oven at 350 degrees for 15 minutes.
While brie is baking, melt butter, add Kaluah and brown sugar and bring to boil, stirring constantly, for 10 - 15 minutes (carmelize). Add pecans for about 2 minutes or so to warm the pecans.
Remove brie from oven and pour sauce over top. Serve with crackers and apple slices.
You'll want to try one at home first before you share with others. Not because there is a science to it that you have to perfect but because it's sooooooooooooo good...you won't get enough to satiate you with your friends around.
I couldn't find the thing I needed to pull my tablescape together. It just seemed to be a bit "blah." I kept searching high and low but nothing.
The tablecloth section everywhere was ugh.
So I went to J-Ann's fabric store today with the table measurements and found something that would bring color to the table. Then...I called Erica B. to find out what kind of edge binding stuff to use on the edges to make it nice and straight. When I got home, I pulled out the ironing board, my ruler and iron and ironed down the edges.
First I made the straight line using the iron and then I put the tape in the fold and followed the instructions to bind it all together. Basically you just hold the iron down for a count of ten all along the edge and then turn it over and do the same.
It was sooooooo easy!
That binding stuff is here: 5/8-Inch by 20-Yard Stitch Witchery
The fabric was $3.98 per yard. Erica B. made me download the Jo-Ann app so I could get a coupon and my purchase was only about $10. GO.ME!
The only thing I know about the fabric is that it's cotton and I liked the color and pattern. LOL!
So I'm finally ready! Here are the linen elements of my tablescape for Thanksgiving 2013!
What colors are you using this year? I totally think I'm going to make my tablecloths/toppers all the time now. It was super easy and I had lots of options to choose from by way of fabric.
When's the last time you bought new shoes? Heels or flats? Boots or shoes?
...if you're in the guidelines of needing one?
Mine is Monday and, since I'm a cancer survivor...I get to do this creepy scan one. Wheeee! Go me! But I'm not complaining. Thank God I have good medical insurance right? Right.
What about you? Did you do it yet? All well? Are you scheduled?
Do you have a sibling or other family member you could start a business with or work for? Have you ever? How did it work out? Any advice for someone considering it?
If your husband didn't/doesn't want you to nurse in public...how would you handle?
I haven't purchased anything by R. Kelly since "12 Play." I just couldn't. I know other people, MANY other people, who didn't feel the same but hey...that's cool. We all get to spend our money as we want.
I never said that when I hear his music I don't "be listening" and grooving. I never, ever said that. I just said I don't buy anything by the man if I know he's involved. He can get richer off other people. Damn shame dude is so talented and I can't buy a thing by him.
Do YOU buy his music? If you don't...when you hear it...do you "be listening?"
...BRINGS ME JOY! We should name him SIP! LOL!
The artist is Randy Hibberd. You can find the print here: Beauty In Blue II by Randy Hibberd
You and your S/O get into a huge argument.
The next day, your S/O sends you flowers.
The note says..."I'm sorry even though I still don't think I did anything wrong."
Someone I know from FB was going to be on GMA this morning so I kept switching the channels so I could see the relationship advice he was going to give since he's one of the few advice giving men I don't roll my eyes clean out of my head behind.
The story he was giving advice on was about a woman who went on a 10 day meditation sebatical away from her family that helped her be a better wife and mother.
I can totally see that.
I then went and read her article and I saw it even more: http://www.babble.com/relationships/i-took-a-break-from-my-husband-then-i-fell-back-in-love/
I feel like this can happen all the time in smaller doses too. I know that when I'm traveling solo, I realize just how much I prefer being with my husband than with pretty much anyone else in the world. That's not to say that I don't enjoy myself...but I'm always hit with how much I'm missing him or how much he would have enjoyed something, yada, yada. I'ts kinda like why I always bring him something special back. I start missing him big time and appreciating him and I want to bring him a little something back. It's really odd because whenever we talk when one of us is traveling, he sounds all nonchalant and whatnot because he hates the phone, but when I get home...he's always done something really sweet that he knows I wanted him to do because he missed me and wanted to do something to make me smile too.
I like that.
What do yall think? Do you feel like small doses of being apart helps you remember how amazing your family is too? Sure...you might look forward to the quiet time or having the bed to yourself but honestly don't you feel better knowing it's temporary?