I bought two three ball myrtle topiaries a while ago because I'd always wanted some at the front door. When I found them, I envisioned them in square wooden planters with trim moulding.
Being me...I immediately started looking for planters and couldn't find a single thing that looked as I wanted it to look for the price I wanted to pay. I mean...I'm just paying $100 for what is essentially...a lil box. Um...no. Grandin Road Nantucket Square Box
So, I decided that if I couldn't find what I wanted, then I simply needed to find two matching things. The only thing I 100% didn't want to compromise on was the color black.
And I couldn't find two black things for what I wanted to pay for either. *sigh* So I bought two grey looking ones from Amazon for $7.28 each.
And got my spray paint on.
And hey...they look nice enough. GO ME!
Would you have done the same or would you have paid the $200?
I crack myself up with what I search for. It cracks me up even further once I realize just how common what I'm searching for obviously is. Take, what I know know as, traveler's constipation. I was talking to an elder the other day and he was telling me how backed up he gets traveling. I shared that it's a problem of mine too and that I started traveling with Smooth Move and try and strategically time it so I can fix my problem when I know I'm going to be in my room in peace. We laughed. I mean...mine gets so bad it starts hurting and my tummy gets super dooper hard. So I asked Mr. Google about it and dude was like...yeah...it's a big deal, it's not just you and your people.
I also try and eat lots of fruit and try and stay as hydrated as possible but find that's the most difficult thing to do is stay hydrated because if I'm moving around...I might not be able to find a restroom quickly so I might decide to not drink anything until I'm stationary for a while.
Do you suffer from this too? What do you do? Do you notice it in your kids when you're traveling or are they exempt?
I used to keep pine nuts in the house for salads because I love them so. In the past few years, the price on them has skyrocketed so yeah...I substituted my pine nuts for pumpkin seeds in my salads. Recently I was at a restaurant and ordered a salad before my meal and pine nuts were on it. I think I counted 7 pine nuts. LOL! Cracked me up.
Are there any nuts you keep in your house for weekly use? Which ones? Do you buy mixed nuts weekly?
Do you know where pine nuts come from? http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/03/10/pine-nut-trivia-facts_n_4921114.html
You're hanging out with a group of friends and peers.
One chick there clearly doesn't care for you.
After a discussion where you and she don't see eye-to-eye she grabs your purse and dumps the contents on the floor.
What do you do?
When I was single, I used to look forward to 11 - 12 hour power sleeps on the weekend. I would make my place cold, tuck under, shut off the ringers and SLEEP. Don't let it rain and I could stay in that bed dozing on and off all day.
I can't do that anymore no matter how hard I try. I pretty much automatically wake up completely after a certain amount of sleep unless I have to set the alarm to get up earlier.
I wondered about that yesterday when a friend shared with me that her son slept 12 hours that day. I smiled, remembering when I used to be able to do that too. I'm not even a bed lounger. Pretty much when I get up, I leave my bedroom and don't return until it's time for bed.
I used to take naps if I was tired back in the day. Now? I have to be SUPER, DOOPER, TRAVEL tired or sick to be able to sleep when it's still daylight. I no longer sleep on planes unless it's a red eye and when I'm staying in a hotel, if I'm not sleeping, I'd rather be in the pool area or the lounge room. I always need to be UP unless it's bedtime. LOL! There's just always something to do!
What say you? Have your sleep patterns changed in any way? Can you still sleep 11+ hours like you used to in your teens and 20's? Do you take naps?
I read that article with my face frowned up so badly I know I created at least 2 new wrinkles. I blame Slate for that.
In rejecting an outfit, I have never, ever communicated to my child that her dress was a “distraction” to others or that she bore responsibility if someone reacted in any way—favorably, rudely, distracted, or otherwise—to her body. That schools are passing on this very message to her and other female students—and simultaneously communicating to boys that their learning environment is being compromised by the sight of girls' limbs or cleavage—is unhealthy and unsound at best, illegal at worst.
I must have reread that passage three times trying to find it in me to have the outrage that mother feels about her daughter being yanked for those shorts. Well, I couldn't muster up a single seed. Her faux outrage on the possibility of pretend rights being stepped on just made me roll my eyes.
Ma'am...your daughter's shorts are too short. I don't know nothing about birthing no babies...but I know that baby's shorts are too short. And when I say that, I'm not adding a single other thing to it. I'm not saying she's going to mess around and get groped because we know the wrong type of male will grope a nun. I'm not saying it means she's going to be promiscuous when she grows up because plenty of people have removed long, flowy pants to get their groove on. All I'm saying, simply, is that your daughter's shorts are too short. It's not a political statement. It's not a sexist or feminist statement from where I'm coming from. It's a decency statement. I think it looks indecent when I see ANYONE with shorts on that short. Where I'm from, we call them coochie cutters and it's always said with our lip curled on one side. Buy her some longer shorts. Simple.
What say YOU? Do YOU think those shorts are too short? Would you let YOUR preteen daughter wear them? Do you think the mother is reaching, big time, in this article? Or do you understand where she's coming from and feels like dress codes are placing unwanted body stigmas on girls?
I posted it and simply said...Rihanna won.
That dress there is absolutely STUNNING.
But then...other pictures surfaced and it became clear to me that whomever posted this picture first added shadows quickly so it would be appropriate to post online. A piece of her arm is even missing which also goes to show how quickly the person did what they did to the pic.
Well...then other pics started popping up and um...erra...my opinion on the dress changed.
I just finished reading an article that states she made the most important feminist statement in pop culture history.
Looked like she was just walking around butt azz nekkid like some lil fast tail azz girl who doesn't listen to her mama to me.
But hey...I'm old.
What did YOU think? Be honest. The paparazzi don't come 'round here.
A woman makes an appointment to have her daughter's hair braided.
The appointment started off all wrong because the woman dropped her daughter off two hours late.
The mother ran errands.
The stylist braids the little girl's hair (child looks to be around 6) beautifully.
She takes pics and put her on Instagram account as she always does when she braids a clients hair.
She calls the mother.
Mother says she'll be there in twenty minutes.
Two hours later...the mother isn't there.
Mother says she had a flat tire so stylist gives the child a ride home based on the directions the mother gave her.
Turns out...it was to her grandmother's house. The child lived down the street.
Stylist drives child to her home and sends her in to get hermother.
Child comes back and says mother isn't that, just her brother.
Stylist leaves but then gets super annoyed so he goes bak, asks the little girl to come out and cuts the braids out of the child's hair.
She then takes pics of the child and posts them to her Instagram account too as a warning to anyone who thinks it's okay to play with her money.
Stylist says she was away from her kids for 9 hours dealing with the child's mother and doing the child's braids.
She could have scheduled another client, etc. and been paid properly.
Do YOU think the stylist did anything wrong?
I'm sure yall saw the pics. The bride responded.
Tennessee Bride Defends Decision to Tow Baby Down Aisle on Dress http://www.people.com/article/bride-drags-baby-wedding-dress
Later, I thought about why I hesitated and honestly...I think it's because so many people have changed the definition of the word feminism. Then I thought to myself...well that's ridiculous and kept it moving.
I thought about this conversation with myself last night as, on a gander, I looked up the definition of the world feminism online and found one thing in common with all of the dictionary references online. They were all different. If the following definitions are still the case...then yes, I am:
So...I'm a feminist. *THROWS CONFETTI*
During a casual conversation with my Godson, it came out that he felt both men and women should take out the trash, remove snow from vehicles, clear the sidewalks, and take out the trash. I told him that he can believe whatever he wants to believe and he should think about it further on his way out the door to take out the trash. I decided to revisit it later and told him that Unca Robby does those things because he doesn't want me to have to.
E: Would you do it if he didn't want to do it?
Me: He'd never not want to do it if the alternative is me doing it.
E: But what if he couldn't?
Me: Then I'd do it. I'm perfectly capable of doing it, it's just not something I'd want to be responsible for. Same as Unca Robby not wanting to be responsible for cooking dinner or grocery shopping or dealing with a lot of stuff he doesn't want to deal with so I deal with and vice versa. Each of us have our own roles that, over time, we slid into naturally.
E: My wife is going to take out the trash and do all of that stuff too.
Me: If she doesn't have a problem doing those things...then she will. But if she has a problem with it because she was raised in a home where her father and brother did those things...she probably won't so make sure you're not trying to hand down ultimatums because the only women who are going to deal with your ultimatums are women who don't feel worthy of having choices and well...a whole set of extra problems comes along with a woman who is unsure of herself.
He started walking off...
So...in your opinion...do you think the definition of feminism has changed from what you've always known it to be? Can you be a feminist if you want equal rights across the board for women yet expect the man to take out the trash?
Am I a feminist? Are you?
My allergies have been on swole this season and I was wondering if something was wrong but I've reading that it's not just me...it's everyone. I take the Costco brand of the Zyrtec formula daily but there are certain days one doesn't do the job.
I downloaded WebMD's new allergy app so I know what I'm dealing with even before I open window one.
Do you suffer from allergies? Have you found this season to be bad for you too this year? What do you take? Does the Zyrtec last 24 hours for you? Do you open your windows or does the threat of pollen flying in keep you from it?
Like most women, I have had the uncomfortable experience of having a guy who made me feel some kinda way, let me know he "liked" me. Like most women, I've let him know, graciously, that I wasn't interested.
These situations can go well or they can go horribly, horribly wrong.
I've had a time or two that have gone wrong and it was pretty scary thinking that someone had this unhealthy obsession with getting me to like them when I knew it was never going to happen. Once, a guy had a picture of he and I in a frame and told everyone that I was his girlfriend who lived in another state. Turns out, it was one of those situations in your 20's at a party and he asked could he take a picture with me. Cool. No biggie. To know that I was his girlfriend in his head and didn't even know his name and never seeing him again ever...was kinda weird for people in their 20's ya know?
When I read about the murderer Elliot Rodger I wondered if knowing about his crime before, would have caused me to take a different course of action when I was dealing with a creep. Would it have made me to nicer to the creep? Would I have felt scared enough to spend time with the creep hoping that it would mean he would let me live even though I didn't go out with him?
Would Elliot Rodger and the lack of proper response from the police when THE BOY'S MAMA CALLED THEM, make me tell creepy dude...Sure, I'll go out with you. Anytime. Here's my number. Call me any.time.
This fool thought his behind should only get to date the hot chicks and the lack of interest of the hot chicks caused him to hate women. No telling how many nice, lovely regular chicks who may have been interested in him...he only wanted the HOT.CHICKS. I mean...where does this COME.FROM? How does this manifest? I mean...you'd think he was solo on this right? WRONG. Dude had a community of men he empathized with. They straight up seriously took the "I Hate Rachel Club" to new levels.
This dude straight up KILLED people because he couldn't get laid by a hot chick but folks get nervous labeling him as a woman hater????????????? GTFOOHWTBS! DUDE HATED WOMEN! His lil crew? They hate women too! Dude straight up wrote a MANIFESTO ABOUT HIS HATRED OF WOMEN! HE WAS STILL MAD 'BOUT SOME JUNIOR HIGH SHIT! WHERE DO THESE PEOPLE COME FROM??????????????????????????????????
I said all of that to say...nothing much. I'm just wondering out loud I guess.
Have you ever attracted the attention of a creep? How did it end? Did it change you in any way? Do you warn your daughters about creeps like this one?
I hate to be ashy. HATE.IT. My skin has a tendency to be on the dry side so as soon as I got out of the shower or bath, I pat myself dry keeping my skin a bit damp and moisturize immediately. I'm pretty anal about it and buy a new container of lotion when the current one starts feeling a bit light. I REFUSE to run out. I keep hand lotion in my purse, in the door of my truck, in the glove compartment, etc. There is hand lotion near pretty much every sink in our home so I can keep my hands moisturized properly.
Yesterday, Shelly asked me for some lotion for her hands. She was digging around in another bag of mine and pulled something out that she could have used.
Me: No...I have the good stuff in my purse. Hold on.
I know she was looking at me like I was crazy because she was about to use some Aquaphor and well...that stuff is super good too.
But it wasn't as good as the good stuff I keep in my purse just for hands.
I have issues about lotion yall.
I thought about that and where it stems from and I realized...I get it from my mama. NOTHING was worse to her than ashy knees, elbows, ankles, etc. She was the type of mommy who would lick her thumb to wipe some ash off your face before I started running screaming from her when I saw that thumb headed my way cuz really...that's kinda gross. Lady...you just wiped spit on me. NO. LOL!
She kept a lil container of Vaseline in her purse and had no problem having a wax on/wax off moment no matter where we were. You'd close your eyes and she'd paint you shiny right there, ear lobes et al. We were a NO.ASH family. My brother will be with me somewhere and look over and say..."I know you have lotion in your bag, huh Monnie? Answer? Yup. Sure do.
Today I find that this body moisturizer is my fave: CeraVe Moisturizing Cream
Do you have anything that you KNOW you get from your mama? Anything you simply won't compromise on? Super fluffy towels? Chocolate hidden in a basket? Peeling an orange a certain way? LOL!
And...she now has MAJOR guns! LOL!
Let me tell yall how awesome my girly is. Wait...I just did huh? LOL!
If you're in Richmond and need a jumpstart...GO SEE AMY!!!!!!!!!!! Tell her I sent you and you'll get 0% off and she'll give you 10 extra burpees to do! LOL!
She started studying for the LSAT and applied to her dream school.
She got in.
She packed up her life as a single mother of two daughters and moved.
As with anything worth having...it wasn't easy. There were challenges.
Challenges she ALWAYS met.
She went to law school.
Her daughters went to new schools, made new friends, had new experiences.
She just graduated.
I'm so proud of her I could and have squealed. So very, very proud of her. She is such an inspiration and is the true testatment to the saying...NO.EXCUSES.
I'll get to hug her neck soon and tell her in person just how proud I am of her. I mean it. I'm so proud of her...it chokes me up.
Congrats to the baddest legal beagle I know. My dawg. I love the mess outta her!
A guy you're dating buys his daughter Michael Kors' bags from department stores.
You share with him that he can get a much better deal on Michael Kors' purses at TJMaxx or Marshall's.
You don't hear from him a while after the conversation.
Turns out, he had a problem with your telling him he could get a better deal on purses for his daughter.
Says that you were trying to tell him how to spend his money on his child and he's grown.
Is this a red flag?
Many of us are fortunate enough that we live a life only responsible for our own day-to-day maintenence. We come and go as we please and are able to live a pretty good life knowing that the money that comes into our home is earmarked just for us. Anytime money is going out...it's for our own benefit.
Many of us are on the exact opposite spectrum of that and have family members we have to help supplement or they won't have the basics in life that we know we need to have in order to live in a non-desperate kind of way. You know...things we want our loved ones to have. It could be as basic as electricity or water because for some...those basics can get too costly from time-to-time depending on what's going on.
I know a lot of people who have family members who depend on them and it doesn't really seam fair sometimes but I can't imagine that person NOT doing what needs to be done so their family member can have the basics. It's always a conversation I have with one ear to the ground because I LISTEN seriously as I've had experiences both from being the person needing and being the person giving. There is a connection there that you just can't cut sometimes and yes...you might start feeling taken advantage of but even if you do...they are probably not taking advantage of you.
You are probably their only option.
Could you live with EXTRA creature comforts knowing that a loved one was going without a basic necessity?
Could you buy that new bag knowing the amount would pay the rent of a relative who was behind on rent?
When do we get to the point where knowing they are in need doesn't affect our feelings as far as thinking we work hard for what we have so we shouldn't feel guilty about A, B or C even knowing that a family member is about to be evicted or they are living without electricity or water?
How would you feel if you found out that a family member was living without a basic necessity because they didn't want to ask you? And it was a dangerous situation like...they were elderly with medical issues or there was a small child in the home? Would you still find the same enjoyment in having all that you want to have knowing they were in dire need?
Is life really more rewarding when we take our lagniappe and do for our family instead of stealing moments of material joy solely for ourselves?
Not because he didn't want his son to go to prom...but because of what the son told him he'd need.
A suit or tux.
Father: Wait...what? A boutonniere? Why are you buying a boutonniere?
Son: Because she told me that I have to get the flowers.
Father: But you just get the corsage thing for her wrist. You don't get your own flowers too son.
Son: But she told me to get it.
Father: I don't give a damn what she told you. She's supposed to get the boutonniere. Did you tell your mother this?
Father: What did she say?
Son: She said to call and tell you what I need.
Father: Oh really.
Then...the father went IN!
"I'm sick of this lil girl. I don't like her. She wants too much. My son doesn't have a job hell. His job is school. Know who pays for their dates? Me! I pay! They go to Chipotle. Her azz always wants guacamole. She too damn high class. She needs to be trying to work with him. Ask yo mama for some movie money sometimes hell. Always want snacks and shit. Know who pays for that $75 movie date? Me! I pay for that shit! When my wife and I were dating, she used to sneak in the snacks. Good snacks too. Like...she made an effort to help out somehow even if she wasn't paying for the tickets at the time. This lil girl here? Man...no. I ain't for all of this shit behind her high saddity azz. She wants a limo. Um...if that car I bought for him doesn't get yall there...I guess yall walking. I sick of her! Then they got the nerve to want everyone to show up wearing something nice to take parent pictures and shit before the prom. What kinda shit is that? I ain't going to prom! Watch...it's going to be a situation behind this damn prom shit hell."
Um...him mad. The boutonniere tipped him over the edge.
Dude has been pissed off royally since his son called about prom. He's decided that the girl is too high maintenance and his son is a fool for dating her. He doesn't have a good relationship with his son's mother so he can't talk to her about it and his wife told him to let it go and just buy the damn boutonniere cuz she's sick of hearing about it. BUT HE'S PISSED! The boutonniere is only going to cost him like $10 but he's mad about that $10. I listened. It was puzzling to me too that the young lady wasn't buying the boutonniere.
Did YOUR daughter buy the boutonniere? Did you? If you're a guy...did the girl you took to prom buy you a boutonniere?
I was with a group of male friends recently and, as always, we had several heated debates. One of the debates centered around some article we'd read about single mothers and all the work they do on their own. One guy took the article way, way personally because it irks him that the mother of his child gets to say she's a single mother and is handed an automatic sympathy card. In his words, she's not a single mother. She's single, yes. She's a mother, yes. But she's not a single mother on her own struggling to raise their son because he straight up does what he's supposed to do as it relates to his son.
He picks his kid up in the morning on the way to work and drops the kid off at school and on Monday, Wednesdays and Fridays, his mother picks his son up and stays with him at his house until he gets off work. Then, they do homework and hangout. Every other weekend, his son stays with him but it ends up his son stays more weekends than that because well...he's there on Friday nights anyway, so if he wants to stay, he stays. He has a room, clothes, computer, video games, etc. at his house and always has. He says he doesn't miss a game, a parent/teacher conference or even one of those horrible plays they are in at school when they are little.
No one assumes dude is a single father and when he tells people he has a son but isn't with his son's mother, he can tell the immediate perception is that he's a deadbeat dad. Says he always feels like he needs to defend his actions as a for real, active father in his son's life.
And he says he knows a lot of fathers who feel the same, exact way.
He says that when he made it clear that he didn't want to be in a relationship any longer with his son's mother, she TRIED to be a single mother and keep him away from his child but he took her to court and got it all in writing and now they have a polite, friendly bond because it's only always about their son.
I thought about it and I guess in that instance he was correct. The mother of his son is not a single mother in the true sense of what we've come to know single mothers to be.
What say YOU?