Your 14 year old son is very preppy.
Clean cut with weekly haircuts, non-saggy pants, etc.
He goes to spend the summer with his father.
He returns rocking a straight up goth-ish look complete with black nail polish, black ish around his eyes and black lipstick.
What do you do?
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Mom to Daughter: Eat your vegetables sweetie...they make your hair grow longer.
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Did you breastfeed?
If not...why not?
How old were your children when they stopped?
What do you think about being 3 years old and still breastfeeding?
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I know a 12 year old little girl who isn't allowed to wear nail polish because her father told her she can't until she turns 15. she begs and pleads with her mother but her mommy is like...nope...buffing only.
I remember a Facebook conversation recently initiated by a friend about her toddler daughter's nails. She was asking how young was too young to get polish on her nails. The responses ran the spectrum.
This morning I watched GMA and saw a woman do a full face of makeup on her 4 year old little girl.
So...what do YOU think?
Do/did you put polish on your toddler daughter's nails?
Do you allow your tween to? If not...have you given her an age when she can? Are some colors off limits?
What about makeup? How young, in your opinion, is too young for makeup? What about lipgloss?
How does her father feel about it?
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Are your kids on Twitter?
Do you know what their screename is?
Do you read their tweets?
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Someone asked me to ask yall the following hoping that single mothers or mothers who used to be single mothers with an absentee father would be helpful:
How old was your child when they started askng quesstions about where their father was?
What did you tell them?
For mothers of sons, did your son ever start acting out thinking his father didn't want him?
Did you ever think it was better to not encourage your child to seek a relationship with his/her father because you knew exactly how messed up dude was?
Would you let your child's paternal grandmother have a relationship with the child even though the father doesn't want to have anything to do with the child?
Any of you dealt with a man who wasn't involved at all and doesn't want to be?
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onefromphilly and I don't get to talk on the phone often but when we do...we get it in. Yesterday I wrapped up something major I'd been dealing with all week and called her to tell her I wasn't wearing no stinking monitor and told her about how E made Unca Robby go straight MAN on him Monday evening.
See...I'm usually the yeller at 13700. Robby? He's kinda innately calm you know? Like...he can always figure out how to deal with something in tones which don't let the neighbors know there just MIGHT be furniture moving. But Monday? WHEW BOY!
Him was yelling.
SIP: My mouth just fell open again just THINKING about it.
The Godson is an extremely smart kid so when he brings home a C...it's very confusing ESPECIALLY when you've seen every.single.test from the grade period and they've been all A's.
So...you immediately pull up the grades and find that yes...he made all A's but didn't do ANY of his homework. Now...you do the math. What's the average of an A and an F?
Yup...a C.
WHEW LAWD!!!!!!!!!!!
I didn't say anything until Tsiporah got here. I mean...you'd be soooooo proud of me. Like...I.STOPPED.TALKING. The only thing I did was take his phone from when when I saw him texting with a friend.
But I didn't say anything.
SIP: Well...the look on your face didn't require verbal language you know.
So...she walked in, saw my face and was like...what happened? And it started.
Well...The Robinator came home as all of this was going on and he asked what was going on and we told him. He turned immediately red...
YOU GOT ALL A'S ON THE TESTS BUT WEREN'T SMART ENOUGH TO KNOW YOUR HOMEWORK WOULD AFFECT YOUR GRADE NEGATIVELY? THAT'S JUST STUPID! THAT MAKES YOU STUPID!
And then he turned on us.
YALL ARE TOO SOFT ON HIM AND I'M SICK OF IT! HE THINKS HE'S SO DAMN SMART HE KNOWS WHAT'S BEST FOR HIS EDUCATION ON HIS OWN? HE DOESN'T HAVE TIME TO DO HIS HOMEWORK BUT HIS LIL AZZ HAS TIME FOR TEXTING AND PLAYING VIDEO GAMES? VIDEO GAMES? THE NEXT TIME HE SHOULD BE ALLOWED TO HAVE A VIDEO GAME IN HIS HAND HE'S GOING TO NEED A REFRESHER COURSE ON HOW TO PLAY CUZ IT'S BEEN THAT.DAMN.LONG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I didn't say nothing.
And the man'ing continued.
It got to the point where Tsiporah and I went into another room and had a glass of wine cuz our nerves were bad. Even Lucy was like...DAMN! HIM MAD!
And E was shaking in his sneakers cuz really...Unca Robby is a big azz dude and having a big azz angry dude yelling at you when you know you're good and damn wrong makes you VERY calculated in your response.
The end result was that E was CRUSHED his Unca Robby went in on him which has kinda pissed me and Tsiporah off cuz seriously...we said the same ish but he's crushed cuz his Unca Robby said it?
Humph.
This man ish ain't no joke apparently.
So I was telling onefromphilly this yesterday and that fool said, "I did the same thing in the 10th grade. I don't know why my parents didn't kill me."
ROFL!
She brings me JOY!
SIP: Unca Robby would have snatched her bald.
On Tuesday Unca Robby called to tell E he'd be home before 5:30. E shook from the time I passed on that message until the time his MUCH calmer Unca Robby came through the front door and his main thing was to tell his Unca Robby that he was really sorry he'd disappointed him.
Robby: Prove it by bringing that C back up to an A.
SIP: He was cold in the way he delivered it too. Like...chilly freeze cold.
The first time a man went straight MAN on your child...did it mess up your head? Were you upset? Was the problem resolved? If it happened to your son...how old was he the first time?
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You're doing laundry.
A card falls out of your 16 year olds jean pocket.
It says..."20% off your NEXT tattoo."
What do you do?
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Shelly: I have to go to the dermatologist.
Me: You breaking out from something?
Shelly: Ever since I had Cole I have breakouts on my arm.
Me: On ya arm?
Shelly: Chirren ruin ya.
Me: Goodbye Shelly.
SIP: BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!
Did any "weird" things start happening or change up for you after birth?
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On Monday evening I needed a break so I went shopping and people watching. I'm currently writing something with a mother-daughter angle so I kinda intentionally went to stores where mothers and daughters would be.
I was in one store looking around and noticed a girl who couldn't be more than 12 in jeans, a fleece and sneakers. Her mother was in full on runway mode.
The mother was picking out all kinds of clothes with bright, bold Spring colors and the daughter was so uninterested...it didn't make sense. At first I thought she was one of those entitled, privaledged brats but then I noticed that the young lady's shoulders were all slumped over and she really looked miserable.
It made sense when, later, her mother showed her a gorgeous dress and she told her mother she wasn't wearing that and her mother snapped at her that it's time she stopped acting like a boy cuz it's not a cute look.
My head snapped up as did a couple other women who were in the vicinity.
I left cuz this could have been me and my mother at age 12 and it brought up some hurtful memories I thought were long gone.
Why is it the older you get...the more poignent bad memories seem to be???????
I thought about the scene in the movie "Pariah" where the young lady and her mother had a similar conversation and I wondered was her mother scared that the young lady was gay.
Those of you who were tomboys growing up...what's YOUR story? Did anyone try to force you to wear dresses? How old were you when you decided you liked dresses too? Did anyone give you crap for preferring jeans over skirts?
And...do you think you can STILL climb a tree? LOL!
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Did any of you have a child born premature? How long did they have to stay in the hospital after they were born? Did they have any issues later in life which was contributed to their being a preemie?
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A friend comes over and brings their child who is about a year older than your child.
They get along pretty well and you and your friend has a really good time.
Later that night...your child notices that all of the money in their wallet is gone.
You know it was there BEFORE the visit because you watched your child put their $10 allowance in it.
Your child has been saving to buy something and had about $37 dollars in the wallet.
How do you handle?
If you do decide to contact the friend and they say their child doesn't know anything about it...do you replace the $37 yourself?
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How do you handle when you've had a horrible day at work and just want to sit quiet and decompress (funny...I initially thought decompose...ROFL!) and your kids are talking CONSTANTLY?
Do you think it's ever okay to tell your child that you need quiet when they are full of energy and things to tell you about their day?
Does it make you a bad parent?
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Your 14 year old daughter is a bit on the nerdy side and you love it.
She's smart and funny.
She's tall and skinny.
She wears glasses and her teeth aren't perfect.
She's beautiful to you, of course, but you can honestly say she has to grow into her features before others may see her surface beauty too.
She dresses neatly but has never shown an interest in labels.
She is EXTREMELY hormonal.
You go into her room one evening and find her on her bed in the dark.
You turn on the light and she's crying.
She tells you she hates her life because she's ugly.
How do you handle?
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Have you started making plans for your kids' summer yet?
How early do you have to start in your area to get them in something?
Do they get to pick the activity camp?
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Your child's school starts a once a month thing where they will keep your kids at after care until 10:00pm on a Friday.
It costs $20.
The kids watch movies, play games, etc.
Would you participate?
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Your 12 year old child asks you can they go hangout with a new friend after school for two hours.
You tell them you will certainly need to meet the friend's mother and head over to do just that.
Turns out the friend is of the opposite sex and their mother is one of those peace and love kinda people.
You good?
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What's your favorite anecdote to tell about your kids?
What was your parents' favorite anecdote to tell about you?
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The last recreation type thing you signed your kid up for...how much did it cost? What about the uniform and equipment? How much did that cost?
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Would you let YOUR 17 year old go to another country for a year to live between high school and college?
Would your decision change based on if they are a male or a female?
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The last thing your kid got punished for...what was it?
What punishment did you give?
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When you had your baby...who was in the delivery room with you? Was there video?
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Even if what the other sibling did was wrong and something my parents didn't want them to do.
So you'd dime out your sibling and then get pretty much the same punishment for tattling.
I remember that being very confusing to me but I hadn't thunk about it as an adult until recently when I was discussing this with a friend.
What was your parents' stance on tattling?
What is YOUR stance?
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As a parent...what do YOU think is the most challenging aspect of parenting?
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Would you let your daughter go to the dance school that's on that show "Dance Moms?"
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I had the outside only rule as a kid too! LOL!
I couldn't go in anyone's house without my parents. EVER.
E knows he can't go inside anyone's home around here even though his friends can come here if they have their parent's permission.
One kid asked E why he couldn't come in his house when the kid could come in our house. E was like..."Man...I just follow the rules. See ya."
Question...do yall think this is archaic? Is it wrong to let him have friends over yet he can't go over to their house? I just always feel like I should take extra special precautions with his well-being because I would DIE if something happened to him while on my watch so I just don't take chances.
What say you?
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Do you believe your children have a right to privacy from you in your home?
Did YOUR parents?
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Were you one of those parents who said they wouldn't allow their children to watch television and then caved once you realized you could get stuff done while they were enamored with their FAVORITE show?
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Your household income is pretty normal for middle class people.
You have two children.
One of your kids is 15 and wants a pair of $200 jeans, $225 sneakers, $80 graphic hoodie and a $200 thug jacket for Christmas.
You good?
If you're NOT good...what is the alternative that you'd be willing to do?
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Did you ever go somewhere to stay on your own before you left home for college? Like...some kinda program or camp or something?
How about your kids?
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You, your daughter and your ex-husband are Black.
Your ex-husband's current wife is White.
Your daughter is 9 years old and can't comb her own, VERY thick hair.
Her father has never been able to comb her hair either.
Your daughter is going to spend three months with her father and stepmother while you take a temporary assignment in another state.
What instructions do you leave for her hair maintenance? Who do you tell this to? Do you think it would be something that would concern you? Would you be surprised if her hair care became an "issue?"
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Would you send your child to an all Black school?
Would you send your child to an all White school?
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This show starts tonight.
Will you watch?
Did you ever feel like this with YOUR daughter?
Were you and your mom close when YOU were a teenager?
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Your child is being bullied at school.
When you find out about it...you call the school IMMEDIATELY to set up an appointment regarding.
You then call and tell your husband.
Your husband is late coming home.
When he gets there you ask him what took him so long.
He tells you that he stopped at the kid's house who has been bullying your child and told the kid's father that if his kid didn't stop fugging with his child he was going to return and kick the father's azz.
You good?
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