What did YOU think when you read this? (Stole from a FB friend.)
Don't expect a summer wife if you bring home winter weather....You are the thermostat, she is the thermometer. You're supposed to set the temperature, she's supposed to let you know what it's reading. (Dr. Tony Evans)
For some reason I'm always asked for marriage advice by new brides. I always say the same thing. "Cherish each other because it's you and him against the world."
Good advice right?
I said this recently to a young woman about to get married and her friend chimed in with, "But what if he doesn't cherish you? Do you stop cherishing him or do you still do for him hoping he'll start doing for you?"
Her: Like...what if he's always angry all the time and doesn't really take it out on you but you have to tiptoe around him because he's always angry?
Her: What if you know something is wrong but he just won't tell you?
Her: Do still cherish him then?
SIP: Say bruh...this was some sweet shit going on and you just dumped kerosene on it and lit a marriage match.
Me: I do not have initials behind my name and those sound like issues folks with initials behind their names need to help you with. Now...if you want to send me an email with specifics to post anonymously on my blog I will but that's all I got.
I don't tell people to leave their significant others. Hell...if you're happy then I'm happy you're happy. If you're NOT happy..."there's other fish in the sea."
I'm not a yes man/woman. If you decide to share something with me and ask my DIRECT opinion...I'm going to give it to you. If you get mad I'm going to remind you that I'M NOT THE ONE WHO TREATED YOU BAD. I'm the one you asked to give you an opinion. Your not liking my opinion still doesn't mean I did you something.
Oh...and my advice is not a mandate. As ALWAYS...do whatever the heck you want to do same as I would.
I was going to let it go but then Pebbles' video came on. It was like a sign.
I was talking to someone about dating and sharing that the most important part...IN MY OPINION...is taking your time to get to know the person just dating without trying to force anything. No jumping right into a relationship cuz you're single and they're single. See...I feel like you need to give the crazy pebbles a chance to surface so you know exactly what you're dealing with.
And then...it got kinda gray because I couldn't really explain exactly what I was trying to say.
See...you know I believe that God sends you pebbles before He hits you with a brick.
Crazy pebbles too.
The thing about crazy pebbles that's most important is how YOU are able to deal with them.
Women...lemme tell yall why none of yall have men? (Yes...I know that was a question mark,)
Cuz you don't keep yourself up. Listen. When you go to the gym you need to have on your push up bra with glitter betwix your breastasus and get you some of them sneakers with heels on them. When you go to sleep at night...comb your hair and put on makeup. Men shouldn't have to see you bare faced with your hair tied up. Just NO!
Sitting around the house in lounging pajamas? NO! BALL GOWNS DAMMIT! BALL GOWNS!
Men shouldn't have to do anything. You should go to work, keep a perfect house, keep the chirrens clean and quiet and then be ready to make a sans ropas tape after!
While you're at it...CHANGE THE OIL IN THE VEHICLES TOO!
Damn yall with all this compromising and helping fantasies. MEN.ARE.KING! THEY.KNOW.EVERY.SINGLE.THING!
You and your husband struggle financially for years while trying to get his career as a comedian/actor off the ground.
Money was so tight yall were sometimes homeless.
You stuck in there with him.
Even while his fonky azz was allegedly cheating with women who had no problem telling folks who they were cheating with.
16 years later...he decides he doesn't want to be married to you anymore.
And then he marries one of his jump offs.
Dude is now making MILLIONS of dollars telling women how to ack as a RELATIONSHIP EXPERT! He has targeted women and have a whole lot of them thinking he is the hottest shit walking and they should listen to him because he's soooooooooo clean cut and good and only wants to HELP them.
Your money is waaaay funny now.
Would YOU do something to make some of those millions by exposing who your ex-husband TRULY is?
Or would you leave it alone and let karma deal with him and figure out another way to make some money?
Hate if you want to. Once I get this book deal and my tour and appearances all book'd up...you'll see!
Here is my idea for the basics surrounding Chapter One:
All single women are jealous of you because you are married and you need to guard your husband at all times! If you leave him alone with a single woman LORD KNOWS she will seduce him because all they want is another woman's husband! DON'T LET THEM CHICKS IN YOUR HOUSE CHILD! Husbands just ain't strong enough to be able to fend them off! MENZ AND WOMENZ CAN'T BE FRIENDS WITHOUT CHAPERONES! SOMEBODY IS GONNA SLIP UP AND MAKE A BABY!
JUST WATCH AND SEE!
You single women that THINK you're not after someone's husband...just you wait till you're around someone's huZbun. You will feel an irresistible urge to strip nekid and lay up like pron star! So yeah...yall need to stay from 'round wymenz huZbuns.
Whatchu think? What should Chapter Two be about? Any snappy titles you can think of?
To make me more official-er...I'm also going to call myself a Dr. as in my first name. Monica shall be my middle name. Mingo...last. SIPh.D are the initials behind my name that I'm going to use officially.
The title of my first book shall be called...
"Keep Ya Titty In Ya Bra...and other words of wisdom."
Send me money.
Buy my product.
I mean cuz really...the only criteria it seems you need in order to call yourself a RELATIONSHIP EXPERT...is just to call yourself one right?