Rantings of a Creole Princess

Prejean Sex Tape: The Ho Sit Down Award!

Of course yall know that I think Carrie Prejean is a flipping idjit but only

because of her reaction to people reacting to what she had to say about gay
people. I didn't have a rat's azz what she said about gay people cuz
hey...that's her opinion but when she tried to pull the victim role when
folks started tagging her azz after and she claimed her freedom of speech
was being restricted (Really? How? Didn't you say what you had to say?
How was your freedom of speech restricted idjit?).

Well...first they found her topless photos and tossed them out there because
she started speaking at all these right wing nut job advocacies because they
always feel that a pretty White woman can get their message out better and
she screamed foul play then. NOW...a sex tape has surfaced from when she
was 17 YEARS OLD and all knee deep in family values! LOL!

SHE.IS.KILLING.ME!

Carrie Prejean Sex Tape

This chick gets the HO.SIT.DOWN award of the year!

But here is my question to you...is there EVER a reason to make a sex tape?
Seriously? Why not just do it in front of a mirror and watch as it goes
along? Why take the risk that someone would see it other than you and your
partner? Seriously? Is there EVER A GOOD REASON TO MAKE A SEX TAPE
STARRING YOU?????

Scenario...

You've met a high profile celebrity during a chance encounter and have been getting to know each other via the phone and instant messaging. 

You find that his life is MUCH different than you thought it would be and that he spends quite a bit of time alone and is usually in his room wherever he is traveling to before and after his event.

He's single.

You're single.

Prenup Demands

If you and your fiance agreed that you'd put a FANTASY prenup in place wherein you both were able to add demands for your spouse-to-be...what would you add?

Prenuptial Agreement...Weight Gain???????????

What would you think of your fiance asking you to sign a prenuptial that included weight gain limits?  Would you have a problem with this? 

Question...

Have you ever known someone who, despite being a bit...um...INSTRASTIN, has been married SEVERAL times?  Do you ever wonder how they do that?

Beyonce and Jay Z: HotNESS or HotMESS? (SM)

I really love Beyonce and Jay Z.  I love how they keep their personal business out the street and they seem to have done this celebrity marriage thing THE.RIGHT.WAY.

They dated and worked and worked and dated and then...they did the dang thing without the usual publicity whoring we've come to expect from celebrities.  Even as I wish we could have seen a picture of them on their wedding day (Cuz you KNOW Bey rocked it out...you just KNOW IT!) they make my heart smile.  I love love.

What say you? 

See? This is why I HATE people! LOL!

Angela & Marcus

Angela is a BOSS!

I can watch "Boomerang" every.single.day.  It's really SUCH a good romantic dramady.  If there IS such a category.

I specifically like Halle Berry's character, Angela.  Angela was sweet and funny.  Warm and loving.  But when ya boy played her dirty...she flipped that switch into overdrive immediately.

Let's think back shall we?

Question...

Would you automatically assume that someone was tipping out if a married couple only had sans ropas once in over a year?

Ho-ish man?????

What's the definition of a ho-ish man?  A man who has dated lots of women?  A man who hasn't had many relationships but lots of bed buddies?  A man who is dating someone else when you meet him and yall start messing around?  A man who just broke up with a woman even though he still cares for her and is dating other people because he is single?

What's the definition of a ho-ish man?

Do you think a man who has dated around a lot can't fall in love and get some ack right because he didn't want to lose the woman he loves? 

Spoiled Rotten

The Robinator admitted yesterday that he knows he's spoiled rotten.  He grinned while he said it.  LOL!  Such a dang brat it's unbelievable.  LOL!

I love him so man.

He also stated that he's not as spoiled as I am however.  My answer to that?

DUH.

I know me well.  ROFL!

Do you spoil YOUR S/O?  Do they know they are spoiled?  Does your S/O spoil you?  Do YOU know you're spoiled? 

Question...

You tell your S/O you're uncomfortable with them going to lunch with their ex and yet they tell you they are going anyway because it's just lunch. 

Problem?

The Ex...

Your S/O's ex comes to town for business and invites your S/O out to lunch.  Do you have a problem with your S/O going?

Re-Post: Cherished

February 09, 2007

Last Saturday, I went to a movie in Chinatown with a girlfriend. It was super cold and when I get the shivers, it makes my incision hurt.

My truck was on "E" because I wasn't feeling well the day before and didn't stop for gas after running errands.

When I told Robby I was meeting Taya, he said he'd drive me to the Metro so I didn't have to get gas and so when I returned the truck would be already warm.

He asked me a bunch of questions, made sure I had my fandango printout and that I knew exactly where I was going. He told me to be careful half a dozen times and kissed me when he dropped me off and said, I love you and be careful just ONE MORE TIME before he watched me enter the train station.

Last Saturday, I went to a movie in Chinatown with a girlfriend. It was super cold and when I get the shivers, it makes my incision hurt.

My truck was on "E" because I wasn't feeling well the day before and didn't stop for gas after running errands.

When I told Robby I was meeting Taya, he said he'd drive me to the Metro so I didn't have to get gas and so when I returned the truck would be already warm.

He asked me a bunch of questions, made sure I had my fandango printout and that I knew exactly where I was going. He told me to be careful half a dozen times and kissed me when he dropped me off and said, I love you and be careful just ONE MORE TIME before he watched me enter the train station.

Question...

What advice would you have for a man who has a stay-at-home-wife and thinks the money is HIS?

Knowing you...

...what do YOU think YOUR ideal age to get married was/is?

Question...

Have you ever hurt someone it broke your heart to hurt?  How'd it work out?

Scenario...

Boy meets girl.

Girl and boy fall in love.

Madly.

They date and then break up.

They get back together.

Girl starts feeling like guy is trying to get married and whatnot and she knows she's not ready.

They get into a HUGE fight.

Girl ends up sleeping with some random guy she knows but doesn't have feelings for.

Girl feels REALLY guilty and wants to tell guy.

What would YOU advise her to do?

All outta Oatmeal Raisin...

If your boyfriend took part in a church fast and decided to use sans ropas as the vice he's going to give up during the fasting period...would you be upset that he didn't consult you first?  The period of the fast is 120 days.

Question...

Can there be unconditional love without unconditional trust?

Facebook S/O?

Would you un-friend someone on Facebook that your S/O asked you to un-friend?

Question...

Would you make an agreement with your S/O that both of you can read the other's text messages whenever they wanted to in order to prove that you guys trusted each other implicitly? 

Question...

If your husband cheated on you...would you contact the other woman?

Speed

I know a chick who married a dude who came over to pick her up on a motorcycle once.  She wasn't a motorcycle chick and she told him so.  He called her uptight and square and vowed he' was going to "loosen her up."

You know...cuz something was wrong with her.

Chick is a boss.  At the time they met she was feeling some kinda way about dating and wanted to try something new.  She was in executive management and at the time he delivered water.  Nothing wrong with delivering water mind ya...just telling you that's what he did.  They met at his brother's wedding.  His brother was marrying her soror.  He thought his brother and his brother's new wife were square too.

The Man in the Pleated Pants

I'm not big on going out.  Just seems like I have more fun at home doing what I want to do and being dressed as I want to be dressed.  The kid is old and my feet and I have an agreement regarding footwear.

During my evening last night I noticed a lot of stuff that hasn't really changed from back when I used to go out more often and I have to say...some of the stuff is one.big.huge.YAWN.

Let's take the dude who just "drops in" on a conversation we were having.  He has decided it was a good idea to vouch for his boy and stood there talking about how his boy was a good dude.  When I asked his boy if he was attached...his boy said no.  I said the other two gentleman...and the answer was the same.

No.

And they were proud of this ish like..."WHAT??  OH NO BABY!  I'M A BOSS!"

* BLINK*

The one dude who was the most vocal kept skinning and grinning while I took a good look at him.  Pleated pants, belt on the last hole and shoes that aren't the kid of shoes a woman would help him choose.  He looked a mess.  A mess from the top of his ear to the bottom of his shoes.  Why the top of his ear?  He had a good haircut.  LOL!  But the rest of him?  A mess.

As I listened to this fool and watched him I wondered if I was going to say anything.  Those around me probably wondered too.  I was smiling that half smile and taking this fool in and I said..."Yes...I can tell by your pleats and your straight leg with cuffs you're unattached."

And everyone laughed. 

"You NEED a good woman in your corner.  What  yall have against being boo'd up is beyond me.  Love is wonderful."

"Yeah...but I'm only 35.  I got time."

*sigh* 

I guess he's right huh?  He's got time.  He'll look a fool until then...but yeah...he's got time.

What say you?  Why do YOU think men wait so long before they follow the natural cycle of life and couple up with someone great who compliments their life?  What the fug is WRONG with single men????????

Newly Separated

What advice would you have for someone newly separated and having a really hard time with it?

Manspeak

How did you learn about communicating with men?  Do you think you are a good communicator with men?

"Essence" vs. Jumpoffs

I am over here HOLLERING at the comments on "Essence" magazine's bachelor blog where a male blogger broke down the concept of JUMPOFFS.

THEN...all hell broke loose.

What do YOU think?  Did the magazine overstep a line by posting this article?  Is it information that could strike up a conversation that could be beneficial?  Do you think they seem to have struck a nerve?

From Michelle:

Hi Monica,

Today R and I got married!

It was totally an impromptu wedding, yet it was perfect.  Held in his parents garden in Canada, it was the simplest yet most romantic event I ever witnessed. I married my soul mate today and it was beautiful.  His parents are 82 ad 74 yet this morning when I woke I had a beautiful bouquet and fresh flowers in the garden.  They amaze me. 

I wanted to share because you, along with the rest of the tribe, are family to me.  I'm so happy that I can't stop crying...that is not the norm for me. But Richard reminded me that he told me when we got married my heart would soften.

Love you guys,
 
Mrs. Michelle C.
 
P.S.  By the way all of this was planned in one day including purchasing the dress :)

Question...

Could YOU survive in a marriage with no sans ropas?  Be honest.

Sometimes it feels like everything is passing me by...

One thing I love most about my life are my friends.  I love how happy they are to talk to me and I love the feeling I get from talking to them.  I love knowing that my friends can pick up the phone and discuss differences in our opinion of a Tyler Perry movie.  I love that my friends let me make a fuss of them.  I love that my friends allow me to make grandiose gestures and I love knowing I sit at the family table at their most intimate of occasions.

Scenarios...

You get cheated on.

The person your S/O cheated on you with, (in your opinion) looks worse than you. 

How do you feel?

The person your S/O cheated on you with, (in your opinion) looks better than you.

How do you feel?

The person your S/O cheated on you with was another skin color than you are.

How do you feel?

The person your S/O cheated on you with was smaller than you.

How do you feel?

The person your S/O cheated on you with was heavier than you.

How do you feel?

Why do you think these things mean something to so many?

QUESTION...

Have you ever believed that a good man is hard to find?

"I changed for you!"

 

"I changed for you."

"Who asked you to?"

In this life there doesn't seem to be many guarantees other than you are the only person who has any control over what YOU do with your life.

I've heard lots of people say they changed for someone only to have their love thrown back into their face and I wonder if, after hearing this happen to so many people...it doesn't finally make some folks go...hmmmmmmm...

I know someone who changed who they were to be with someone they THOUGHT they should be with.  They stopped doing what they used to do and stopped hanging with their friends.  They stopped doing the things they enjoyed doing and started doing what their S/O thought was suitable.

It made me wonder...

When are some changes too much and when are some changes TRULY in the name of evolving?

Do YOU know the difference?

Scenario...

You've met a pretty great person and yall become exclusive after a few months.

You've met all of their friends in the area and have a really good relationship with them.

You've introduced them to your family and they all like your mate.

Your family is pretty warm and fuzzy like that.

Your S/O tells you that their entire family goes to the Cape for the 4th of July and that's when you will meet them.

4th of July approaches and you get ready to go.

Your S/O is much more attentive of what you're packing to take than you've ever seen.  So much so that it is odd.

On the trip there, your S/O gets really sullen like they are depressed about something.  You keep trying to ask what's wrong but they keep saying nothing.

In the rental car on the way to the house, your S/O pulls over and tells you that their family is different and that they hope you don't see them differently once you meet them.

You're like...thanks for the warning...but I can handle my own.

Turns out these people have money.  REAL.MONEY.  Generational money.  And they are very strange indeed.  They are cold and sarcastic.  Bitter with a lot of infighting.  Strained relationships.

Your S/O starts drinking pretty immediately upon arrival.  Everyone seems to be drinking.

The patriarch of the family is mean and talks to people crazy.  You don't say anything and just observe.  The biting jabs that are being taken at your S/O annoy you but you say nothing and are very surprised to watch your S/O just take it.

After three days of this...yall leave.  Your S/O seems distant and you don't know what to say.  When yall part ways once you get back to your city you don't hear from your S/O for 5 days even though you've called and emailed.

On the 6th day...they show up like nothing is wrong explaining that they always get like this after dealing with their family.

Then...they ask you to marry them.

What do you do?  Do you say anything about all that extra family ish or do you leave it alone?

HIS Engagement Ring?

When Weezy and Cojoe decided they'd found "the one," both of them came to me to help them out in the ring department.  I was honored and wanted to make sure that my new "sisters-in-law" had lovely rings.  Hey...you know we women are odd creatures and you just can't get us any old thing right?

Maybe.

Question...

When is it okay to break the rule "Keep family out of your business" when you're in a relationship?

The BEST relationship advice I ever received!

Don't start nothing you know you ain't gonna keep up. ~ Grandmother

You have to know someone for all four seasons, travel with them and be in sickness with them before you TRULY know them.  ~ Grandmother

Nobody can stay mad with you after you've cooked them a delicious home cooked meal.  ~ My mommy

Whatchu got?  Who gave it to you?

Scenario...

You've been home all day in your office.

The temperature in your home is comfortable.

Your husband comes home.

He changes out of his suit to shorts and a t-shirt.

You start feeling warm for some reason and say so.

Your husband shares that he turned the temperature up on the thermostat when he got home.

WHAT DO YOU DO?

Instrastin...

A man is cheating on his wife.

His single best friend knows.

He has fallen in love with the woman he's cheating with.

But he has no plans to leave his wife.

He takes his wife away on vacation.

Asks his best friend to check in on his mistress.

The mistress and the best friend begin a friendship.

The friendship becomes interest.

The interest gets confusing.

The relationship progresses and she breaks if off with the married man.

Can the best friends remain friends?

Okay...this is HILARIOUS!

A Blanket and a Boo

Some of my favorite memories of Robby and I are of us on a blanket lying in the grass listening to music and watching the clouds change their shapes surrounded by mountains.  It didn't matter that there were other people there too because we didn't know them.  It was just us. 

When I think of all of the things that we do I often find myself knowing I enjoy the things we do that are simple to be my favorite things we've done.  Sure...we can do fancy stuff too...but we're really straight up country folks and enjoy the simplest of things life has to offer.

I think if we ever came into a crap load of money...we'd still be the same.  Our surroundings might change...but we'd still like doing the same kinds of things.  Things that mostly center around us being with each other.

I like my husband just as much as I love him.

How simple are you in that aspect?  Have YOU even simply enjoyed lying on a blanket with your boo?

VERY GOOD READ!

This was a VERY good read.  I'm interested in what you think:  Modern Love - Those Aren't Fighting Words, Dear

Just Dirty!

Have you ever tried to take something back you'd gifted someone you'd dated after you broke up with them?  Why?  Did you get it back?  If you did...what did you do with it?

Scenario...

A single father of two hires a live-in nanny/housekeeper.

He and the nanny/housekeeper fall in love.

He asks her to marry him after dating for about a year and a half.

Does he continue to pay her after she says yes?

Scenario...

You have been dating someone for about six months.

Exclusive for three.

You're taking a nap on the sofa and wake suddenly.

You get up and look for them.

They are in your office with your file cabinet open.

What do you do?

Question...

How long would you let yourself be UNHAPPILY  married?

What would YOU do about it?

And he kissed me...and he kissed me...and he kissed me...

When my husband came home today I was waiting on him in front of our home.  Sitting there...peacefully watching the comings and going of our neighbors.  I went inside to use the bathroom and as I was inside...he drove up and Jaru and Lucy alerted me to his arrival.  I walked outside and stood in front of the door and waited on him to get his suit jacket, briefcase and his lunch bag and then he turned and saw me.

He said something sarcastiky, as he always does and I smiled.  We fiddled around outside for a minute and then walked inside our home.

I followed him upstairs showing him all the Fios stuff along the way and talking animatedly about my day.  The highs and the lows...the good and the bad.

I tell him EVERYTHING.

He put his jacket down...and he kissed me.

And he kissed me.

And he kissed me.

And then...he told me that he likes kissing me.

And he kissed me again.

And again.

I learned a lot about men from my father.  Or rather...I learned a lot about men NOT being a man from my father.  I learned a lot about relationships from my parents.  Or rather...I learned a lot about how NOT to be in a relationship from my parents.

My husband thanked me for handling the installation of our Fios today like I really had to do anything cept just sit there.  He listened to me talk about my day just as I listened to him talk about his where he was actually WORKING.  He cracked jokes at my expense and he told me the truth about my actions knowing that I'd never do something I threatened to do when I was angry.

Because he knows I would never.

In these 39 years that I've been on this Earth I've had a lot of ups and downs...a lot of highs and lows.  I've done lots I'm not proud of and lots I'm extremely proud of.

The measure of me?

My husband.  The measure of me is that God sent him to me and I to him.

I'm in love with my husband.  Ridiculously so.  I love his smile, his walk.  The words that come out of his mouth.  I love his work ethic, I love his penchant for dreaming big.  I love how he loves me.  How sometimes his love is smothering because he knows me so well and knows I need taking care of something awful.  I love how nothing is more important to him than what goes on here...with us.

We got some really good news tonight that made us high five the hell outta each other and we smiled...and we smiled...and we smiled.  LIke married people do when they did something right and held steady.

I gave him his props because it was exactly as he said it would be and so it was.

I don't know much...but I know my husband loves me.

I don't know much...but I know what it feels to be cherished.

I, Monica Mingo, am a woman in love...and get this...the man she's in love with is ACTUALLY her husband.   Imagine that.  Imagine that marriage works when you put in the work.  When you let the other know nothing is more important to each other than the other's happiness.  When you laugh naturally and effortlessly OFTEN.

It's the only way it works.

To all my single friends I want you to hold out for the real thing.  Don't accept nothing crazy...don't lower your standards cuz you will end up with something that won't last the test of time nor will it make you feel good.  ONLY do what makes you feel good.  If it doesn't...MOVE ON.

To all my married friends...make sure that you're FOCUSED.  Focused on your spouse's happiness...focused on YOUR happiness.

It's the only way love is able to flourish.

I promise.

Chris Brown is Sorry

What say you?

The Chicken or the Egg?

It straight KILLS me when folks assume that when a woman goes looking for something it's always ONLY because she's insecure.

What do YOU think comes first? 

Suspicious behavior?

OR

Insecure woman????