My name is Monica Mingo and "I've Got Mind Control Over Dibo"
One of the greatest accomplishments I have made in life is by finally realizing just how FABULOUS I am. When I look at my life and all that has happened to me...it's staggering to know how far I've come. Because of this, it has become a quest of sorts in my life to show as many women as possible just how FABULOUS they are.
How do you do this? Now that's the question. I guess it's really very hard to explain because it's something internal and you just have to DO.
Start by having your own D-Day or personal baptism. You know how there are so many things in your life that you try not to think about? It could be things that have happened to you or things you've done to others or things you witnessed. Sit down somewhere and think about all of this stuff. Let all of the ugly from these circumstances wash over you and accept them. Cry if you need to. Feel guilty, allow every natural emotion to wash over you regarding the situation you're remembering. And then...get up.
Get up and realize that those things happened in the past. Get up and realize that you are no longer the person who would allow such to touch her internal life again. Get up and realize that you can be whomever the hell you want to be. Truly.
My own D-day occured because I truly believed the negatives were going to take over and force me to end up in jail one day. I was just so ANGRY! At every single fuggin person I came in contact with. And the people I attracted were the same exact way. I told myself...in a moment of weakness..."Man...what's so fugged up about me that makes me attract only fugged up azz people?" And in my moment of clarity while I thought about where I was coming from and everything that I was doing to stay afloat in my negative world...I knew...without any doubt...that my problems were because of me and my attitude.
I stole glimpes into my past, because I had effectively cut out those sections of my memory, and I cried. I was disappointed in myself. I was shamed. I was embarrassed. But the most important thing was I knew that's not who I wanted to be. I knew the world held much greater experiences in store for me. I knew I was destined to have a FABULOUS life. And that's exactly what I started to do.
The awesome thing about finally finding this power within yourself is that you will be amazed at just how little you have to DO in order to shake the negative people out of your life. Because they will ALWAYS do it for you. LOL! They will start to think.."Who does she think she is? She ain't all that!" And begin to have their own glimpses into their past they are not ready to deal with. So they will justify it to themselves by saying...she tripping. Because they aren't ready for the shift in dynamics. And they won't be able to accept it. They might blow up and cut the fool...but according to how far you are in your own journey...you'll be able to recognize it as it is. And continue growing.
So I guess the first step to all consuming FABULOUSNESS is acceptance of who you are. Because all of those experiences in your past contributed to making you who you are today. Good AND bad.
I have so many wonderful FABULOUS friends now who tell me they couldn't STAND me when they first met me. My answer? I know. I used to be you and hate with a vengence anyone who wasn't like me and saw them in a place which elluded me. I thought they were fake and phony and full of ish. One of my girlfriends told me the other day...Monnie it's been 5 years and and I've been FABULOUS for 3 of them and I guess I have to say that these have been the best 3 years of my life thusfar. LOL! THAT'S MY DANG GIRL! SHE KNOWS WHO SHE IS! (I know you're reading this...so I'm not gonna put you on the spot! LOL!)
Once you accept you...then you will slowly begin to develop self-confidence and from that will stem good self-esteem. Point blank. I promise you. And when you have those things...girrrrrrrrrrrrrrrl....your life is going to get so much better. They will notice it at work and your continued positive can do anything attitude will get you noticed and promoted. You will walk with that certain "something" and, if you're single, a good man with that certain "something" will recognize you. (Princes recognize Princesses. LOL!).
You will meet new friends that have IT and you will begin to build a support system that is PHONOMINAL because people that are doing the dang thing tend to only surround themselves with people of the same ilk. (UNLESS that person still has self-esteem issues and therefore only deals with people doing bad so they can feel better about themselves. *sigh*)
As those who read this blog already know. I've been through some of the most devasting things a person can go through. But I SWEAR TO GOD I know just how blessed I am. Even when I'm pissed off that things are taking longer than I think they should. Even when I'm dealing with negativity and trying to find the lesson within.
Is being FABULOUS hard? You damn right. But it's easy too because it becomes a way of life. With FABULOUSNESS comes a responsibility to touch as many people in a positive manner as possible. They might resent you for it right off the bat. They might think you are fake and phony...but eventually...with time and continued FABULOUSNESS...they too will see the light.
Now I know this is much harder for some people than others. I mean...you can have children and be a single parent and not really have any down time available to just focus on yourself. But once you really think about the alternatives....I bet you find a way to make the time. Be it during your work commute or in the wee hours of the morning when the house is quiet. Mothers need to do this more than anyone. Because as soon as THEY become FABULOUS...so will their children. And how FABULOUS would that be?
FABULOUSNESS will also lead you to take pride in your appearance. Keeping your hair neat and your cute on. Because a FABULOUS person recognizes her strengths. You are going to evolve into someone so beautiful and you are going to owe it all to God for giving YOU the strength to change.
Every human being is an evolution of himself. The person you were ten years ago shouldn't be the person you are today because of your exposure to new aspects of life. Remember that. YOU'RE EVOLVING every day in small doses and you won't recognize the difference unless you journal and can look back at your entries ten years ago as opposed to your entry today.
Maybe you should start a blog. There are lots of free sites that you can make public (as this one is) or private and just for your own reading. It helps because the written word is usually the most pure in my opinion as thoughts can be fleeting. Write it down and decide how much you like who you are and in which direction and with what emphasis you'd like to evolve.
I guess I don't really have much to add to this right now as it's the beginning of an absolutely BEAUTIFUL day. Robby is already on the golf course and won't be home until noonish and then we and a girlfriend are finally going to see "Akeelah and the Bee." We'll have a friend over for dinner and laugh and have a good time. Life is so good. Life is so very good.
HAVE A FABULOUS DAY MY FRIENDS! Oh..and take the time to do something special for yourself today. It can be as simple as polishing your toenails or taking a bubble bath. Just DO IT!
P.S. Yes...I know I have a few cyberstalkers lead by a sex swinger chick who became infuriated with me after I was stunned she thought it was okay to show up at a dinner party announcing she was a swinger all willy nilly. I mean...who does that???????? We're not your audience and if anyone at the table WAS your audience...I don't want to know that either. LOL! Some things ain't for everybody. Seriously. Just...EW! http://creoleindc.typepad.com/rantings_of_a_creole_prin/2007/08/from-sip-dinner.html