Love, love, love, love, love! (Think wedding scene in "Love Actually.") There's nothing I could do...blah, blah, blah.
So Valentines Day was yesterday. A work day for hubby. When he got home, I had his favorite meal, smothered pork chops (recipe following) ready. He bought my favorite chocolates from Chocolate, Chocolate. Appetizers of cheese, crackers, almonds and cashews were laid out along with really good bottle of wine.
A good friend of ours came over to bring us some Lindt's chocolate and to have dinner with us. Her friend had asked her earlier why was she going to infringe on us on Valentines Day and she told them that I'd told her it was just fine. And it was.
This was our 6th Valentines Day together and we love each other every day, so it was exactly as it was supposed to be.
The fun started, however, when we were watching the Dr. Phil special with Paula Abdul about how to find the right guy and the "player" guy. Well, our friend started asking Robby about how he knew I was the one because he was pretty much having a good time just dating prior to me. He told her it was timing. It was the right time and I was perfect for him.
Now that leads me to think about timing. Because...truly...it's everything.
As a woman with two best friends that are men, I will agree that this is the absolute truth. They have both been in relationships before with GREAT women. Women with excellent careers, doctors, engineers...etc. Gorgeous women who could model. Women with great sense of humor and style. But...my friends weren't ever in the right place to truly appreciate these women. TIMING.
I have listened to them basically say they weren't ready. And I have watched as they broke up with these great women with the "It's not you...it's me" speech. *sigh* And I have watched as they hurt these women dearly and, in some cases, broken their hearts.
The end result was that our friend felt validated in her belief that timing was everything when it came to where a relationship was headed. If either person isn't ready...it's not going anywhere anytime soon. So remember...if a man or woman tells you they are not ready. Believe them.
Hope you had a fabu Valentines Day with your sweetie...or with your most cherished self.
Love,
Monnie