".....guess I should tell you a bit about me since I already know about you. I'm in a strong, supportive relationship for 8 years now and everything is going very well. My boyfriend and I are currently thinking of buying a house together...."
This started out as an email from my inbox and it ended with my not saying much other than...something like...pray on it, you know your heart, blah, blah, blah. You know the usual spiel.
Background of my recovery right quick first. I've been taking the vicodin and I think the dosage is too much for my system because I keep a nauseus feeling in my stomach. The pain for the most part is constant but the thing about constant pain is that you get used to it. BUT...seems you can't just STOP taking vicodin cold turkey...ya gotta take smaller doses until your doc says no more.
Another thing is the drain I got going that is attached to me through under my arm. AN AREA I CAN'T GET WET. Okay...when is the last time YOU didn't wash under your arm for seven days???????? Yeah...uh huh. Delightful. The smell turns my dang stomach. Just EWWWWWWWW!
So I think I get to have the drain removed today because I've had two consecutive drains of 10 cc's of fluid or less. The only thing is...I'VE BEEN CALLING THE DOC'S OFFICE SINCE 8:30 AND THE NUMBER IS BUSY!!!!!!!!!!! Ahhhhhh the horror of being someone who is dang near OCDish about being clean and having a musky azz 7 day underarm smell working overtime. Just...ewwwwww.
Okay...back to the email.
The young lady (age 35) was asking me about something totally different but I got stuck on the amount of years she'd been dating her guy. She ended the email wondering if they were gonna get engaged this year but I didn't sense any urgency about it on her part. Unless she was feeling me out. Could be...you never know.
Well..if she WAS feeling me out...she's gonna pick up on how I feel about this one as I'm just not really all that subtle huh?
Fam....just how long is too long to date someone with traditional commitment? And how is it that someone is good enough to mix your MONEY up with to buy a house...but not good enough to marry yet. I don't get that one. That's as azz backwards as it comes. THIS IS YOUR MONEY FOLKS. YOUR MONEY!
I guess folks don't think of money as important as it really is...but it is VERY important folks. VERY. I know yall already know Ma as in www.singlemomandmoney.blogspot.com but if you don't...please go over there and read up a bit on how to keep your money straight. And I promise you...getting your money hooked up with someone who isn't good enough to marry is probably not a good idea. But hey...that's my opinion and yall already know I'm on drugs. :)
So I ask again...how long is too long to date without marriage on the horizon? Would you buy a house with a significant other you're not married to? If you've been dating a couple of years and the question hasn't been asked...how do you deel with it?
Holla atcha girl. I'm going Febreeze in the direction of my arm. JUST EWWWWWWWWWWWW!
