April 05, 2006
ALL THE WOMEN...INDEPENDENT!
Do you know how to sew or knit? (Well I don't know how to knit...BUT THAT'S BESIDES THE POINT!) What about make a homemade gravy? Anybody makes biscuits from scratch? What do I mean when I say "spritz" your linen? What is the one thing you couldn't do without in your kitchen?
These are the kinds of things that I think all women should know. The kind of stuff that is now a lost art. What happened to make these types of things bad to know how to do? When I ask young women what they are cooking for dinner a lot of times they laugh. "I don't cook." They think it's cute. Well...I don't. And neither do men.
I had a boyfriend tell me once that the reason I always had a man who wanted to be with me is because I had all the skills and my place was nice. Back then I laughed at him. But now...I think about all the times he and his friends were over to my house for dinner. Eating a home cooked meal in nice surroundings. It was ALL THE TIME! I wonder now if any of his friends had girlfriends because they were always at my house.
Being a nurturer is now a lost art. Or it's something that people think only stay at home white women know how to do. How sad is that? Women are natural nurturers...so what happened to make it unnatural for us to be nuturing?
When Robby is sick, I put him in bed and bring him some homemade chicken noodle soup. I keep some in the freezer in the event we or our friends are ever sick. I make him take a multi-vitamin and I stay on him about exercising. I want to spend the rest of my life loving and laughing with him.
I ask him does he need anything and make sure he's okay even when we have a houseful of people. I let him know that he is the KING of this castle. Why is that a bad thing?
I hear all these young women today wanting to prove they "don't need a man for nothing." Well...I do. I need a man to be a man and take care of me and I need my man to let me take care of him.
My husband loves to do two things. He loves to eat and he loves to play golf. I make sure he has good meals and I never have a problem with him golfing when the weather is nice. I don't bitch at him for much...only when I want him to cut his hair. LOL. He's a good man and he's an even better man knowing that he has someone home who loves him and takes very good care of him.
What is it that women want? They balk at being staying home mothers thinking about what will happen to them when their husbands leave them. WHADAFUG? WHY ARE YOU WORRIED ABOUT YOUR HUSBAND LEAVING YOU? If you have a good, solid foundation and everyone knows their roles...your husband won't leave you unless you made a poor choice in choosing a husband and he's not morally sound. *sigh*
What is it that women want? "He's too nice." WHY NOT?????? GEEZ! "He let's me get away with murder." WHY WOULD YOU WANT TO GET AWAY WITH MURDER! DAMMIT! Why in the world is it wrong to be a woman and let a man be a man. All that neck rolling and head popping is going to get you just where you are now. At home alone.
I'm sorry to be so harsh but I think the breakdown in marriage today is because no-one recognizes their roles anymore. Women want to wear the damn pants when a skirt is much, much cuter. *sigh*
Unfortunately I know a lot of women, black and white, who are going to have a difficult time finding a good mate. Sure...they will be able to find a mate...but not a good mate. Why? Because a good man knows his worth and is not going to settle for a woman he can't trust to take care of him. A woman who will love and respect him and who will support him whatever comes along. A woman who, if need be, is smart enough to take care of home should something happen. A partner. Just like in a successful company wherein there is a CEO and a COO, there are roles in a marriage as well. I'm proud to say Robby is my CEO and I'm his COO.
And something else young women could learn how to do? LISTEN! SIT YOUR BUTT DOWN AND LISTEN TO PEOPLE WHO WANT NOTHING BUT THE BEST FOR YOU. YOU DON'T KNOW EVERYTHING! IF YOU DID...YOU'D BE GOD.
Okay...I'm through yelling. Talk amongst yourselves. Oh yeah...the one thing I couldn't do without in my kitchen? Chicken buillion cubes. What do I mean when I say "spritz" your linen (ie. sheets, duvets, etc.)? It's when you have fine linen and you iron it...you shouldn't put starch on it so you take a bowl with some room temperature water in it and stick your hand in. Then you "flick" your fingers over the linen to "spritz" with water. Follow with a hot iron immediately. Your linens will be perfect. Absolutely perfect.