GeckoGirl asked me to post this so she can benefit from yall's good, sound advice. (And don't be cheesing thinking yall all that either! ROFL!)
Speak now or forever hold your peace…
February 21, 2007
Okay, I want you guys’ opinions. The person I’m about to discuss is someone near and dear to me. Click the link below for the backstory -
http://geckogirl.blogspot.com/2005/06/third-fiddle-friend-e-mailed-me-this.html
Notice that post (from my old blog) is dated June 2005. So it’s a whole year and a half later. My friend broke up with his girlfriend a while ago (maybe a year ago). She moved 1400 miles away. Despite those two things, they continue talking to each other, seeing each other, vacationing with each, etc. I guess they have a long distance non-relationship. Meanwhile, they’re still battling the same issues that caused them to break up as well as others. When asked my opinion, I suggested that they should probably just leave each other alone. He agreed but nothing changed.
Now fast forward a few months…he/they are looking at rings and he says he’s going to propose next month. What the hell? So he wants to sell his newly purchased condo, move across the country, uproot his child from family (both grandmoms and the child’s mom live within 30 minutes from his current residence) to be with a woman who, in his words, only cares about herself and doesn’t like dealing with the fact that he has a child. This is who you want for a wife and stepmom to your child?
Needless to say, I think it’s a bad idea. While I wouldn’t come right out and say so unless asked, I’m thinking of trying to subtly broach the topic. If this was random joe on the street, I’d keep my mouth shut. However, this is someone I consider family and there’s a child at stake. So what do you think?
