Every now and then I find I have to have a pretty blunt conversation with "new" people. People that stumble across my blog and read whatever is on the front page and formulate an opinion of who I am. You know...people who haven't read the good with the bad...they just happened to catch me on a good day when they found me and therefore think life is all softly scented roses. NOT! LOL!
Lately, I've more than doubled my hits. I was featured in the blogs section by AOL's Top News and the traffic came from there. Cool. I guess. It probably won't last but hey...we'll see. It was much higher today too...but not doubled like it was yesteday. So again...we'll see.
I'm reminded of what Biggie said. "Mo money...mo problems."
Today I've been emailing with this chick and I felt compelled to break it down for her. Too much flattery and compliments make me itch. It's sooooooo not necessary. (Ask Single Ma about a convo regarding this and she will make you laugh your azz off. ROFL!) And since the young lady found me through the AOL venue and it seems a bunch of other folks did too...I'm going to break it down for everyone once again so they don't get it twisted and only focus on the pretty and therefore think they may not be able to relate or are "relating" to someone I'm NOT.
Here goes.
Hi New Person!
My name is Monica Mingo. I'm 37 years old and I think I'm the shit. Seriously. I do.
Why you ask?
In 1990 my father, an untreated manic depressive, killed my mother and then killed himself in our home after years of abuse. YEARS. He was a brilliant man. My very first hero. Handsome, strong, fun, wonderful, evil, mean, hateful. An anomoly at best. Some days he treated me like a Princess, some days he treated me like shit.
My mother, a BEAUTIFUL Princess, was everything a mother, in my opinion, SHOULD be. They were from different sides of the "tracks." So I got a little bit of it ALL in who I be. LOL!
After their deaths, my siblings and I...tried to stay on the right path. It didn't work out for anyone but my sister for a while. She was the only one of us to be able to move past the pain and not do stoopit stuff it seems. Me...I was angry at the world and felt the world owed me for the death of my parents. I was an awful, awful person and stayed that way for a long, miserable time.
In 1993, I was diagnosed with a rare form of breast cancer and had to have a left radical mastectomy. I got even ANGRIER at the world. The "why me's" were all I was. I hated everyone and everything for a long, long time. Losing my breast was like losing a part of what made me a woman. I felt lost...alone...floating in my own abyss. A.Hot.Damn.Mess.
LIFE SUCKED and KEPT sucking.
When I moved to the DC Metro area...it was the first opportunity since my parent's death for me to be free from my demons. From all of my assumed responsibilities and I was finally able to live my life for myself and I enjoyed THE HELL OUTTA IT!
I began to be reborn. To focus on whom I wanted to be. On the Monnie my PARENTS wanted me to be. No...EXPECTED me to be.
Because I "fixed" the piece of shit I'd become...I was able to attract the man I'm married to. The man who is my heart, my love, my reason for being. I love the HELL outta my husband and he loves the HELL outta me. We da shyt. And yet...we are oh...so...real.
I've always worked hard. I've always had my own. I've always known the best of everything and I've been exposed to more than the average bear. And yup...I'm waaaaaaaaaaaaaay too cute to be poor but I've never had to have a man to make sure I wasn't. Just keeping it real dawg.
Yall/..life is sooooooooooooooooooooooooo dayum good now! Even though we're dealing with infertility, even though I want nothing more than to be able to make my husband a father. Life is pretty damn good.
(By the way...I HATE that lil girl who was crying on "American Idol." HATE HER HATE HER HATE HER!)
So now you know a bit more about me. I don't hide from my past. I don't hide from my mistakes. I am what I am and because of EVERYTHING I've been...I am the me today. My mistakes don't define me. Who I have evolved into today DOES.
So...who am I? Right at this moment...you wanna know?
I hurt a lot. Sometimes really bad. I'm loved...a lot...by my family and friends. I spoil those I love and they spoil me. I love to cook. I surround myself with beautiful things. I THINK I'm jazzy as hell. I'm funny, crazy and most times a damn fool. Sometimes I get sad, sometimes I'm happy. Sometimes I shop...sometimes I cry. I LOVE to laugh and to be around people that make me feel good. I NEVER do anything I don't want to do. NEVER.
MOST TIMES I WRITE.
This is who I am.
I'm funny, FABULOUS and fugged up. If you're not the same...you won't get me. And that's okay. We don't HAVE to get each other to be "friends." We don't have to agree on any damn thing. Hell...MOST of my friends don't agree with not a dang thing I say...them heffas. ROFL!
BUT...WE RESPECT, LOVE AND ADMIRE EACH OTHER.
I love a lot...and I love HARD. Fug with someone I consider family and it's on. IT.IS.ON.
I'm done. Nice to meet you. Whomever you are. LOL! Holla if you want to...don't if you don't. I usually get collectively about 40 comments or so a day...so I KNOW most folks don't comment. I'm cool with that. LOL!
Love,
CreoleInDC...THE MUTHAFUGGIN SHIZNIK! Fug with me if ya wanna...just remember I've already been to hell and I kicked a whole lotta azz to get out of it. AND I AIN'T LOST A BIT OF MY SCRAP.
Music in my head: Destiny's Child: "I'm a Survivor"
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