I was having a conversation with someone recently who needed to get my information in the file in the event they needed to call me about something. Cool. No problem.
The question got around to where do I work and I answered...I don't work. Then she asked how many kids did I have in my home and I answered...three, my husband and two doggies.
I laughed.
She didn't.
Oh well...whatever.
I remember having the conversation with a good friend once about why Ms. Olga comes if I'm home. Basically he was like...shouldn't you have time to clean? I explained to him the danger of planning MY time...for ME.
Apparently being a stay at home mother isn't the same as being a stay at home wife and yes, I get that. But I still don't care cuz it works for us.
My husband wants me to be happy and my MAIN job is to make sure HE'S happy. That's my job.
He just walked out the door with a new suit on. Dare I say he looks FABULOUS. His shoes were tight as were his shirt and tie. Cuff links EXACTLY as they should be. I did that. Last night he had a proposal to review. He was able to close the door to the office and do just that and I kept all extraneous anythings out of his way. When it was dinner time he ate and we talked.
Robby has made a few moves in his career since we've been together that have been pretty impressive. I've watched him turn down VERY good offers without even blinking twice after we've discussed it and found it wouldn't fit for his career path. Since we have been together he has more than DOUBLED his salary. Yall don't recognize how big that is. Lemme put it this way.
We've been together now for 7 years. Let's say he was only making 50K when we met. Let's say he'd received a 10% salary increase per year. (Now I know that's waaaay high this day and age because the average is REALLY only about 3.5%...lemme repeat...THE AVERAGE IS ONLY 3.5%...but I really want to drive home the difference.)
Year 1 - 50,000
Year 2 - 55,000
Year 3 - 65,500
Year 4 - 72,050
Year 5 - 79,255
Year 6 - 87,180
Year 7 - 95,898
So...that's a modest increase right? Right. How does that comparison work against reality? It's blown out of the water. No contest. None. At all. He has made up for the loss of my salary in less than 4 years.
Robby and I both believe it's because when he gets home...he can lay it all down. He's spoiled dang rotten and I like it that way. He doesn't have to do a DANG.THING. that he doesn't WANT to do. He reads, watches MSNBC, watches a game, a movie, talk to me...any and everything he wants to do. I pay CLOSE attention to him. If he looks tired we go to bed earlier. If he looks like he's getting sick...EVERYTHING SHUTS DOWN AT 13700 until he's 100%.
He gets a hot, healthy breakfast every morning, he gets a delicious and nutritious lunch to take with him if he doesn't have a lunch meeting on his schedule for that day. When he comes home...yall know how I do. It's all about him. Why? Cuz he deserves it. He's been at work all day and he's the kinda guy that works HARD. His work ethic is PHENOMENAL!
And Imma take partial credit for this because I remove all stressors from his life when he walks through that door.
See...Robby has the luxury of REALLY being fresh every single day. He's happy and healthy and his mind isn't muddled with crazy crap that he can't focus on in conjunction with focusing on work. He's able to make clear and concise decisions and put steps in place for the big picture.
Hey...half that salary should be on a check with my name on it.
Our life works for us. Will it always be this way? Probably not. Hopefully not. Hopefully I'll be making movies one day but I will still make sure he is supported the way he DESERVES to be supported. As he states jokingly...you're a GREAT personal assistant honey! LOL! NO ISH PUNK!
Me? I'm well rested. I'm well read. I'm not a raging witch with a b cuz I've had to deal with azzes all day at the office and come home still mad with the attitude...hell...I work too shit. WhatCHU gonna fix for dinner??????? Why in the hell you always looking at me to cook?
Humph.
So...a stay at home wife I am right now. Sure...I'm probably considered lazy because of Ms. Olga. Sure...I'm probably bad, bad, bad. All things terrible via the feminist regime.
But my husband likes it and he loves his life.
Do I love my life?
What do YOU think? LOL!
Don't knock being a stay at home partner. Bored I NEVER am. And I hope I've proven that a person with the type of support at home that my husband has can and WILL do BIG, BIG things. Hell...before you know it...the money will catch up without a hiccup if done RIGHT.
Now...let me get my lazy butt up and start my morning.
