Me: (weird look on my face cuz I don't know WHERE this is going mind ya) Um...yes.
Her: How you got married?
Me: It's a natural thing to do once you meet the right person.
Her: But how you get him to want to be married?
Me: By being the best person you can be and making him realize he never wants to lose you.
Her: Oh.
This is an actual conversation I had with a young lady who was ringing up my purchases. She was a very pretty girl. Gorgeous skin, nice smile, tall. Young...prolly not even twenty years old yet. I've been thinking about her ever since this convo happened.
HOW DO YOU GET MARRIED?
I remember when I was growing up I always thought in terms of WHEN I got married. It was never a question of IF or of HOW...but WHEN. And I always thought in those terms throughout my single adult years.
It's sad to me that young ladies now are thinking in terms of IF and HOW.
My mother always told me WHEN you get married, yada, yada, yada.
My father always told me WHEN you get married, yada, yada, yada.
Makes me wonder.
I truly believe that for some people the boat has already sailed. I listen to them talk and read what they write and I don't think it's going to happen for them. Why? Because they've convinced themselves it's not. Yeah...you heard me right. THEY'VE CONVINCED THEMSELVES IT'S NOT GOING TO HAPPEN!
And ain't nainh self help book gonna help you neither is ish I say cuz you always arguing your point which comes across as the point of a bitter, BITTER broad.
As Brutha Code has said "Women TALK their way out of a relationship." How? Cuz you talk too dang much bout ish that comes across as you being desperate and bitter about men. Who wants to deal with a woman they gotta always be proving themselves to. FOR THE LAST TIME HE IS NOT TYRONE! I read recently something where this chick was saying how good her relationship was and then someone chimed in talking about yeah girl...but don't let your guards down cuz soon as you do that's when they start acting an azz.
Me: Aruuuuuuuuuuuuu?
See...that's disgusting. Lemme guess...you ain't got no man huh? You jaded. Don't think true love can happen CUZ IT AIN'T HAPPEN TO YOU. And because it ain't happen to YOU...it must not EXIST. You know...cuz YOU the barometer we should all use right? Um...WRONG. We see you for what you are. You wanna keep as many women lonely and miserable as you are so you can have a group to identify with longer. WE KNOW!
BUT...I don't think the boat has sailed for this young lady in the store. She's too young to have become so jaded right?
Married women don't hold the key to the holy grail of marriage. Most of us have simply been blessed to meet the right one at the right time and a lot of us have always been CONVINCED that we WOULD be married as a natural progression of life.
I think about some of my girlfriends who aren't married and it makes no sense to me why a man hasn't snatched them up because they are the type of woman that I would DEFINITELY want to be married to if I were a dude who wanted a happy, successful life.
And why does the burden of getting married always on the woman anyway? Why is not one tagging men's azzes asking them what is wrong with them? Don't they understand the benefits of a good marriage? Don't they want as successful and happy a life as possible? You NEVER see a damn article asking men why THEY aren't married...it's always the women.
We got too much on us bruh. WE are the ones who get tagged for birth control. WE are the ones who has to choose career vs staying at home. WE are the ones who are to blame for the decline in marriages. WE, WE, WE.
Okay...I'm all off on a tangent when this simply started because a young lady working in a beauty supply store asked me "How you got married?" My heart went out to her and I really wished I could have given her more insight than I'm sure I did.
What about you? Were you spoken to about marriage in terms of WHEN you got married? Or IF you got married? What way are you speaking to your kids about it? Are you speaking to your daughters AND your sons about marriage? Or do you just focus on your daughters? Do you ever think that if folks are ONLY talking to girls about marriage and not to boys...THEN THEY MIGHT NOT HAVE A BOY TO MARRY WHEN THE TIME COMES CUZ BOYS AREN'T THINKING ABOUT MARRIAGE?
Do you think the ship has TRULY sailed for some women because of their attitudes and mistrust of all things man?
Holla atcha girl.
Oh...and if you really wanna up your chances of being recognized by a man with marriage on his mind...STOP HANGING AROUND BITTER BROADS! Find some good positive people (men AND women...don't let folks make you believe a man can't be a good FRIEND to you) to spend time with and if you can't find any...kick it solo. SERIOUSLY!
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