Someone I adore has been missing in action. I got an email from her last night apologizing for dropping off the radar. Apparently she's been MIA because she's gained a bunch of weight and she was sad to disappoint me by not sticking to what she'd been doing to keep her stride STANK.
I gauged the weight of her words and we emailed back and forth a few times. She was really embarrassed and says she's probably gained 30 pounds since the last time I saw her.
I asked her if she was happy.
No.
I asked her if she felt good.
No.
I asked her what she'd had for dinner.
Silence.
I picked up the phone and called her.
The gist of our conversation was that...hey...you gotta do whatever you have to do to feel good. YOU control being happy. God has given you everything you need in order to get what you need to live a GOOD life. If you're having issues then you have a good job and good insurance and you can go talk to somebody. If it's a health issue...same thing.
And then...she hit me with a bomb.
She doesn't feel like she DESERVES to be happy and really doesn't know how to BE happy or what it would take.I got nothing. I don't have any initials behind my name. To me it's simple. If being overweight makes you unhappy...go see somebody, stop eating crap and FOCUS. Start walking. Use the exercise channels on On Demand. Stop going to work, stopping to pick up food and coming home to watch crap on television. You have GOT to move. It's simple math if you think about it.
To her...she just doesn't see it as that simple.
I left the conversation feeling as if nothing was going to change for her. I told her I love her, of course, and that if she ever feels there is something I can do to help her...please consider me a resource. I want her to get there but I don't know how to HELP get her there. I sooooooo believe she deserves to be happy.
Have YOU ever felt like she feels? What pulled you out? Are YOU here in this space now? What do you think it's going to take for YOU to get there? Do you think there is anything someone ELSE can do to help get you there?
