You have a single girlfriend who you think is kinda offish in a corporate thug kinda way.
But she's been a good friend to you for years and years and years.
You've had issues with her behavior and using certain language, etc. around your children and you've simply learned to keep your kids from around her often so it's not a problem.
She also has some ideas regarding child rearing that you simply don't agree with but it's never been a problem because you don't allow her to watch your kids.
You didn't know she was in the process of adopting until someone contacted you as you're one of her references.
Are you able to give her a glowing reference so she may adopt a child? Just because she does things differently from the way you do things regarding children...do you think she should still have the opportunity to be a mother?
