Dear Monica:
I'd like you to post this situation that happened between my boyfriend and I last Thursday night at a really nice place we both enjoy going to. I need the Tribe's help.
First let me give you a little background on our relationship:
We have been dating for almost a year, he is 17 years older than me, he's an attorney who loves 80s rock music. I am 26 yrs old and currently working part time as a substitute teacher and attending college full time working on my degree . I love music too but enjoy dancing more preferably to salsa music. Although we usually almost always end up doing what he likes even the times when I stay over his house. We generally have a positive, healthy relationship, we talk every night and go out weekends.
This past Thursday we went to a restaurant which is a bit pricey because they serve a three course dinner then later have a show typically a rock show but nothing he cant afford. We were enjoying the show when a good friend of mine who we both knew would be there walked over and we causally carried a conversation for about three minutes. I had a glass of wine so I was a feeling a bit out of it. My boyfriend very rudely screams in my ear and asks me to tell her to leave since she was interrupting the show for us and the party sitting next to us. I said nothing to him at that moment but I felt disrespected. It just psst me off and I didn't tell her a single word. We carried the conversation for about another minute and then she walked away. During intermission, I told him what I thought about the way he spoke to me and he kept saying how I forgot my manners and table decorum. Also the party next to us moved to another table. I thought that was unnecessary since we had only spoken for at most 5 minutes. To make a long story short that night we both left very upset.
I got an email from him Friday afternoon and would like you to ask the tribe if he is over reacting or did I really just forget my manners that night. My argument is had he asked me in the correct or polite manner, I would of gladly asked her to come back during intermission but rude attitude get you no where with me.
Here is his e-mail:
Last night was very draining and disturbing. For my part, I should have handled it better. I admit that. I am on edge due to other things including ofcourse throwing $3500 in the toilet. In light of that, your effort to be more pleasant would be appreciated. Instead, offending people who paid $100 a ticket to see a show w/ loud conversation is what I get. Yes, Eva was the primary source of the problem. However, you should have shut her down and told her you prefer to pick up the conversation at the intermission or after the show. The people around us deserved better as did I. That behavior is annoying at a movie, much less when tickets are that pricey. You can continue to resist accepting any blame if that is your preference. Even though the people next to us moved tables for precisely that reason, you were more interested in revving up a beligerent attitude w/ me than showing any humility or empathy that your behavior had impacted their enjoyment of the show. You were loud and didn't seem to be inclined to stop. It was obviously annoying to everyone at the table and extremely embarrassing for me to have to sit there hoping your manners would kick in; knowing Eva's most likely wouldn't. You typically have much better decorum than that. Have my friends embarrassed you; most likely, but not when you paid $200 to bring us to the event. Your excuses were wack and only pissed me off more. The show went to shit for me after that for the most part and then your phone is in your truck after all?? I'll just call the night man teets.
I'm not in the mood to hang out w/ you this weekend. Maybe we'll be inclined to talk sunday or next week. Have a safe weekend. Love,_____
Any input would be appreciated.
Thanks a lot.
I got an email from him Friday afternoon and would like you to ask the tribe if he is over reacting or did I really just forget my manners that night. My argument is had he asked me in the correct or polite manner, I would of gladly asked her to come back during intermission but rude attitude get you no where with me.
Here is his e-mail:
Last night was very draining and disturbing. For my part, I should have handled it better. I admit that. I am on edge due to other things including ofcourse throwing $3500 in the toilet. In light of that, your effort to be more pleasant would be appreciated. Instead, offending people who paid $100 a ticket to see a show w/ loud conversation is what I get. Yes, Eva was the primary source of the problem. However, you should have shut her down and told her you prefer to pick up the conversation at the intermission or after the show. The people around us deserved better as did I. That behavior is annoying at a movie, much less when tickets are that pricey. You can continue to resist accepting any blame if that is your preference. Even though the people next to us moved tables for precisely that reason, you were more interested in revving up a beligerent attitude w/ me than showing any humility or empathy that your behavior had impacted their enjoyment of the show. You were loud and didn't seem to be inclined to stop. It was obviously annoying to everyone at the table and extremely embarrassing for me to have to sit there hoping your manners would kick in; knowing Eva's most likely wouldn't. You typically have much better decorum than that. Have my friends embarrassed you; most likely, but not when you paid $200 to bring us to the event. Your excuses were wack and only pissed me off more. The show went to shit for me after that for the most part and then your phone is in your truck after all?? I'll just call the night man teets.
I'm not in the mood to hang out w/ you this weekend. Maybe we'll be inclined to talk sunday or next week. Have a safe weekend. Love,_____
Any input would be appreciated.
Thanks a lot.
