I totally hate when I hear women justifying men cheating by saying ignant ish like..."A man is going to be a man. All men cheat. Real women know this."
When I hear that I feel SO.DAMN.SORRY for the poor woman saying it because it's obvious she's convinced herself this is the norm for all so she doesn't have to focus on what SHE'S doing wrong in her relationships if every man she's been with cheated on her. And no...I'm not saying it's her fault he cheated but it IS her fault that she didn't recognize signs early on which would have given her an indication that this dude doesn't want the same things she wants out of a relationship.
I mean...it's a CHOICE right? You can CHOOSE if you will accept this kind of behavior or not right? And...if you accept men cheating as a part of the reality YOU have to put up with...sure...it will always make you a real woman (cuz ya azz ain't a fake woman...o_0) just as it makes me "keeping it real" in my world when I know good and damn well I will NOT be dealing with some ish like that.
Trust me...if my husband cheats on me it's going to go DOWN-T! It will take a mad minute before we could work that shit out. Yes...I'd probably agree to going to counseling, etc. in order to see if we can work past it...but I know me...and I know that shit won't be easy.
I KNOW ME...AND I KNOW THAT SHIT WON'T BE EASY cuz in my world...my expectations are that he'd be FAITHFUL to our vows. I am NOT going to be over here convincing myself he's probably going to cheat in order to lessen the damn blow if he does. When you believe that way...you have no idea how many silent signals you're giving out that you'd put up with that shit. It starts with PRETENDING to turn a blind eye on little things. I say pretending cuz you know damn good and well you saw that ish and you CHOSE to ignore it just as I would CHOOSE to swinging a damn 9 iron in this camp.
SIP: "I luvs Harpo...God knows I do..."
