VIDEO IS NSFW!
When dating it's important to know what's important. As you're sitting in your home, look around you and check out your surroundings. Then...I want you to think about how many of the things around you were paid for by great sans ropas. Now...I'm not clueless so I do know that some gifts are agreed upon at the moment of um...erra...ENJOYMENT during certain grown folks games, but there aren't many of us who can say they make a living out of getting their freak on. Some folks do...yes...but not most.
And not for everything.
Sure, there are people who do it sporadically and yes...the end result is the same no matter if you're a Federal employee, a clerk at Sears or a vice-principal. If you broke someone off with the intent of getting them to do something for or buy something for you...yeah...you kinda labeled yourself.
So keep that ish TO yourself okay? No need in folks knowing your M.O.D. to get that new Hermes bag or those limited edition red bottoms. And yes...if you're privately tricking for Coach and Nine West shoes...Imma need you to step your game up. If you're gonna do it...DAMMIT.DO IT! LOL!
Seriously.
BUT I DIGRESS!
I'm a realist and I've always been very conscious that money rules the world. Money can make things a whole lot easier and with the type of freedom one has by not worrying about how their basic living expenses are paid, you have so much more opportunity to explore other ways to make you happy. Traveling, furnishing your home, buying a nice home, driving a nice vehicle, eating the right foods, etc. So...when you're choosing a mate, their financial stability should be something you are seriously considering.
BECAUSE AGAIN...MONEY RULES THE WORLD.
Now...I'm not talking about going out and finding you a baller cuz seriously...that will only happen for 1%. I'm talking about for the rest of us. The 99%.
We gotta pay bills in order to live cuz ain't shit for free. You canNOT go to a bank and use good sans ropas as collateral. And you DAMN sure can't wake up from good sans ropas and find that your mortgage has been paid. It doesn't work like that if you're not checking for it to work like that.
This all came about as I was in a conversation with some young ladies who were discussing relationships. Granted, they were much younger than me and I was sitting there in awe of what they thought was important. Young women discussing how they had to loan...no GIVE, their man some money to pay this, that or the other and getting sick of it but not being able to let him go because he puts it down in the sack. Um...DA HELL? So, he's your prostitute? He comes over and gets that Eddie Murphy sound outta you and then you break him off some cash?
LIL.GIRL.PLEASE.
So...tell me what happens when YOU are in need and the only thing your pseudo man is good for is OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOH BABY YES! YES! YES! Seriously? How are you going to feel if you need to ask HIM for some help to pay X,Y or Z and he straight up ain't got it? Are you going to feel slighted? Upset? Hurt?
USED?
Or are you going to finally start being real with yourself and tell yourself that you're not presenting yourself with the type of options it takes in order to have a financially stress-free existence and live with some modicum of security?
Now, don't get me wrong, we all end up going through some financial something or the other whether we have responsible partners or not but if dude is CONSISTENTLY irresponsible or in need his damn self...he probably shouldn't be considered a suitable person to date UNLESS YOU CAN AFFORD FOR HIM TO NOT CONTRIBUTE AT ALL.
One young lady shared that her guy had three children. A 10 year old, and 8 year old and a 4 year old. Dude sounded like regular dude. Not balling dude. I thought about how expensive living is and I have a pretty good idea how much things cost for kids and now this dude has three kids to take care of, help educate, clothe, fee, entertain, etc. AND...the youngest is only FOUR? So he has 14 more years to go being straight up legally obligated to care for them and then...if he's a good dude...he's gonna have to help figure out educating these children after high school too so yeah...he's pretty much sewn up for funds unless he's on the path to balling status.
Or he wins the lottery.
And he has more of a chance to win the lottery.
When she told me what he did do for a living? I stopped talking. Seriously. Cuz dude can't afford a Dasani water right about now.
Being poor SUCKS. For real poor. No options poor. Everything you do should be driven by not being for real no options poor.
And that includes dating. Dating someone you KNOW has limp pockets and no drive is going to set you up for PURSUIT OF HAPPYNESS-ISM. Seriously. Dude has to have SOMETHING you can build on. You can't build on OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOH! YES! YES! YES! at the damn bank.
Oh...and truth be told...sans ropas is MUCH better when you're not worried about rent.
Was I too confusing? Or did you feel your Cool Aunt...T-Monnie?
Leave that ish to comedy cuz ain't ish funny about it in real life.
