I was talking to someone about dating and sharing that the most important part...IN MY OPINION...is taking your time to get to know the person just dating without trying to force anything. No jumping right into a relationship cuz you're single and they're single. See...I feel like you need to give the crazy pebbles a chance to surface so you know exactly what you're dealing with.
And then...it got kinda gray because I couldn't really explain exactly what I was trying to say.
See...you know I believe that God sends you pebbles before He hits you with a brick.
Crazy pebbles too.
The thing about crazy pebbles that's most important is how YOU are able to deal with them.
So I used a for example...
Say for instance you're dating someone and they tell you they HATE Thanksgiving.
Now...your first instinct will be to side eye the hell out of them I'm sure. (Or it should be.) That's like a crazy pebble you know. Who hates Thanksgiving????? Now...you should ask why and the WHY should determine if this is the type of crazy pebble you can understand.
Crazy Pebble Thrower: I hate Thanksgiving because that's the day my Grandmother, whom I adored, died.
PERFECTLY UNDERSTANDABLE!!!!!!!!!!!!!
(In Sinclair Voice) Whoooowhoooowhooooooo...
Crazy Pebble Thrower: I hate Thanksgiving because I don't like the way that thingy swings under the turkey's neck and turkeys are EVERYWHERE!!!!!!!!!
(In Scooby Doo's Voice) AAAAAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRROOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO???????????
See...that's a gateway to some crazy shit right there. Seriously. When you're in bed one night and they get up, drop to their knees and start howling at the moon shining through the window...you ain't gonna have nobody to be mad at but yourself.
The point is...when you take your time to get to know someone before you invest too much of your heart...it just makes things evolve organically. You note the crazy pebbles and determine if they are things you are able to deal with or are dealbreakers for you.
Grown, responsible folks who consider their future IMPORTANT...date.
Crazy people hook up quickly cuz they're desperate and lonely and will settle for any.old.thing just to say they have someone.
Oh...and before someone pops in saying they met and married their love in 6 hours and they're still happily married 92 years later...yeah...we know. Sometimes it works.
Most times it doesn't.
Take your time young man. Mama used to say. Don't you rush to get old. Mama used to say. Live your life!
